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Teacher showing photos to kids of victorian dead children - slightly disturbing

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whyiwonderwhy · 25/04/2025 23:51

I am finding this so disturbing I can't sleep! However I might be being oversensitive, who knows. It is the "but - WHY?" bit which is bothering me most.

The lesson was about the industrial revolution, and the subject of photography came up, 2 of the earliest photos were shown to the class (13-14yo) and then....I wish I could say the teacher showed photos of some of the extraordinary engineering inventions of the day, or of busy streets, or China, or something wonderful and extraordinary...but no, the teacher showed 10 photos of dead children and talked about how the Victorians would photograph dead children as though they were still alive, with the rest of the family, in a commemorative way. I have seen some in the past (I didn't learn about it at school however) and they are moving and tragic and disturbing. Nothing else, just these photos.

Just wondering...why? why would the teacher do this? Any ideas?

This teacher has form by the way. A lot of it. But this has for some reason blindsided me.

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TakeMeToTheDarkSideOfTheMoon · 26/04/2025 10:53

This thread is hilarious 🤣🤣

EastGrinstead · 26/04/2025 10:52

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:02

right back at you, my lovely

I am finding this so disturbing I can't sleep!

It seems likely that the OP is actually the 14-year-old DC, posting out of boredom during the school holidays. That would explain why they needed to leave school before raising the issue

2boyzNosleep · 26/04/2025 10:52

You said yourself that they were learning about photography.

What i remember about learning about the industrial revolution/victorian times is the amount of death from infection and disease, workhouses, children being put to work in dangerous conditions. All the grim stuff. I can't remember anything about transport or construction although I do know we discussed it.

Personally I think learning about the genocide of WW2 (seeing/hearing about the concentration camps) and the slave trade (went really in-depth, yr 9 I think, even watched a bit of roots) and even the current genocides that are currently taking place in the world, far more disturbing and upsetting than looking at how victorian people took a lasting memory of a loved one to keepsake.

The children are 13/14. They are not inappropriate pictures, they were very normal pictures for the time and likely led to a discussion of what life was like in that time.

Hernameisdeborah · 26/04/2025 10:52

I imagine the focus of that lesson may have been the consequential dangers of the invention of machinery and therefore the increase in child mortality. It's called 'context'. I'm not even a History teacher, just someone who has a bit of logic and no desire to teacher-bash.

Yep, can't help but love a parent who knows better than every education professional involved about what this age group "should" be taught and the quality of the education they're receiving based on a conversation about one lesson!

Cherrylysander · 26/04/2025 10:49

pikkumyy77 · 25/04/2025 23:59

People still have open casket funerals. Victorian death photography is not very disturbing compared to that.

For lots of people, open casket funerals (or more usually pre-funeral wakes) aren’t disturbing at all, they’re completely normal.

Meem321 · 26/04/2025 10:48

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:11

Yes, this is true, but there are a lot more relevant and useful things to spend time on.

Yes, and the teacher will spend time in these things in other lessons. They will be teaching this topic for 6+ weeks and will get to it... I imagine the focus of that lesson may have been the consequential dangers of the invention of machinery and therefore the increase in child mortality. It's called 'context'. I'm not even a History teacher, just someone who has a bit of logic and no desire to teacher-bash.
Get over yourself, or discuss your concerns directly with the teacher.

LuvACustardCream · 26/04/2025 10:48

So disturbed you can't sleep????

Massive over reaction given the age of the class. I take it you don't allow them to watch the news?

sashh · 26/04/2025 10:47

MrsCravensworth · 26/04/2025 07:17

i had the abortion video too, year 9/10 I think. I was 13 ish.

And yes, it was a bonkers Catholic convent school. The nuns were doing rosary’s in the corner and praying while it was on.

We were also given little enamel feet badges to wear, the size of the feet of a 12 week foetus.

The worst thing was that one of the girls had actually had an abortion, due to being raped by a family member. The nuns made her sit right at the front and she sobbed the whole way through. Some of other kids (boys and girls, they had been forced to allow boys at the school a few years prior), were vile to her after wards and taunted her with the badges. The nuns and teachers did nothing to stop it, just let them carry on.

I was so upset for her that I told my father, who was livid and went to the school. The head teacher was a nun and told him that if he didn’t like it, to take me out of the school.

Fucking vile.

Edited

OMG.

I'm suprised they allowed her to continue in school after an abortion, but maybe they just wanted to torture her.

My RC VI form we had a couple of people come from the non RC schools. One of them made the huge mistake of approaching a teacher about the possibility that she was pregnant.

She was told if she had an abortion she would have to leave, so she did.

For anyone who has not gone to an RC school you would be amazed at what they teach.

I know a lot of people say, "Oh they just say a couple of prayers morning and afternoon" and I hope that is true in some schools but it certainly wasn't my experience.

RE, well RC doctrine came into most lessons, cookery - oh time to bake a simnel cake.

History, Mary I was a wonderful woman returning England to the RC church.

Art, design an anti abortion poster.

Biology, this is how 'natural contraception works'.

We actually had a lesson called 'hymns' where we learned new hymns.

Oh and yes those little feet badges.

Also an odd rule. You could wear a cross or religious medal on a chain, but not a chain on its own or a non religious pendant.

JandamiHash · 26/04/2025 10:47

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:22

I mean recent compared to when i was a child!

But yes, the victorians were pretty good at the bizarre and disturbing.

It’s only bizarre and disturbing in the context of the modern day where we behave like death is something offensive or unnatural. Half the point is showing how social acceptances have evolved and changed over the years. Or do you just want your children to exist in a bubble?

PrincessOfPreschool · 26/04/2025 10:46

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 00:05

Yes i see that but the subject was the industrial revolution - so the only way to engage the class is to show them photos of dead children and nothing else?! Really?!! Not about the actual amazing inventions of the industrial revolution? i mean showing photos of children working down mines would at least be on topic!

I think you should be a history teacher if you think photos of amazing victorian engineering will engage Y9 🤣.

Bestwishes23 · 26/04/2025 10:44

Ex-history teacher here. They'll be teaching the Holocaust soon, assuming the school has taken a chronological approach to the curriculum, so best to prepare yourself if you find the content of this lesson disturbing.

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 26/04/2025 10:42

mmsnet · 26/04/2025 00:00

its part ot victorian history, get over yourself

This.
13 - 14 years old? I thought you were going to say 5 or 6 or something, then maybe you'd have a point!
History can sometimes be gruesome, you can't just "rainbow and sunshines" gloss over it and you never should. Otherwise you never learn from it.

Ottersmith · 26/04/2025 10:41

whyiwonderwhy · 26/04/2025 01:15

Thank you to everyone. I am off to bed now, feeling much calmer, this thread was very therapeutic!

I can't sleep! Can I see some of your wonderful pictures of Victorian engineering?

JandamiHash · 26/04/2025 10:40

YABVU

No wonder we have a generation of pansy arses if a 14yo can’t cope with a picture of a corpse - which BTW just looks like someone asleep upright.

I wouldn’t be bothered at my 8yo being shown that, let alone a 14yo. It’s a fascinating part of history.

However do you manage when they’re taught about the Holocaust?

Hernameisdeborah · 26/04/2025 10:40

I'm sure the kids were also shown the extraordinary feats of the industrial revolution. I doubt the entire topic focused on Victorian post mortem photography, perhaps this was just one interesting facet of it to engage the children. Who knows? Perhaps discuss with the teacher so you have full knowledge and context?

Friendlynortherner · 26/04/2025 10:37

godmum56 · 26/04/2025 10:05

surprised you didn't know about it https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-36389581

That's not contemporary evidence! That's a rather shoddy article by a modern journalist with some pictures of people for whom there's no evidence they're dead at all, and some actual postmortem pictures, eg the child on the bier, who is not posed as if living.

Contemporary evidence would be a treatiae on postmortem photography detailing how to get the best results; an advert from a photographer saying 'Get your dead kids photographed by us!' or a letter between relatives describing how a family member died and was posed and photographed after death.

The treatises on photography that do exist, describe using the (rather flimsy) posture stands to assist in keeping a live subject still.
There is an astonishing dearth of advertising of death photography, when you consider the extensive advertising surrounding other death customs, which were highly comercialised. See, for example, necropolises.

IdaPolly · 26/04/2025 10:36

godmum56 · 26/04/2025 09:44

to show those images? ok. To ONLY show those images? a missed opportunity.

The dd was probably exaggerating that the entire lesson consisted of looking at post mortem photos.

TheDevilFindsWorkForIdleMums · 26/04/2025 10:30

It's relevant to the lesson though......he wasn't just being macabre.......unlike my old biology teacher who used to like whipping out the fetuses he kept in bottles and plonking them on the table. He got a firm telling off after traumatising a Spanish language student but still kept them on his shelves so they'd catch you off guard when you went in the cupboard (( He was however an amazing teacher. We all loved him dearly ))

PensionedCruiser · 26/04/2025 10:26

Ruthietuthie · 26/04/2025 00:18

Actually, interestingly, the invention of the camera runs parallel to Victorian death images. The first wide-spread use of the camera was to photograph the dead (who were good subjects as they stayed still!). Often, the death photograph was the only photograph ever taken of a person, and thus the only photograph a family would have. To me, it is an intriguing point in the history of industrialization and technology development.
So much of what we do with the dead now begins in the Victorian era and other historical moments. In the US, for example, it was the civil war which introduced embalming, as people wanted to bring those who died on the battle-field home. And embalming created a new vision of what death looked like and professionalized death in new ways, in ways that ran parallel to the invention of photography.
Do you know the dog listening to the gramophone which is the symbol for HMV? HMV stands for "His master's voice," and the dog, if you see the full image, is listening to a gramophone that is placed on top of a coffin. The first use of gramophones was not to listen to music, but to have a way of preserving the voices of the dead.
Seems pretty interesting to me. And pretty linked to changing British society in this period.

It's a really good example of an invention (the camera/photography) changing society quickly and profoundly. The Victorian death customs/rituals is a very interesting subject anyway - I researched the topic for part of my Masters. I could have happily continued researching.

CantStopMoving · 26/04/2025 10:12

I actually think this fits well into the Industrial Revolution. child mortality was a big part of that of the time from disease and death in the factories. There was a big amount of trauma for families. They expected to have children die in those times. Seeing the photos in the context of how things were changing and the technological improvements so they could have memories of their departed children and family members is actually very interesting. No subject is isolated

crumblingschools · 26/04/2025 10:08

There has also been another thread on MN defending many people taking photos of the dead pope as it can be cultural, although the Vatican did end up asking people not to take photos. So could have been an interesting discussion in class, has society really changed.

godmum56 · 26/04/2025 10:05

Friendlynortherner · 26/04/2025 09:45

Find me some contemporary evidence that this is what they did, as opposed to someone online claiming that a particular sitter in a photograph is dead.

surprised you didn't know about it https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-36389581

Victorian children

Taken from life: The unsettling art of death photography

In Victorian England after-death photographs became a way of commemorating the dead and blunting the sharpness of grief.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-36389581

Mothership4two · 26/04/2025 10:03

crumblingschools · 26/04/2025 09:23

@Mothership4two you comment that it might be the first image of a dead body they have ever seen, do you not think they might have seen a picture of the dead pope that has been beamed to the world all week

No it didn't occur to me as I haven't seen a picture of the Pope's body this week (just a tiny bit of what I am hoping was his hand on the BBC!). And I think that's unnecessarily pedantic. Doesn't change my opinion that it might have been kind to give them a heads up even if a few of them saw the Pope lying in State. And maybe this teacher did?

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Neighbours87 · 26/04/2025 09:58

pikkumyy77 · 25/04/2025 23:59

People still have open casket funerals. Victorian death photography is not very disturbing compared to that.

I’m Irish and we have wakes with an open coffin. It’s not unusual for children to come pay their respects. It’s not disturbing it teaches that dying is a part of life. Our wake culture is one of the things we do well here. The whole community comes to pay their respects and support the bereaved