I’m actually not sure if I am being unreasonable and probably need to be told to just get up!
I work very long hours Mon-Fri (get up 5am, arrive home 6 normally but this week is was 8.30 for two nights running). DH also works full time but he works from home, with breaks and an hour lunch everyday during which he goes to the gym. He takes our two DC to primary school, walks the dog, puts loads of washing in around his day so he does help a lot at home too. When I am home, which is weekend and all of the holidays (I work in education), I do everything. Overall he will end up doing more of the house stuff but I am the higher earner by a lot too. Sundays I get up early with the DC, make pancakes and do their homework etc while DH sleeps in.
Anyway, on a Saturday morning I ask for a lie in and I’m meaning until 9am ideally. Every single Saturday DH gets up with DC at 7, does breakfast and goes to the gym. They then immediately run up and jump on me to get up, so I have to. Then DH comes home at 9am and says he told them not to wake me up. But they do. He told me to tell them to go and watch TV and keep sleeping but they’re 67 and 9 and will NOT stop talking at me, asking things, bringing me things… I can’t.
DH says he feels suffocated by my working hours (I understand) and he wants his time. I completely understand that and don’t mind him too no to the gym but he won’t go later in the day. 9-1 we are both wrangling sports clubs with the kids and he doesn’t want to train after lunch.
ive told him to do the sports clubs himself this morning as I am so tired and due on my period, feels awwwwful. I’ve had a long bath alone and will go and make lunch for everyone now to rejoin.
Tell me honestly, am I being unreasonable in expecting to sleep in on a Saturday?