Neighbour I barely know approached DH to imply that I'm cheating

Nosy neighbour and twat DH.

Did you not tell your DH that you were going to x house to pick up a tablet from John Doe so if anything bad happened he knew where you were?

I have never picked up a Facebook item without telling someone where I was going first...

If you had why did your dh not put 2 and 2 together?

The 21 year old neighbour probably lives on a diet of Andrew Tate. Grim.

I would definitely say something to him on the lines of, "Oh my H told me you were stirring? the fact that I was talking to someone down the street, does not warrant you sticking your nose in. You don't know if I was talking to my Dad, or canvassing for the labour party, or visiting a client, or picking up a purchase. So why don't you mind your own business, after all you're not exactly in a position to shit stir."
& yes I would also dob him in

Sounds quite Tatey. Jumped up little prick

Exactly. Mine would do the same.

I'd say there are serious communication issues in your marriage op if your dh was unable to bring this subject up with you

Definitely report him for the constant weed smoking directly outside the building. The freeholders/lease management company will write to his mother who is presumably the main tenant and they will also inform the owner of the property. If he doesn't stop and other tenants complain repeatedly the owner will have to evict them or risk having their lease revoked, which means losing the property.

If you own your flat then I'd avoid engaging with him personally in case it turns into a long running dispute and you will have to disclose it if you try to sell your apartment and they are still living there.

Just make it your life's work to make things as difficult as possible for him to continue to live there by complaining constantly to the block management company and if you get a chance to get other occupants to do the same then so much the better.

Weird, nosey, socially inept, misogynistic little shit that he is.

I agree that the posters are right that your DH has handled this badly. And you are right to be angry at him and the neighbour.

But I also agree with your husband that you shouldn't confront the neighbour. You are hoping once you he knows you know he'll skulk off and stop being nosy and talking to your DH. Honestly, I doubt that will be the case. If he really is a Tate wannabe, do you think he will take kindly to being confronted by a woman. Might make him think you do have something to hide. You already know he's a bit of a weirdo/stoner with too much time on his hands. What if he uses it to cause more trouble or could actually be dangerous. I just can't see that, other than making you feel better, there would be any benefit to confronting him and it might well end up making living there worse.

Dh would have just laughed and been, “okay, thanks for letting me know” and then told me because it’s hilarious. But then again, he knows I definitely don’t like people enough to be having an affair. 😂

Down to your DH now. You have given him a reason for the conversation with this other man, not that you needed to but in the circumstances your DH deserved and explanation. You have cleared up that your DH needs to communicate with you quicker rather than letting something fester. This is his only mistake really so far. Its not his fault the neighbour is full of shit.

Finally its now down to the strength of your relationship and your DH to be able to just let it go and if it happens again to tell the neighbour & the son to go fuck themselves and stop spreading idle gossip about his partner as he 100% trusts you.

Dont give them a seconds more thought.

oh thats bollocks! I experienced something similar and my husband came flying is saying "You will NEVER guess what some idiot has just said to me" and made clear that he had handed the person their arse on a platter.

What horrible men - both of them.

Quite shocking that a 21 year old has such misogynistic views.

Also quite shocking your husband didn’t give him an ear full; explain it’s 2025 and women are allowed to be seen in conversation with a man unchaperoned. He should have then come straight home with a funny story to you.

if men don’t call out this sexist nonsense we are in trouble.

Perhaps knock on his door and say to his mum, I just thought Id let you know, I've seen your son smoking weed. Thought I'd best let you know.

Despite the justified rage i'd feel, i'd let it slide. He's clearly high and whacking off to the Tate brothers, and anything you do will just further entrench that view. That kind of stoner is the type to sneak about scratching cars, messing with post, being a trouble causing sneak. Remember, he's special because he's escaped the matrix, so unlikely to have a law abiding social conscience. Who needs the hassle? The plod might go round if you say you can smell pot, but even if he's growning, they won't care unless it's a flat full. If this happened to me, the kid would get a "dont speak about my wife again", without further elaboration, given the conversation was between them! Every now and then these sad little creeps are going to leak out of mummy's basement, and onto the street.

I have no idea what might motivate the OP's husband to behave the way he has done. I'm asking questions in the same way you have done because his behaviour is odd.

Pointing out that OP only has her husband's word that the conversation with the neighbour took place after he has behaved strangely is reasonable. To then wonder why he might lie, if it isn't true, seems logical. Some very controlling men do track their partner's movements.

This lad has some sort of paranoia from the weed

I'd just ignore it as he is you neighbour. Your husband should be the one to tell him, he was wrong and what happened.

Report him!

I'd be wondering if the weirdo followed you?
Your husband is being ridiculous and knows it, hence the defensive stance.
I agree with others who have suggested you go to neighbours door and speak to manchild in front of his mum and put him straight.

As for your husband, only you can decide if you want to put up with that level of shite from him 🏵

Well that's a relief at least!

I've got a weirdo neighbour feeding back information on my whereabouts and suggesting I'm having an affair.

He shouldn't but he is & it should just be ignored for the shit it is.

Do you think he might have followed you?

Or are you in a small place that he might just have seen you by chance?

I think your husband is awful for throwing this at you. Surely he knew you were collecting something off fb that day! I often wonder with spouses that throw accusations around that they have guilt over past behaviour or something to hide. I would be more livid with him than the neighbour. He is supposed to love you and know you! The neighbour may be immature but that guy could have been related to you for all he knew! Weird how he saw one interaction and told your dh. I think that says more about the neighbour than you. I wouldn’t be surprised if one of his parents cheated at some point.

Wow the son is a prick. I'd speak to him in front of his Mum about how it's inappropriate for him to be spying on people and maybe he should find a better hobby. Of course, you need to involve his Mum because this kid thinks it's inappropriate for members of the opposite sex to speak to each other and you need to have a chaperone (wtf)!

I'm not sure where to start with the husband. The fact he hasn't apologised and is defending the idiot is wild, especially when he's a known gossip. It hopefully won't be long before the lad has some tale to tell about your husband.

YANBU!! many years ago now, my friend's DH was fixing my car. It sat in their front yard for the weekend while he fixed it.

A few months later, someone came into friend's work & told her she should know her DH was having an affair with me. Neither of us knew them.

My friend & I laughed, but it took a while to work out it was because my car was in their driveway & her neighbour was friend's with DH's ex best mate's parents. DH's mate blamed me for the friendship breakdown (not his switch to JW & constant preaching). I've no idea how they knew it was my car as I'd never met them. Might have seen me there at some later date, I guess.

Some people are just stirrers with no though for consequences. I was lucky in that friend, nor my DH would ever believe it.

I'd definitely have had a word about making lies up & gossiping about people they didn't know, IF I'd ever met them!