Date last night - he’s only just left!!

Well I’m not a man and I can see quite clearly that she’d like a relationship with him given half a chance. Describing him as a ‘lovely man’ and being excited about him enough to post about him on an online forum are kind of giveaways. You get the very odd exemption that people always throw in on these types of posts but the vast, vast majority of men will not date ( in any meaningful way anyway) women who have sex with on the first meet. Anecdotal stories of those kind don’t tend to appear for obvious reasons.
I also agree with other posters that you have to really consider your children’s safety. I met a guy on OLD years ago before dh. I was a single mum. He was very hard to get rid of and there was some scary moments. Even 8 years later a local sports group my daughter attends posted a pic of her and he liked it even though he doesn’t live in the area at all. Rattled me. You really have to hold yourself to higher safety standards when you have kids than you perhaps would if you were just thinking of yourself.

Well I’m not a man and I can see quite clearly that she’d like a relationship with him given half a chance. Describing him as a ‘lovely man’ and being excited about him enough to post about him on an online forum are kind of giveaways. You get the very odd exemption that people always throw in on these types of posts but the vast, vast majority of men will not date ( in any meaningful way anyway) women who have sex with on the first meet. Anecdotal stories of those kind don’t tend to appear for obvious reasons.
I also agree with other posters that you have to really consider your children’s safety. I met a guy on OLD years ago before dh. I was a single mum. He was very hard to get rid of and there was some scary moments. Even 8 years later a local sports group my daughter attends posted a pic of her and he liked it even though he doesn’t live in the area at all. Rattled me. You really have to hold yourself to higher safety standards when you have kids than you perhaps would if you were just thinking of yourself.

Well I’m not a man and I can see quite clearly that she’d like a relationship with him given half a chance. Describing him as a ‘lovely man’ and being excited about him enough to post about him on an online forum are kind of giveaways. You get the very odd exemption that people always throw in on these types of posts but the vast, vast majority of men will not date ( in any meaningful way anyway) women who have sex with on the first meet. Anecdotal stories of those kind don’t tend to appear for obvious reasons.
I also agree with other posters that you have to really consider your children’s safety. I met a guy on OLD years ago before dh. I was a single mum. He was very hard to get rid of and there was some scary moments. Even 8 years later a local sports group my daughter attends posted a pic of her and he liked it even though he doesn’t live in the area at all. Rattled me. You really have to hold yourself to higher safety standards when you have kids than you perhaps would if you were just thinking of yourself.

I have now, thanks. And again, I hope she is someone who genuinely is able to easily bounce back if rejected, after a night of sex with someone who she is openly hoping to have another date with - as she said much earlier in the thread when asked if there will be another one: “He texted before to thank me for a fun night. Hopefully I will see him again soon.”

I have now, thanks. And again, I hope she is someone who genuinely is able to easily bounce back if rejected, after a night of sex with someone who she is openly hoping to have another date with - as she said much earlier in the thread when asked if there will be another one: “He texted before to thank me for a fun night. Hopefully I will see him again soon.”

Read her update.

Morning everyone! So many replies to wake up to! Honestly, if past form is anything to go by then all you lovely people suddenly interested in my sex life are going to be extremely bored going forward!

It’s so lovely to hear about the ‘first date shags that turned into marriages’ stories. Good on you all! My friend is similar. Was in bed with her now-husband within about an hour of meeting him.

I have zero long term thoughts about this guy. I’ve known him for no time at all, and whilst he seems nice and was half of a fun evening, if we never saw each other again then fair enough.

The post about me being ‘an emotional wreck’ if we didn‘t see each other again made me laugh. God, I wouldn’t care! Apparently there are some other men in the world 🤷‍♀️? I think I saw one once but I’m not sure. And there’s even this thing called ‘being happily single and not actually requiring a man’.

There’s no ‘false sense of intimacy’ like someone said. I’m aware that we barely know each other.

For the ‘no sex with strangers’ people - fair enough. But I’d be interested in the boxes you feel need to be ticked before knickers come off! I can judge safety and risk. I don’t need to have taken a three week group holiday to Lourdes with him to let him
see my bum.

And, you know what, Friday night felt amazing. It was fun, disinhibited, and naughty. That’s why I do it and I’m not in the least bit bothered to admit it. Not to make babies, not to please a man, but because it feels good.

@FiremanDan He left cos he knew my kids were coming home, and honestly cos I’d run out of condoms! It was absolutely fine. I didn’t want to spend the day with him, nobody owed anyone lunch, and it was absolutely not a problem. I was grateful really cos I didn’t have to rush and could this avoid appearing in front of the kids looking like I’d spent the previous ten hours shagging.

@NormasArse I couldn’t possibly comment on reciprocity but yes and it was heaven. First time in sooo long.

I still feel a little tender 😳. Is this normal?! I think Friday night was an unprecedentedly busy evening for her and she is still recovering! I will go in the shower shortly and hopefully that’ll help.

You are all marvellous. Even the moaning Maureens.

I haven’t had any relationship angst for a long time. However, I do have single friends who are keen to get into relationships, and I’ve seen this play out quite a few times.

I have one particular friend who often turns up at my house in tears when things don’t progress, despite insisting that she is fine with it just being sex or “friends with benefits” at first.

She certainly isn’t the only one I’d seen it with either, and online dating seems to produce they result quite often. So, if OP was my friend and she seemed this excited, I’d really be urging caution. Perhaps the OP genuinely won’t care if she never hears from the man again and he ignores attempts from her to contact him, only she knows if that is genuinely the case.

Morning everyone! So many replies to wake up to! Honestly, if past form is anything to go by then all you lovely people suddenly interested in my sex life are going to be extremely bored going forward!

It’s so lovely to hear about the ‘first date shags that turned into marriages’ stories. Good on you all! My friend is similar. Was in bed with her now-husband within about an hour of meeting him.

I have zero long term thoughts about this guy. I’ve known him for no time at all, and whilst he seems nice and was half of a fun evening, if we never saw each other again then fair enough.

The post about me being ‘an emotional wreck’ if we didn‘t see each other again made me laugh. God, I wouldn’t care! Apparently there are some other men in the world 🤷‍♀️? I think I saw one once but I’m not sure. And there’s even this thing called ‘being happily single and not actually requiring a man’.

There’s no ‘false sense of intimacy’ like someone said. I’m aware that we barely know each other.

For the ‘no sex with strangers’ people - fair enough. But I’d be interested in the boxes you feel need to be ticked before knickers come off! I can judge safety and risk. I don’t need to have taken a three week group holiday to Lourdes with him to let him
see my bum.

And, you know what, Friday night felt amazing. It was fun, disinhibited, and naughty. That’s why I do it and I’m not in the least bit bothered to admit it. Not to make babies, not to please a man, but because it feels good.

@FiremanDan He left cos he knew my kids were coming home, and honestly cos I’d run out of condoms! It was absolutely fine. I didn’t want to spend the day with him, nobody owed anyone lunch, and it was absolutely not a problem. I was grateful really cos I didn’t have to rush and could this avoid appearing in front of the kids looking like I’d spent the previous ten hours shagging.

@NormasArse I couldn’t possibly comment on reciprocity but yes and it was heaven. First time in sooo long.

I still feel a little tender 😳. Is this normal?! I think Friday night was an unprecedentedly busy evening for her and she is still recovering! I will go in the shower shortly and hopefully that’ll help.

You are all marvellous. Even the moaning Maureens.

No, she very clearly states that she's happy and euphoric because she just had the best night's sex that she's had in 20 years!

It does feel like you are projecting your take on relationship angst onto her situation when it isn't a factor for her.

Yes she does - as she is happy and excited and hoping for another date, so sounds very much as if she cares! I didn’t see that her DC were back at 11am (and did ask if she was the one with something to do) so that makes more sense.

It’s all very well to announce that someone had a great night and didn’t care, but there is a huge difference between seeing something as casual sex compared to seeing it as the start of a relationship… and I’d very much expect a man who was really keen to be suggested spending more of the day together/going out for lunch etc. But if there was a genuine reason that he needed to be out first thing then that makes a difference, which is why I asked.

Yes she does - as she is happy and excited and hoping for another date, so sounds very much as if she cares! I didn’t see that her DC were back at 11am (and did ask if she was the one with something to do) so that makes more sense.

It’s all very well to announce that someone had a great night and didn’t care, but there is a huge difference between seeing something as casual sex compared to seeing it as the start of a relationship… and I’d very much expect a man who was really keen to be suggested spending more of the day together/going out for lunch etc. But if there was a genuine reason that he needed to be out first thing then that makes a difference, which is why I asked.

@Tiredsaturday I had one of these dates a few years ago - I’d had the odd bit of fun here and there since my divorce but I clicked with this one from the first second of date one. Date two involved him visiting my house and, erm, very much proving his worth as a gentleman friend (at one point we were so giddy and giggly and pheromone-drunk that we high fived each other over how great we were in bed together 😂). I wasn’t looking for anything serious but he set a very high bar. That was three years ago.

Off on holiday with him tomorrow, he’s just done the hoovering, cooked dinner with the DC and DSC, and has just now appeared and asked me if i want a cup of tea. So it turned out he was a gem of a human being in addition to his other talents 😜

I wish you the same with your gent, it can happen!

Does OP seem like she cares? No, she doesn’t.

Plus she had something to do - she said her kids were due home at 11. It was 9amish when she posted.

It’s not always about the man.

Was there a reason that he left quite early in the morning, did he have somewhere that he needed to be? To be honest, I’d take it as a pretty bad sign if I had a guy stay the night and he wanted to leave first thing the next day, unless there was actually a good reason for it (or you had to be somewhere at that time)