To think it was not an overreaction to call the police?

There’s no reason to call 101, 999 was appropriate as it was happening there and then and had he left they would’ve struggled to prove who was the driver etc if they ever found him. If they operator had thought it wasn’t appropriate use of 999 they would’ve told you and you don’t need people on Mumsnet to validate that. It’s not an over reaction in my eyes, he’s run over a child’s foot and didn’t seem to find it a problem so I’d say he’s pretty lucky you kept your cool

I think you did the right thing. Hope you’re wee one is ok

If the police deemed it an non emergency they would definitely not have attended immediately.

Actually, having thought about it, I’d probably have given him the biggest mouthful he’s ever heard at the loudest volume I could manage.

If he'd driven off and refused his details and not reported the 'accident' to the police within 24 hrs it is an offence. (I'm ex.police).
Due to the pesence of a mv on a road an accident occurred . Ok a bit of over reaction by you to call 999 but also understandable.
Did u then swap ur details with the police?
I hope your daughter is OK. It is a reportable offence and you can claim .

Knowing the police’s complete disregard for distraught mothers, they probably told him just to be more careful in future and that she was overreacting.
I don’t think you were, I’d have done the same.

OP - I think you were quite right. I would have done exactly the same!

Screw the police being overwhelmed - I’m a law abiding, tax paying citizen, I’ll phone 999 if I feel I need to.

I can understand you calling 999 if he did it on purpose but it seems like an accident to me.

Except there was a possibility of a crime in progress that risked others.

Someone hitting a child then refusing to give details raises the question of whether that person is fit to drive. If the OP had not "made a fuss" and the driver had then driven off, ploughing into a family because they were not fit to drive no doubt everyone would be saying why didn't she call it in.

Accidents happen. When they do, details need to be exchanged. When people refuse to exchange details, this indicates that they have something to hide. Even more so when a child has been hurt as most people would be absolutely mortified, concerned for the child and apologetic. His actions escalated the matter. It's weird that people are telling OP she overreacted when it's clear his reaction was not appropriate.

It was a narrow gap between the cars so why didn’t you assist your DD getting into the car given how close it was? I do this with my kids in case they knock other cars with the door. Huge overreaction when compared to actual emergencies those police could have attended. Surprised you weren’t done for time wasting.

You were not wrong. Her injury might be more intense than you realize. Bones in the foot are fragile.

I agree with your husband that it was an overreaction to call 999 as you had already assessed it wasn't a serious injury. It doesn't sound like he actually ran over her foot but it was definitely careless driving. I wouldn't have asked for the man's details either but I would have alerted him to what he had actually done because he obviously didn't check properly that it was clear

Can you tell us what the police do in this situation?

If you hit a dog you have to report it so I can't understand why the driver argued with you when he came 8 to contact with a child.
Your daughter and the driver were genuinely lucky but it is best to report it.
My father's car was hit in a car park recently and he could only see a scuffed number plate so assured the driver it was ok.He's now realised his sensors are damaged and the car bonnet won't open. Human bodies are much more vulnerable and your daughter could easily have serious bruising.

I wouldn’t have let her get in on her own in those circs but held the door open or let her get in from the other side. If someone is in the driver’s seat of a car you never know when they are suddenly going to move. (I’m often baffled why people walk behind parked cars with engine running and reversing light on in supermarket car parks.)

I think anybody who says he hasnt done anything wrong is a real nob.You know the type. There is only me on the plsnet and l can do whatever l want,whenever l want. Especially as a man.

This phrase has now become the favourite reply from people like him. .A mantra. l hate it.

As for your daughtyers minor injuries.

How were you to know that she hadnt torn a ligament or cracked a bone?

How about him.driving without due care and attention? Mt Police Man,?

I bet if you had accidentally scratched his car. He would have gone ApeShit.

You did the right thing by calling police.
l would have done the same.

Hope your daughter is now OK and geting over the upset.

Regards
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I would wonder at your DH's commitment to his kid in a situation like this.

DH is job. He says you were right to call 999.

He might not have realised he'd run over your daughter's foot. Did you not tell him what he'd done? Tbf, you probably weren't thinking clearly and his attitude didn't help. I'd have done the same as you. I hope dd is OK.

I would have done the same. If the despatcher didn't think it was a urgent matter then they wouldn't have sent the police. When my mam rang 999 when my grandad fell and broke he's hip the despatcher didn't put it down as an emergency so it took 8 hours and a few more phone calls. I think they have an option to choose if it's a emergency or not.
I bet he was too busy talking to his girlfriend and didn't bother to look in he's mirrors. It could have been much worse, he could have hit your car door and jammed your daughter. Still I'd get an your daughter an x-ray done. There's loads of small bones in the feet and if one is broken it could lead to problems later on in life. (It's happend to me)

Agreed and btw, I have no clue what the none emergency police number is. I’d have dialled 999 too.

I’m astonished at the contrarians on here. Hopefully the later posters haven’t read any of the thread, not even the last few posts, as it’s clear this was in fact a crime in progress, the DD’s injuries weren’t clear, and the driver was trying to leave the scene without leaving his details.

999 isn’t just for lives at risk. It’s for crimes in progress. I’ve ring it when the house on the end of my street was being burgled.

Yes you overreacted. It was an accident
If he had been all apologetic and gave his details I doubt you would have called them.
You literally called the police cause a man was being rude.

I am a police officer.
If that happened to me and my child in that scenario I would call 999 without hesitation. That is what the police are for.
I hope your child is on the mend and isn't traumatised.

Honestly you weren't wrong to call the police given his oblivious attitude and obnoxious response.

Yes your DH should have walked your dd to the car and ensured she was safely in but that doesn't excuse someone causing an injury of any degree with their car.

And your DH needs to behave. What he has shown his child is that it is ok if she gets hurt as long as no one makes a fuss. Great lesson (not)!