For ending an exhausting friendship?

Actually I disagree with everyone else’s opinion. You have read her her message & decided not to reply, now you’re pissed off with her for calling you out. Actually if you were a good friend it wouldn’t have taken 2 mins to send I’m up to eyeballs txt will call later. So no I don’t agree with you.

I don’t have half the responsibility that you have and often take hours/days to send a more thoughtful reply unless it’s just a quick text e.g about logistics of a meet up..All of my friends are the same and respect we all have our own lives. She needs to get a grip and stop trying to monopolise your time.

Hell no. A person that needy will never be able to manage an adult friendship properly. She doesn't own you, you don't "owe" her any kind of response in any timeline whatsoever and passive ggressive social media posts are the worst kind of childish melodrama and manipulation.

I'm not a fan of flouncers and blockers but I'd run for the hills with this one. She sounds either very fragile and vulnerable or incredibly selfish and you don't need either.

Even when i was childless and NY friends were married with 1 - 4 kids each I 100% understood and there would be days - weeks eithout contwct and never ever complained.

She is no real friend. 1 of my BFFS who has 4 kids 1 with autisim I always say no rush I appreciate your reaponse and know you wre tied up. If she geta bwck to me the same day I am hella appreciative. If it takes 10days that is also fine. Now I am a mother of 2 it get into the swme situwtions of soemtimea having the time to respond within hours to taking 2 weeks! Esepcially with illness snd teething etc etc.

She isn't empathetic wnd I would give her the opportunity to understand what she is doing is cruel and unfriendly of her. Her reaponse will be telling

It’s about expectations though. Yes, it takes seconds. Then it’ll only take seconds for the other woman to respond, then ‘it’s only a few seconds’ to reply etc etc.

I wouldn't have time for this passive-aggressive malarkey and I'm nowhere near as busy as you. Answering one text is all well and good, but when the timing's all off and you get another, it can turn into a prolonged exchange back and forth, at a time when you've got loads of things piling up. Most of us have been there and it can turn into one more chore or obligation on an already full plate. If your friend doesn't understand that your life isn't in lockstep with hers, it may be time for a parting of the ways.

Just set explicit boundaries that suit you - i don't know, tell her that you will only be answering messages on a Saturday or something.

I get that people need different levels of interaction from their friendships and sometimes there are incompatibilities but passive aggressive social media is never going to make anything better.

It sounds like she's already made the decision for you. I'd just leave it.

Put your own story up saying "people who post passive aggressive shit about you, knowing full well that you'll read it and know it's about you, are fucking losers". Then never reply to her message and let her fume about it. You obviously need to bin her off but you may as well have some fun with it before you move on.

A brief text takes seconds

As a parent of an autistic child myself , please step back from this friendship , it isn’t going to work .

Have you ended the friendship? I would just be blocking her, something i don't say lightly. She has no empathy for your circumstances, and those pass agg SM status would be the last straw, especially if a regular occurrence. I have siblings whose lives are much, much busier than mine, and aren't always be on their phones

Just get rid
What on earth is there to ask about

It sounds like the two of you don't work well together so maybe it's best to move on.

She's not a good friend to you, I'd step back in your shoes.