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To think it was not an overreaction to call the police?

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hottubwhocares · 26/04/2025 17:12

We were out today at a family event. We were parked up in the car park of the venue and were getting in our cars to travel home. There was a man parked next to us in the (relatively narrow) bays, window down, chatting to his girlfriend. He was there when we came out and approached our car.

DD age 8 was getting into the back passenger side of our car, so on the same side as his car. I was on the other/driver’s side. As I was getting in, I heard DD start to scream. Basically the man next to us had started to move his car forward and his back wheel had run over the back of her ankle/foot.

I immediately ran round the back of the car, picked her up, helped her into the back seat and took her shoe and sock off to have a look. The top layer of skin had come off and it looked bruised so I went round to his car, said sorry, I think you have hurt her so I am going to need your details.

He and his girlfriend then said ‘Why? I haven’t done anything wrong’. I asked if he was refusing and he said he ‘didn’t even know what happened’ and started mouthing off.

So, I called 999 and of course the second he heard I was on the phone to the police, he started offering his details.

Two police cars then attended. DH is furious with me and says I completely overreacted as DD’s injury was minor (scrapes and bruises) and I ‘see the worst in everyone’. I am very upset about his lack of support when our child was hurt and upset.

FWIW I would never move my own car when a child was down the side and if I had ever done anything like this I certainly wouldn’t be mouthing off at the parent of the injured child!

So, was it an overreaction to call the police?

OP posts:
ApolloandDaphne · 26/04/2025 21:23

Honestly people on here are a bit holier than thou about calling 999. You were absolutely in the right. You needed prompt police response and you got it.

WhenWillItAllGetBetter · 26/04/2025 21:22

What a weird thread, a child was run over but everyone’s falling over themselves to say it’s not a police mater 😳

Zebracat · 26/04/2025 21:21

I think you were absolutely brilliant. You protected your child without escalating the situation. The other driver either failed to check it was safe to proceed or recklessly endangered a child. I hope she makes a full recovery. Hero Mum!

AliBaliBee1234 · 26/04/2025 21:18

In Scotland we have a line for more minor police issues and i don't think it was a 999 emergency tbh. Take his plate down...

Did she need to go to hospital etc?

Sleepalldaylong · 26/04/2025 21:14

Gustavo77 · 26/04/2025 21:11

A complete overreaction. You can't assuage your own guilt at not looking after your daughter properly by blaming someone else. It's more than possible that he didn't see or hear her, it's not something he would have done deliberately.
Well done on making a mountain out of a molehill and making the whole thing significantly worse and more traumatic for your daughter

Agreed

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 21:14

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 21:09

it Is nothing to do with the original point. You replied to the person above you’s comment

I did. But I’m not a mind reader. If you’re now trying to pick me up on something else, at least quote what you’re trying to pick me up on. If you only quote our exchange, how am I meant to know you’re referring to something else??

rrrrrreatt · 26/04/2025 21:13

I think you did the right thing calling 999. The police must have too because they attended quickly which is pretty rare these days!

He committed a crime and the fact he said he didn’t see your daughter is concerning. He could have been lying but, if he was telling truth, it could be due to being unfit to drive due to drink or drugs. Not sharing his details is suspicious too; he could have been uninsured, driving a stolen vehicle or without the owners permission.

You’re not qualified to assess any of those risks - the police are. If he’d left the car park without any intervention, he could have done more serious harm to someone else.

Gustavo77 · 26/04/2025 21:11

A complete overreaction. You can't assuage your own guilt at not looking after your daughter properly by blaming someone else. It's more than possible that he didn't see or hear her, it's not something he would have done deliberately.
Well done on making a mountain out of a molehill and making the whole thing significantly worse and more traumatic for your daughter

dogcatkitten · 26/04/2025 21:10

I think 999 was correct if he was being aggressive and had already injured your child. Had he been totally apologetic then no.

latelydaydreams · 26/04/2025 21:09

So, it’s a road traffic offence.

Leaving the scene of an accident when someone is injured without giving details ( regardless of the type of injury) is an offence.

Now from a police point of view. What would be someone’s motivation for deciding to leave the scene of an accident without providing details.

MOST people who thought they had injured a child would be mortified, and want to do anything they could to help/mitigate.

Driver’s reaction therefore is off….. and WHY might that be? No insurance, not qualified to drive? Under the influence? Something else?
If you’re not bothered about the law in one area then there is a fair chance there are other bits of the law you’re equally unfussed about.

So, regardless of the ‘seriousness’ of the injury, calling 999 was exactly appropriate.

johnd2 · 26/04/2025 21:09

The way this thread has gone is wild and not in a good way!

From https://www.gov.uk/contact-police

"Call 999 if you are reporting a crime that is in progress or if someone is in immediate danger."

Given you had reasonable suspicion that a crime was in progress and the offender was nearby, plus it involved an injury, I think you were within the spirit even if not the letter of the guidelines to call them. And even if not, you're hardly going to be top of the misuse and abuse list.

Contact the police

Contact the police by calling 999 to report emergencies or by calling 101 for non-emergencies

https://www.gov.uk/contact-police

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 21:09

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 21:06

But that’s not what your original point was. You originally implied I was ‘saying the severity of the injury is important rather than the offence’. At least be consistent!

it Is nothing to do with the original point. You replied to the person above you’s comment

Orangemintcream · 26/04/2025 21:08

I think a lot of people think 999 is only for emergencies. This isn’t true - it is also for when a crime is in progress or has just been committed.

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 21:06

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 21:03

That people can get run over and not get fractures

But that’s not what your original point was. You originally implied I was ‘saying the severity of the injury is important rather than the offence’. At least be consistent!

peachesarenom · 26/04/2025 21:06

I hope your daughter is ok x

C36M · 26/04/2025 21:06

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 20:30

What does helping an 8 year old into the car entail? Do people honestly still carry their children into the car at age 8 and strap them in?

there is no evidence to suggest that had the OP been standing with her daughter there would have been a different outcome. He drove without checking his surroundings. What could the OP have done to prevent him driving over her heel if he just started driving without warning

I thought it was common sense to help a child into a car if there are other cars near the car? To prevent the child being hurt and to prevent the child damaging anyone else’s car other cars with their car door. If a parent was stood behind her, the parent’s foot would be scratched, not the child’s. The other driver would have seen an adult more than they would see a child too

Nevermindthebuzzard · 26/04/2025 21:04

He tried to leave the scene of an accident where a child was hurt, so you did the right thing.

nomas · 26/04/2025 21:03

kierenthecommunity · 26/04/2025 20:47

Why wasn’t the man paying attention?

Blaming it on a random is cold comfort when it’s your child that’s hurt.

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 21:03

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 21:00

Yes. Your point being…?

That people can get run over and not get fractures

nomas · 26/04/2025 21:03

Eggtoastie · 26/04/2025 20:29

8 year old don't generally get helped into cars.

It’s not helping them into the car, it’s to avoid them getting hurt by nearby cars.

I’ve seen grown adults nearly hit by parked cars moving off, an 8yo child is even more vulnerable.

BullintheHeather · 26/04/2025 21:01

I don’t think it would have occurred to me to ring 999 in this situation.
I’d have checked her foot to see she could bear weight on it etc
Once I knew it wasn’t badly injured, I’d have probably said it to the guy but if he reacted the way you said, I would have just taken down his reg and reported it after I’d got my daughter’s foot looked at to be sure it wasn’t more than bruising.
You were in the situation though and had your reaction. You didn’t get in trouble with the police or anything so what does it matter?
I've seen people confront drivers before where they have turned very nasty even though they were in the wrong. I wouldn’t insist on trying to get their info etc if they are aggressive, just get the fuck out of there and call police afterwards for your own safety.
Theres something about this seems off though. You called emergency police to report a driver had run over your child’s foot and then got aggressive and they came and questioned the driver but just let you leave? Did they do anything to ascertain whether your dd was injured or not? Did they let you know the outcome afterwards? It didn’t seem like your husband was there at first but he was…what did he do/ say the whole time while you were helping your daughter/ confronting the driver/ calling the police? Did you get your dd seen to to make sure she’s not injured worse than you thought?

C36M · 26/04/2025 21:01

Eggtoastie · 26/04/2025 20:29

8 year old don't generally get helped into cars.

They should when there are other cars around. To keep them safe and to prevent them damaging anyone else’s car with the car door. Surely that’s common sense?

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 21:00

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 20:59

No you were agreeing that if she had been run over she would have had fractures

Yes. Your point being…?

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 20:59

BetterWithPockets · 26/04/2025 20:57

I’m agreeing with a PP who said the DD’s foot wasn’t run over. Nowhere have I commented on anything other than that — but don’t let that stop you!

No you were agreeing that if she had been run over she would have had fractures

Picklelily99 · 26/04/2025 20:59

Motheroffive999 · 26/04/2025 19:30

If you had not phoned the police then he would have got away with it.
He could have been drinking or used drugs
He could have seriously hurt your daughter or someone else.
Your husband could have been furious that you hadn't taken care of his daughter had you not phoned them.
Your daughter could have had a serious injury and they could have both blamed you .
I think you did the right thing, be proud.
Your husband was not in that situation so he cannot judge.

Ah, I see the bigger picture now! He most likely WAS on drugs, off his face on ket, most likely in a STOLEN car, with NO insurance, tax, or mot, deliberately trawling family events just looking for small children to ram into, at speed! Bet he's not even from this country. Lock the bugger up! ... have a word

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