AIBU to want to make a complaint about a physiotherapist?

YABU and I’m shocked at how you behaved as a teacher during the 80’s, however you should move on and forget it after you’ve had one last chat with the physio.
In your shoes I would apologise to her explaining the reasons for your behaviour. Remember this is her career and you shouldn’t complain and try to derail it - that would be morally wrong.

Where on earth was physical violence in use in schools in the late 1980s? I remember it being disallowed in the mid70s.

I trained as a teacher in the late 80’s and started teaching in the early 90’s and “smacking” was certainly not something that was acceptable then, you are well aware that you were a truly terrible teacher who has clearly traumatised her pupils. What’s good is that you recognised it, left and hopefully have a career where you don’t bully and abuse people.
please don’t make a complaint against the physio, it sounds like she’s doing a good job with your dh and being nice to you is not really part of that. Let her do her job and stay out of her way.

Also, there is a gap between perfect a d hitting children. Very large gap. None us saud we are perfect, that is not the point. She doesen't seem to "feel terrible" either as first instinct is to complain instead of apologies and doesn't understand why she still remembers.

Fricking hell, normalising abuse! We all done shit things but this, this is beyond shit, this is child abuse and life trauma. If her seeing her colleagues being abused left such a mark, how do you think the children who were hit felt? I done lots of bad in my life but hand on heart never hit someone let alone helpless innocent children. If you think we are harsh I really would want to see uour reaction if your own child would be hit by teachers. Not so "poor her she must regret it" I am certain!

My comment was to someone who said corporal punishment didn’t exist in the 80s though
I was just pointing out it did.
Some on here may be shocked to read some schools in Scotland and NI didn’t ban it in till the early 2000s !

If you complained to me about the physio and I subsequently found out through her what you had done OP, I would be asking her if she wanted any support in reporting you for historical abuse.
Think yourself fortunate you haven't been prosecuted or had to face up to a parent of those youngsters you may have traumatised.

That's ridiculous. There is no 'conflict of interest'. The physio is treating the husband. She has no relationship with the relative.
I had to treat an ex-boyfriends mother when I was nursing. It had been a nasty split, but I just got on with caring for her and interacting with the rest of the family. No conflict of interest. It isn't a police investigation ffs.
If you're an ahp, your knowledge of professional conduct is worrying; you need to re-read your code of conduct, and if you find the section that says you cannot treat the family of someone you knew decades ago, please share it.

Shocking that it was that late. OP however said very late 80s so she would've known this was illegal at the time she was smacking children and throwing furniture across the room traumatising small children.

"I had a very brief career as a teacher during the very late 1980s."

as an aside
It wasn’t banned until 1986 and brought in in 1987
Later in private schools and Scotland

I was at school till 1985 and I remember corporal punishment being used.

I hope this physiotherapist comes across this thread and gets the courage to report you OP to the Police for historic child abuse.

Of course more than one child has been left traumatised by this horrendous behaviour, albeit "only" for 8 months. Thank goodness you at least saw some sense in leaving the profession. None of what you've said sounds regretful. You were 26, that's more than old enough to be the mature adult in difficult situations with a class of children and not resort to child abuse.

You've left these children traumatised through your behaviour - smacking?! Throwing a desk across the room?! Are you thinking a class of 9 year olds "made you do it" because of X that they/a child(!) did? Just like every abuser has ever said. Child abuse is never, ever justified. They were children for goodness sake. You were the adult. Read the room.

This was historic child abuse and I hope you face up to it

😂😂😂😂😂 the OP has been a brave little soldier...
Omg. Presumably you condone child abuse then expect the abused child to forgive their abuser if they happen to come across them in later life? The abused child, as an adult, is expected to understand that 'the job was too hard', or any other excuse, and that's what led the abuser to abuse?
Most abusers have an ready-prepared excuse reason for their abuse. Some people condone this, sadly. There is no excuse.
And at 26, people are doctors, nurses, physiotherapists, in the armed forces, the police, and a myriad of other responsible jobs, who manage not to abuse those in their care.

I went to school in the 80s and smacking was not common place. In fact it was banned in school. How are you surprised that she remembers? Kids will remember this stuff in great detail because it would have been traumatizing for them. There were no complaints because kids put up with shitty teachers in the 80s more than they do now. It's good that you got out when you did. You seem to remember the whole thing from only your own point of view and not considering how awful it would have been for the poor kids.

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So any bahaviour by an OP should be recieved with an open mind, a caring heart and lots of flower & prayer emoji's. Even those who have bullied, scared and smacked children?
Using your logic, someone who admits to murder should be given a street party.
Does it take long to polish a halo?

Surely you are trolling us, OP?

I don’t think that was OPs question though

I also don’t think the majority of comments are very helpful or giving much in the way of advice to her.
I hope MNHQ takes this thread down it’s definitely ‘not in the spirit on Mumsnet

School existed before the 80s, and trust me, smacky, shouty rude and bullying teachers were alive and well in every decade!

Me too.
I emember her name, car and how she looked.
And yes, if I had seen her as an adult me, I would have had words

As i understand it there is no questions around the care just the op's sensitivities around owning up to what they have done

This can’t be real, it just can’t! You abused children and you think you are the victim here? Sounds like you learned nothing. Good on the physio. That complaint would go nowhere - except everyone on the ward would know what you did, and you’d have to face possible consequences for your abusive behaviour. I’d be mortified in your position

Why? She is giving him good care - the relationship has not affected that.

It’s difficult though isn’t it.
Will the teachers of today be admonished for putting kids in isolation. In 30 years time those kids as adults could think their problems stem from being in isolation. In 30 years time younger parents could be in total shock at the thought of treating children like that. Teachers and the establishment often make decisions with no clue as to their long term effects on children's negative memories and trauma but we can’t be blaming our teachers for that in 30 years time.

Most Teachers and parents do the best they can. If we all spent out time considering who would look after us in our old age we would perhaps give way to everything the kids wanted. That’s not good for children.

The therapist is not working within the code of ethics. She should agree with her team that she cannot treat your husband due to personal past relationships and someone else should see him. I would let someone know this. I say this as an ahp.

Why quote the OP 5 posts down?