AIBU to want to make a complaint about a physiotherapist?

I am shocked that in the 80s you smacked a child and threw a table across the room. What were you thinking? 26 is old enough to know that was wrong. I am not surprised the physiotherapist has remembered you. I remember my first infant teacher, who was lovely, children have long memories. I am glad you stopped teaching btw, obv not for you (nor me, but I never threw a desk across the room, even when a boy of fifteen simulated masturbation in front of me - I had him removed).

Agree. I’ve reported it and I expect it’ll disappear soon.

I'd be apologising to her ,and not taking it any further,be glad she didn't complain about you at the school

You’ve criticised this woman (she may have exaggerated, she isn’t being professional, you might complain) and excused your own behaviour (it was a low point for you, she’s probably exaggerating, no one complained at the time). I cannot believe you’re excusing your awful behaviour and thinking of complaining about her! Where is your compassion? For her, for the other children. What you did has left a permanent mark on this woman and all you’ve done is talk about how hard it was for you and how you’ve put it behind you! Good for you!! Sounds like those children may not have been able to just out it behind them. And YOU’RE thinking about complaining about HER?? Everything really is about you isn’t it? You sound dreadful.

You shouldve apologised to her!

You sound like you still have a horrible streak in your personality. If I had been you I would have apologised to the physiotherapist and explained why I behaved the way I did,

Wow! Wow! Her description of your behaviour, which you accept, is really shocking. You should be deeply ashamed of yourself, OP. Don’t complain - some self-reflection would be much appropriate but I doubt you are capable of that.

This CANNOT be real! If it is, we have a standout winner in the 2025 'Poster with the lowest self-awareness but greatest sense of entitlement' competition.

I very much doubt the OP will be back. This thread is of the drive-by clickbait variety. 🙄 They are so transparent and tiresome.

Same, I'm not surprised either.
Stuff like that stays with you.
In fact this thread has resurfaced a memory of a nurse I had in hospital as a kid.
Right nasty, sadistic cow. I can even remember her name.

Gosh I’m sorry but you sound like an awful woman. You smacked children and treated them unkindly during your spell as a teacher, including the physio by the sounds of it (albeit not violence towards her?) and then you want to complain about her even though she’s doing her job just fine.

Sounds like you want to absolve yourself of a guilty conscience to me, but this isn’t the way to go about it. Accept that actions have consequences - you say this was a low point in your life, fair enough. But you were not kind to those children and she has not forgotten that. You asked her very bluntly what her problem was and she told you. She’s treating your husband well, move on and reflect on yourself

The op never came back. Dodgy physical abuse was outlawed in state schools in the uk in the late 80's.

My jaw did just actually drop.

Physiotherapist sounds heroic. She will not be on MN asking if SIBU to tell her bully the truth about what was done to her/them.

This is the best answer and absolutely how this should be handled.

I don't, you make yourself sound just as nasty tbh.
The OP has said she was in a bad place mentally (NOT saying that condones her behaviour, read my other posts, definitely with the physio on this one,!)
Just not comfortable with finding it a laugh to think of pain on others.
The physio's got it right - being professional with her client, OP's DH, whilst wanting little to do with his wife which is fair enough in the circumstances.

"... however, when speaking to me she is somewhat aloof to the point of rudeness. I am not one to let this sort of thing go unnoticed, so when I saw her yesterday, I asked her if I may have a word in private.
I told her that I was aware of her attitude towards me, and how I'd done nothing to warrant it, so asked if she could explain the reason for being so curt. She looked me in the eye and said that while she didn't expect me to know who she was, she remembered me from when I taught her in junior school...
... I have to admit, this altercation has riled me further. I am not denying my past, heaven knows I have admitted it here, but do I really have to be held hostage to it?"

Unfortunately you are the sort of person who can't "let this sort of thing go unnoticed".

Sometimes it's better to let things pass - especially if you don't already know what the other person is going to tell you - you might learn something you don't want to know.

Also, instead of understanding why this physio behaves in a frosty manner towards you, and instead of apologising for your past behaviour, "it has riled you further", and you want to be petty and to make a complaint against her.

Grow up and drop it. You are being wholly unreasonable

You (illegally no less) hit children, threw desks and screamed at them, and you wonder why one of those (now adult) children are giving you a VERY wide berth?

I'd call this a great big dose of "you reap what you sow". You should have apologised profusely to her, not be considering making a complaint.

I was verbally humiliated by my year 5 teacher when I was 9/10 in the mid-90s. I've never ever forgotten it, and if I was to bump into her today, I honestly think I'd struggle not to be "having words".

Speaking as a primary school teacher myself - there are a hundred other ways to deal with difficult kids (I'm so thankful I went on to have an amazing experience with my Year 6 teacher, and he is the one I try to emulate).

You should be ashamed of yourself.

I am shocked this woman remembers so much, I even wonder if in her mind she has exaggerated some of it

You're shocked?
Just goes to show how badly your behaviour was if she still recognises you all these years later and remembers how awfully you treat those children.

but regardless of that I think she is using it inappropriately to influence the way she speaks to me.

You've just shown that your true colours haven't changed by totally batting off her feelings.

You could have took this opportunity to explain why you did what you did, after all she's an adult now, you should have spoken to her as such.

If there's such a thing as reporting you for what you did in the past you should count yourself lucky that this lady isn't doing so.

No , don’t complain. It clearly had an affect on her, and I’m not surprised. I get that it was different back then maybe but you say “ it wasn’t allowed but happened “ so realistically- you were acting in an unprofessional manner towards her / other students.

As a direct result of that , she is behaving in what you see as an unprofessional way towards you , but really is she ? You aren’t her patient , she’s remaining professional with your DH and giving him the correct level of care. You aren’t her patient , she owes you nothing , she isn’t being directly horrible to you she’s just being “ aloof bordering rude “ because she’s human and does not like you as a result of things you did that caused her trauma. What good would come of this ? Do you think anyone would really care that she’s not being as friendly towards you as you would like but it’s not impacting on the care she gives to her patient ?

If the care she gives to your husband changes , then yes complain. If you were her patient and it was affecting the care she gave you then yes you should complain. But as it stands , allow her be a human being with feelings and just accept this. Don’t accept if she is being directly rude but if it’s just uncomfortable because she isn’t friendly with you then just accept that and remember that there was a time when she expected you as a professional to be more caring towards her and her peers - all children - and you didn’t.

You aren't in Manchester are you OP if your first name is Jenny, there are a few of us who'd like to have a reunion 😉

I'm a bit surprised that people think that someone wouldn't think to complain in a situation like this and thus it's made up (and let me just clarify I absolutely don't think OP should complain or should be anything other than ashamed of her past behaviour!) but this kind of attitude is quite prevalent in our society.

The attitude of making yourself out to be a victim when the concequences of your actions catch up with you and you're exposed to yourself as not being the nice, lovely person you want to think you are.
And if that person is delivering a service of any kind, have their job held over them in a power play by the person doing the abusing as revenge.

This is an extreme situation but it's quite common for people to lie, down play and minimise their own poor behaviour towards others and embellish and exaggerate the response to that behaviour in order to be the victim in the scenario and if it's not tolerated it's usually called 'unprofessional' or 'poor customer service' on behalf of the person doing the job.

Blimey, what a read.

Amazed you had to look up the meaning of 'protected characteristics', @Toooldforallthisnow - is that correct?

Her behaviour is unprofessional and she should not be doing it. It won't do her patient much good to speak to his nearest-and-dearest with thinly veiled contempt. But by God, I can understand where she's coming from.

I presume you're in the UK? Corporal punishment had been abolished from public UK schools by the late 1980s. I was primary school aged in the 1980s and no, smacking was NOT still commonplace then in the public system. So what you did was not acceptable even by the standards of 35-40 years ago. I doubt throwing desks across the room would have been acceptable in ANY era, really.

The fact that you're 'shocked' by the fact this woman can remember you abusing or terrorising other children 30 odd years on or that you think the lack of complaints is some kind of mitigation for your out-of-control behaviour is telling, I think.

How did you respond to her?

PS - Just to add, from your own post it seems that you still have anger issues towards other people who dare to stand up to you. Perhaps get some help for your problems?

I hope you start to feel all the pain you caused the children in your care and that you need a Physiotherapist to help you get better. That would be a good laugh.
I'd also photograph you and stick your face on Facebook to out you to people who may have suffered from your "low point" so that they could collectively file a police report and you could be incarcerated to pay for your crimes against children.

I don't care how 'down' OP was in her chosen career at 26. She was violent and angry and abusive towards young children in a primary school. And yet here she is excusing her behaviour and 'shocked' that someone remembers it so well.

I'd have refused to have anything to do with you at all and ask that you not be in the room when providing much needed medical services for your husband and said why.