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Teacher showing photos to kids of victorian dead children - slightly disturbing

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whyiwonderwhy · 25/04/2025 23:51

I am finding this so disturbing I can't sleep! However I might be being oversensitive, who knows. It is the "but - WHY?" bit which is bothering me most.

The lesson was about the industrial revolution, and the subject of photography came up, 2 of the earliest photos were shown to the class (13-14yo) and then....I wish I could say the teacher showed photos of some of the extraordinary engineering inventions of the day, or of busy streets, or China, or something wonderful and extraordinary...but no, the teacher showed 10 photos of dead children and talked about how the Victorians would photograph dead children as though they were still alive, with the rest of the family, in a commemorative way. I have seen some in the past (I didn't learn about it at school however) and they are moving and tragic and disturbing. Nothing else, just these photos.

Just wondering...why? why would the teacher do this? Any ideas?

This teacher has form by the way. A lot of it. But this has for some reason blindsided me.

OP posts:
Neemie · 26/04/2025 06:50

I watched a video of penguins rotating in a huddle with my class last week. I can’t remember how it came up and I’m sure it isn’t relevant to anything I’m teaching at the moment. We all found it pretty interesting though.

There is no way they will be teaching the Industrial Revolution without looking at Victorian society in general. I would have found their attitudes towards death very interesting at this age. You clearly found the Industrial Revolution fascinating but others would find other things about the Victorian era interesting.

TeenyTotAndTiny · 26/04/2025 06:48

People are lining the streets to take photos of the deceased pope in his coffin. Just saying!

SuperSange · 26/04/2025 06:39

Jesus Christ. They probably spent five mins looking at the picture with a bit of context around it. Do you usually blindly accept everything your child says as gospel? You know they exaggerate? Your response is completely disproportionate.

Hercisback1 · 26/04/2025 06:33

Part of learning History is evaluating sources to see what we can learn about the time. These photographs could have been a source. Students need to see both the broad base, and the zoom in on a small part of History because both skills are useful.

Kilroyonly · 26/04/2025 06:29

I guarantee they’ve seen worse online. If you’re seriously that affected by such a trivial non issue I would suggest you get them therapy before they ever visit a war museum

merrymelody · 26/04/2025 06:25

Bah! I would have been fascinated by this as a child, not even remotely disturbing.

WonderingWanda · 26/04/2025 06:21

Just to clarify that your thread title 'Teacher showing photos to kids of victorian dead children, slightly disturbing' Isn't actually the problem you have? You began your thread saying it was disturbing to you and then based on posters respo ses seem to have veered more into not covering the actual topic. How recently was this lesson? Could the teacher move on to the inventions in another lesson?

When you say the teacher has form for this do you mean showing "disturbing" images or not covering the curriculum?

If your child has been upset by the images then you should let the teacher know, I would always give children the option to sit out of upsetting content or give them a warning at first. I can imagine that some children might be upset by these photos, especially those who have had a recent berevement or lost a sibling. If it is about curriculum coverage then take a look through you child's book with a copy of the curriculum, figure out what hasn't been covered and then maybe approach the subject lead or head of year with your concerns. Probably best to be really clear about what the issue is so you don't come across as having a grudge.

BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 26/04/2025 06:19

gollyimholly · 26/04/2025 06:14

I remember when we learned about the slave trade in year 8 and the teacher showed us a photo of the people standing to be sold at an auction. And how some had pieces of rope inserted into their bottoms to hide the fact they had dysentry. I couldn't believe any of it. That people could actually be sold, that they were taken from their homes, that they'd had rope in their bottoms. I remember asking the teacher if it was really true... And then went home and vomited and cried. I was massively naive at that age and I can imagine how certain things can make some children respond in a more emotional way than others.

I also remember watching a video of dead baby foetuses following an abortion and the baby making a crying expression in an ultrasound as the abortion began to take place. This was year 10 though so I think I was more resilient but it still makes me feel sad when I think about those images.

Maybe it was seeing the visual evidence but it's all still very vivid in my mind 20+ years later. It might have been the teachers were very good too.. because really, I don't think I remember that much (specific content) from other lessons. That said, I didn't actually like it ie. the strong negative feelings evoked by the imagery. But maybe that's the point too...

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What kind of hellish hard right education was that? A particularly bonkers convent school? Who shows explicit anti-abortion peopaganda footage to teens?

gollyimholly · 26/04/2025 06:14

I remember when we learned about the slave trade in year 8 and the teacher showed us a photo of the people standing to be sold at an auction. And how some had pieces of rope inserted into their bottoms to hide the fact they had dysentry. I couldn't believe any of it. That people could actually be sold, that they were taken from their homes, that they'd had rope in their bottoms. I remember asking the teacher if it was really true... And then went home and vomited and cried. I was massively naive at that age and I can imagine how certain things can make some children respond in a more emotional way than others.

I also remember watching a video of dead baby foetuses following an abortion and the baby making a crying expression in an ultrasound as the abortion began to take place. This was year 10 though so I think I was more resilient but it still makes me feel sad when I think about those images.

Maybe it was seeing the visual evidence but it's all still very vivid in my mind 20+ years later. It might have been the teachers were very good too.. because really, I don't think I remember that much (specific content) from other lessons. That said, I didn't actually like it ie. the strong negative feelings evoked by the imagery. But maybe that's the point too...

forgotmyusername1 · 26/04/2025 06:06

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:51

Really saddens me to hear this from a teacher. I studied the industrial revolution at school and at degree level, and I know the teacher and I know the kids and yes I would be able to engage the class without resorting to this sort of weirdness. I know exactly what i am talking about and you really don't. Sorry.

There are a shortfall of 6500 teachers in the uk. Maybe you should become a history teacher yourself?

aramox1 · 26/04/2025 05:51

I'm more astonished that a y9 kid accurately described a whole lesson to you.

BitOutOfPractice · 26/04/2025 05:22

Just a few thoughts.

I think this would be a really great way to engage kids that age with the subject of infant mortality, public health etc - massive issues as the industrialisation of Britain took off

Also you only have your DC’s version of this. There’s probably more context.

You / they clearly have had issues with this teacher beforehand. Could this be clouding your judgement?

Anyway, glad the thread’s been cathartic for you and you have Slept like a log.

BitOutOfPractice · 26/04/2025 05:13

Having studied the Industrial Revolution at school in history I would say it’s possibly the dullest subject ever. I wish my teacher had showed us pictures of interesting social history like this not the ruddy spinning jenny.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 26/04/2025 05:08

pikkumyy77 · 25/04/2025 23:59

People still have open casket funerals. Victorian death photography is not very disturbing compared to that.

What is disturbing about an open cask? Unless there's some dreadful mutilation/damage to the body, why not?

SendBooksAndTea · 26/04/2025 04:53

Calmdownpeople · 26/04/2025 00:22

OP come on. Your kids mentioned it because it was the most mention worthy. They didn’t stare at those pics for an hour. If they are learning about Victorian times there would have been a lot more pics and detail.

The only thing disturbing here is you making a mountain out of a molehill.

Absolutely, this is a really relevant and interesting part of what they are learning. The images aren't particularly disturbing or anything, but it is an interesting reflection as to the values of society at the time and of course the very significant development of cameras and photography. I really can't understand why you are unhappy in any way about it.

MrsEverest · 26/04/2025 04:18

I wish people would stop saying times have changed and it's creepy now. There will be people reading this whose post-mortem photos of their baby are all they have. It is commonly done now and every large hospital I've worked in has had a specialised photographer who does it.

RedHelenB · 26/04/2025 04:16

Calmdownpeople · 26/04/2025 00:22

OP come on. Your kids mentioned it because it was the most mention worthy. They didn’t stare at those pics for an hour. If they are learning about Victorian times there would have been a lot more pics and detail.

The only thing disturbing here is you making a mountain out of a molehill.

This

VeganStar · 26/04/2025 03:45

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:16

My text books didn't include any disturbing photos. They included themes and analyses and facts and things like that. In fact, none of my degree level texts included disturbing photos either. I suspect you are younger than me, the trend for disturbing stuff is relatively recent.

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No you’re wrong. I’m 68 and I can remember being shown pictures of the holocaust.
starving men and women looking like skeletons, and hundreds of dead bodies piled up on top of each other.
I was also in year 9 at the time and it affected me badly.
I remember telling my parents about what we had learned and was surprised that of course they already knew about it.
I couldn’t believe that people could do this to other human beings and couldn’t get it out of my head for months.
I doubt that seeing pictures of posed dead children would have had such an impact on me.

thebluerose · 26/04/2025 03:31

This teacher has form by the way. A lot of it.

You still haven't explained what you mean by this.

Barleysugar86 · 26/04/2025 03:08

@whyiwonderwhy I think the Victorian death photos are quite sweet actually- there is nothing there that is gruesome, especially for year 9. I also don't see how it's any worse than year 3's who learn about the Egyptians and the embalming process for mummies, my 7 year old could tell me about the post death organ removal in detail! And any museums we visit invariable have a skeleton or two, but the kids just find it interesting. Honestly I think it's kind of healthy to not make (natural) death too much of a taboo subject, lots of those pupils will lose family members during childhood and might need help processing it.

LovePeriodProperty · 26/04/2025 03:00

Photos like this were often the only time a family would have a photo taken.

It wasn’t that unusual and whilst it now seems creepy it’s a good way of visually explaining how times and attitudes have changed.

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BottleBlondeMachiavelli · 26/04/2025 02:50

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/04/2025 02:41

There's also important city and transportation design connected with the way Death was treated - the London Necropolis - which could be tied into a trip to one of the major cemeteries, infant mortality (leading into statistics), improvements in public health, housing, social care, medicine, could be linked to their English Literature text (Jekyll & Hyde, Dickens, Frankenstein), Christian eschatology, Law, comparative religion for things such as cremation; this could quite easily become a very effectively integrated curriculum, starting off from the fact that people died and people took photographs of them.

It's important for them to learn that it wasn't all Brunel, Box Tunnel and the Crystal Palace.

Even on quite a superficial level, it is obvious to teach child labour to youngsters if you’re covering the Industrial Revolution, and it is hard to cover Victorian child labour without at least touching on child welfare and child mortality.

pikkumyy77 · 26/04/2025 02:45

Ruthietuthie · 26/04/2025 00:59

@whyiwonderwhy, it doesn't seem that you have really taken in the many explanations of why this could have been a powerful lens to begin a discussion about all the other things which, in your estimation, were the more "important bits" of this period. Instead, you agree only with people who entirely affirm your opinion. Have you read books like historian (and Harvard President) Drew Faust's This Republic of Suffering, which won a Pulitzer Prize? Or Tom Laqueur's, Helen Fawcett Professor of History at Princeton's book, The Work of the Dead? I don't think you are understanding how powerful this topic is to understand this whole period. And what a compelling way it offers to being a broader discussion.

The republic of suffering is excellent!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 26/04/2025 02:41

There's also important city and transportation design connected with the way Death was treated - the London Necropolis - which could be tied into a trip to one of the major cemeteries, infant mortality (leading into statistics), improvements in public health, housing, social care, medicine, could be linked to their English Literature text (Jekyll & Hyde, Dickens, Frankenstein), Christian eschatology, Law, comparative religion for things such as cremation; this could quite easily become a very effectively integrated curriculum, starting off from the fact that people died and people took photographs of them.

It's important for them to learn that it wasn't all Brunel, Box Tunnel and the Crystal Palace.