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Teacher showing photos to kids of victorian dead children - slightly disturbing

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whyiwonderwhy · 25/04/2025 23:51

I am finding this so disturbing I can't sleep! However I might be being oversensitive, who knows. It is the "but - WHY?" bit which is bothering me most.

The lesson was about the industrial revolution, and the subject of photography came up, 2 of the earliest photos were shown to the class (13-14yo) and then....I wish I could say the teacher showed photos of some of the extraordinary engineering inventions of the day, or of busy streets, or China, or something wonderful and extraordinary...but no, the teacher showed 10 photos of dead children and talked about how the Victorians would photograph dead children as though they were still alive, with the rest of the family, in a commemorative way. I have seen some in the past (I didn't learn about it at school however) and they are moving and tragic and disturbing. Nothing else, just these photos.

Just wondering...why? why would the teacher do this? Any ideas?

This teacher has form by the way. A lot of it. But this has for some reason blindsided me.

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crumblingschools · 26/04/2025 01:04

Do you think this also may have come about partly due to the pope dying and people taking photos and the discussion on that, so showing the differences and similarities to today.

seaelephant · 26/04/2025 01:03

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:55

It isn't this which bothers me, but just to answer, basically they were held up by people behind a curtain, or they were "arranged" as sort of lounging, or they had wooden props holding them up. You can see the devastation on the faces of the members of the family who are alive, it is quite moving, and I am sure the photos intended to be a tribute to love not to be morbid.

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Yeah morticians have debunked this - dead weight isn't something you can 'prop up' from behind a curtain, and cetainly not with a flimsy wooden frame. Adult corpses especially are heavy and unwieldy. Some of them are dead, but only the 'lounging' ones, and more likely children and babies as their bodies are lighter. All fascinating stuff! VIctorian death practises are a big interest of mine

Ruthietuthie · 26/04/2025 00:59

@whyiwonderwhy, it doesn't seem that you have really taken in the many explanations of why this could have been a powerful lens to begin a discussion about all the other things which, in your estimation, were the more "important bits" of this period. Instead, you agree only with people who entirely affirm your opinion. Have you read books like historian (and Harvard President) Drew Faust's This Republic of Suffering, which won a Pulitzer Prize? Or Tom Laqueur's, Helen Fawcett Professor of History at Princeton's book, The Work of the Dead? I don't think you are understanding how powerful this topic is to understand this whole period. And what a compelling way it offers to being a broader discussion.

murasaki · 26/04/2025 00:59

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:55

It isn't this which bothers me, but just to answer, basically they were held up by people behind a curtain, or they were "arranged" as sort of lounging, or they had wooden props holding them up. You can see the devastation on the faces of the members of the family who are alive, it is quite moving, and I am sure the photos intended to be a tribute to love not to be morbid.

Edited

To be fair, i think it has potentially a place in history class, but one on victorian attitudes to death, which is interesting in itself, and not in the industrial revolution class. So I sort of agree with you....

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:58

Azandme · 26/04/2025 00:52

It's all interlinked - you can't teach the Industrial Revolution properly without looking at society at the time, and this is part of it.

Contextualisation is vital to developing the level of understanding required.

And understanding the Victorians is also part of the English GCSE - it's impossible to analyse at 19th century literature effectively without it - including attitudes to death. The subjects interlink. Holistic education.

But hey, teachers clearly have no clue what they are doing, or why. They just chuck in anything they fancy.

Are you saying that you think that studying these specific photos is written into the curriculum?

If so, you may want to double check as I don't think that that is right.

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whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:55

seaelephant · 26/04/2025 00:52

if it makes you feel any better, OP, a lot of the viral victorian 'death photography' examples are actually photos of live people misrepresented as dead. if the person is sat up or stood with no or minimal support, they're undoubtedly alive. a dead body is extremely floppy and requires a great deal of strength to be held up.

It isn't this which bothers me, but just to answer, basically they were held up by people behind a curtain, or they were "arranged" as sort of lounging, or they had wooden props holding them up. You can see the devastation on the faces of the members of the family who are alive, it is quite moving, and I am sure the photos intended to be a tribute to love not to be morbid.

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pikkumyy77 · 26/04/2025 00:55

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 26/04/2025 00:10

Whilst I don't think it's disturbing either as it's completely normal in my Irish culture, I don't think we get to dictate what other people find disturbing.

And how is it rude to find it so?

Thank you! I don’t find either practice odd or disturbing. I was just pointing out that the victorians were no different than modern folk.

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:52

5foot5 · 26/04/2025 00:45

Hmm. I am coming around to your POV.

I originally thought your AIBU was concern about young teens seeing pictures of dead people. But I am now getting the message that you feel the subject is being taught in a way that ignores the important aspects of that period in favour of portraying stranger offshoots.

Thanks!

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Azandme · 26/04/2025 00:52

SD1978 · 26/04/2025 00:43

I don’t see the validity either unless that was the actual subject in the lessons- and the justification from people responding seems weak. The topic was the industrial revolution, not Victorian attitudes to death. It wasn’t about specifically the large mortality rate, but about progress. I also would wonder why this was the sole focus of the lesson within this topic, as it seems whilst it could be a small footnote, the I distracts revolution doesn’t focus on death but progress. I’m sorry OP- you aren’t going to get many agreeing with you.

It's all interlinked - you can't teach the Industrial Revolution properly without looking at society at the time, and this is part of it.

Contextualisation is vital to developing the level of understanding required.

And understanding the Victorians is also part of the English GCSE - it's impossible to analyse at 19th century literature effectively without it - including attitudes to death. The subjects interlink. Holistic education.

But hey, teachers clearly have no clue what they are doing, or why. They just chuck in anything they fancy.

seaelephant · 26/04/2025 00:52

if it makes you feel any better, OP, a lot of the viral victorian 'death photography' examples are actually photos of live people misrepresented as dead. if the person is sat up or stood with no or minimal support, they're undoubtedly alive. a dead body is extremely floppy and requires a great deal of strength to be held up.

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:51

Azandme · 26/04/2025 00:45

And you are better placed to know that than the trained professional who has a history degree, a teaching qualification, and literally does this for a living?

Tell me, op, how would you engage a classroom full of year 9s - and what, exactly, would be the reasoning behind your decision?

I'm a teacher, although now SLT so not teaching. A little shock and awe is FANTASTIC for engagement and I can guarantee they won't forget any of this lesson, of which the photos will only be a small part, with the wider, important context given too. As someone who has taught about the Industrial Revolution I can promise you teens engage far more with the human aspect than the engineering. A good teacher balances both and uses what interests them (and teens are macabre) to support their engagement in the bits that don't.

Thankfully parents don't set the curriculum, or plan lessons - because you clearly don't understand how to capture the attention of 30 teenagers, and keep it.

Your child learnt something today, and was interested enough to tell you about it.

And you think that's wrong. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I, on the other hand, think that teacher has done a great job in piquing their interest in the era with a 😮🤯 moment - which they'll take forward into the rest of the module.

I know it's a bit of a shocker, but teachers generally know what they are doing.

Really saddens me to hear this from a teacher. I studied the industrial revolution at school and at degree level, and I know the teacher and I know the kids and yes I would be able to engage the class without resorting to this sort of weirdness. I know exactly what i am talking about and you really don't. Sorry.

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RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 26/04/2025 00:50

You can’t possibly know what the kids in the class all like/ find interesting. By all means ask the teacher why the photographs were shown, but you clearly already have an agenda with this member of staff anyway so you do need to step back a bit and consider what exactly your concerns are.

Also, consider that if you do make a fuss, your kids might be less likely to talk to you about lesson content in future, in case you kick off.

murasaki · 26/04/2025 00:49

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:44

I think it is recommended to teach the holocaust next year, to 14-15 year olds. But i do agree that it is an important subject.

Yes, we were 14 before that started, along with Stalin and the gulags. That was about the right age.

Quicksilver15 · 26/04/2025 00:49

Did the OP actually attend this lesson? I have no idea how they have elaborated so clearly on what the focus was, maybe actually it’s all the child paid attention to because they were swept away by it!

murasaki · 26/04/2025 00:46

True, and it's an odd thing to show if the class was about the industrial revolution, but not in itself if talking about victoriana. I remember watching Caesusescu's execution on the news with my dad when I was 12, no lasting scars.

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:46

Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/04/2025 00:45

I agree @whyiwonderwhy it's weird.

Thank you!

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whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:45

SD1978 · 26/04/2025 00:43

I don’t see the validity either unless that was the actual subject in the lessons- and the justification from people responding seems weak. The topic was the industrial revolution, not Victorian attitudes to death. It wasn’t about specifically the large mortality rate, but about progress. I also would wonder why this was the sole focus of the lesson within this topic, as it seems whilst it could be a small footnote, the I distracts revolution doesn’t focus on death but progress. I’m sorry OP- you aren’t going to get many agreeing with you.

Thanks for being another voice of reason.

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 26/04/2025 00:45

I agree @whyiwonderwhy it's weird.

Azandme · 26/04/2025 00:45

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:21

It was the 2nd lesson on the topic. From a historical point of view the inclusion and the amount of time spent on it was bizarre. There were a lot of social changes, huge social impact - these photographs are not at all significant in comparision with other aspects of the period and the fact that no other photos were shown about social aspects, just these, is as I said totally bizarre.

And you are better placed to know that than the trained professional who has a history degree, a teaching qualification, and literally does this for a living?

Tell me, op, how would you engage a classroom full of year 9s - and what, exactly, would be the reasoning behind your decision?

I'm a teacher, although now SLT so not teaching. A little shock and awe is FANTASTIC for engagement and I can guarantee they won't forget any of this lesson, of which the photos will only be a small part, with the wider, important context given too. As someone who has taught about the Industrial Revolution I can promise you teens engage far more with the human aspect than the engineering. A good teacher balances both and uses what interests them (and teens are macabre) to support their engagement in the bits that don't.

Thankfully parents don't set the curriculum, or plan lessons - because you clearly don't understand how to capture the attention of 30 teenagers, and keep it.

Your child learnt something today, and was interested enough to tell you about it.

And you think that's wrong. 🤦🏼‍♀️

I, on the other hand, think that teacher has done a great job in piquing their interest in the era with a 😮🤯 moment - which they'll take forward into the rest of the module.

I know it's a bit of a shocker, but teachers generally know what they are doing.

5foot5 · 26/04/2025 00:45

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:29

It is interesting, I agree, but it is not relevant to what the teacher should have been teaching about. There were a lot of more important things which should have come first. And as I said, think about the extraordinary engineering developments of the period - incredible changes - no photographs of the engines, the bridges, the ships. No photographs illustrating the other key changes to society. The changes in buying power, the wealthy whose wealth came from the fact that children women and men were working 12 hour days down mines etc, the rise of the middle classes.

No, none of this. Just ten family photos which included a dead child which they presented as though they were still alive.

Hmm. I am coming around to your POV.

I originally thought your AIBU was concern about young teens seeing pictures of dead people. But I am now getting the message that you feel the subject is being taught in a way that ignores the important aspects of that period in favour of portraying stranger offshoots.

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:44

murasaki · 26/04/2025 00:36

We got holocaust photos in the 90s, no parents complained as their parents had often fought in the war, and we needed to see the horror to understand.

I think it is recommended to teach the holocaust next year, to 14-15 year olds. But i do agree that it is an important subject.

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SD1978 · 26/04/2025 00:43

I don’t see the validity either unless that was the actual subject in the lessons- and the justification from people responding seems weak. The topic was the industrial revolution, not Victorian attitudes to death. It wasn’t about specifically the large mortality rate, but about progress. I also would wonder why this was the sole focus of the lesson within this topic, as it seems whilst it could be a small footnote, the I distracts revolution doesn’t focus on death but progress. I’m sorry OP- you aren’t going to get many agreeing with you.

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:42

murasaki · 26/04/2025 00:41

It is a good idea to engage them with the the real world and not a sanitised version.

context
it is all about context

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whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:42

Cattenberg · 26/04/2025 00:34

I do think it sounds odd in that context. Regarding the Industrial Revolution, we learned about Isambard Kingdom Brunel, the spinning jenny, the terrible working conditions in the mines and cotton mills, outbreaks of killer diseases in city slums and immunisations.

Thank you! I think you might be the only sensible person here!

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CinnamonJellyBeans · 26/04/2025 00:42

How do you know so much about all the kids in your kid's class? You're even more of a busybody than I thought. Do you allow your child some autonomy in her social sphere?