AIBU to want to make a complaint about a physiotherapist?

You have clearly learned little since you left that classroom, OP. You owe that woman an apology for traumatising her as a child.

It was banned in 1986 and OP says she did 8 months teaching in the very late 80s.

I don't know of anyone who went to school in late 80s getting smacked or caned or anything physical. My parents both worked in schools, my Mum worked between about 6, and they've no experience of it happening after it was banned. Saying it still went on schools in the very late 80s like it was widespread is just wrong. The OP is either intentionally or on purpose rewriting the narrative to make herself feel better. Thinking the child had exaggerated events..... She's deluded!!

Are you insane? You’re lucky she doesn’t notify the authorities about your child abuse. Give yourself a head wobble, apologise to her & beg forgiveness.
I’ve been on mumsnet for years & don’t think I’ve ever come across such a narcissistic,entitled, bizarre post. Your poor husband.

Bravo to your dad! He really had your back.

You don’t sound like you’ve changed much, OP.

OP, I think you are awful- rather than apologise you look to lodge a complaint. You haven't changed at all.

But I do agree that smacking did still happen in some schools in the 1980's, even the late 80s very early 90s.

The primary school I went to, in the UK smacked pupils. I wasn't smacked until year 4, January 1990. I remember as I went home and told my parents and my father went to school as was arrested - not for violence, but for refusing to leave the premises until he has met the teacher. The police actually sided with the school, and said smacking was allowed.
I was pulled out of school that day and my dad handwrote hundreds of cards and handed them out at the school gates organising a protest. The head retired and I can't remember what happened to the teacher but the school stopped smacking its pupils.

This highlights what an impact teachers can have on young lives and the negative impact a bad teacher can have on them for years to come. You should have apologised for how you treated the children OP not been defensive. You were the adult and they were probably very scared of you.

she’s caring for you DH well so she isn’t letting her experience influence her treatment of your DH which is the main thing. You probably just need to own then impact you had on her and probably a lot of other kids too. You found out teaching wasn’t for you and that you hated it, but you were their teacher and they were the children you hated. That’ll stay with them.

So you want further humiliate someone who was witness and victim to your abuse by complaining that she's 'aloof' towards you, not the patient, and trying to get her into trouble in her job? One that she's doing, by your own admission, well and professionally, because it's uncomfortable for you to be reminded of the way you behaved?

Tbh you don't sound like you learned anything from what happened when you were in teaching and want to blame everyone else for your poor behaviour. And accusing her off exaggerating when you admit you can't deny what she remembers, is just another way you're avoiding responsibility for what you did.

These are the concequences of your actions and you're now seeking to blame one of your victims for the fact you feel uncomfortable facing what actually is a mild consequence for what you did, someone in a professional setting being not as friendly as you'd like towards you because of your own actions. You're seeking to make yourself a victim and have some power over this physio to make yourself feel better for how you behaved.

Suck it up and deal with it because it's an issue of your own making, you're not being held hostage to anything, but you're trying to now force someone you abused into being nice to you so you don't feel bad. You're coming across as a really shitty person.

Op you mention no one ever made a complaint about you when you was teaching dispite behaving in a poor way at school so do you think that should be a trigger to you and leave well alone. Count your lucky stars no complaint was made about you before you rush off to get this person into trouble. Let it go.

Wtaf have I just read?
You were physically abusive towards little children AS A TEACHER and you’re wondering why this poor woman isn’t polite?

Yes, true, have you apologised to her @Toooldforallthisnow ??

Same! This has really riled me and I will likely send the rest of the day having flashbacks.

I thought this would turn into a thread where the physio was making passes at the husband etc whilst being "mean" and shutting out the wife. Then we were told why the OP was getting a frosty reception. She is lucky the woman doesn't complain now

It doesnt appear that this option has occurred to OP.

One rule for you and another rule for her by the sounds OP.

you are holding her to a standard you do not hold yourself to.

Good on that physio for having the strength to call you out . I want to give her a hug.
You need to be very grateful that she, or someone else from your class hasn't reported you for abuse because to hit a child is a criminal offence. Being stressed is no defence against that. You adversely affected the lives of a whole class of kids. Have a read up about ACEs (adverse childhood experiences).
Then do some reflecting on your own behaviour, you arrogant arse hole.

Well, you traumatised children and used smacking, throwing a desk ?! I mean wtf. Being curt is very polite considering what other people may do to you if they were subjected to your charms.

You traumatised her as a child. You should apologise to her or shut up.

Couldn’t agree more.

I can't believe you would even make a thread about this!

Clearly you are wrong and really this woman should make a complaint about you now she is old enough to stand up for herself. I've been thinking about the teacher that bullied me when I was 7. Of course she still remembers us she was 10!

The complaint could come at any time from any of the children you abused....

I wonder what else you did back then that still hovers above your head?

You hit children? You are a beast.

And now you're sensitive and feeling disliked?

Pray that if you or your dh ever end up in a care home the staff will be kind and patient to you.

As for your plan to complain? You must be joking.

You humiliated and abused a trail of young children in your care. I don't think you can expect a HCP to go out of her way to be warm and kind to you when she was one of your young victims.

Have a good old fashioned

My husband was physically abused by a headteacher in the late 70s. The same headteacher teacher got violently assaulted himself years later by a former pupil ( not my husband) but it mentally scarred him

Thank god you moved out of teaching. I also remember a dreadful teacher 40 years later.

If she stopped short of being downright rude then I'd keep quiet and stop making excuses for yourself.

You aren't her patient so she owes you nothing. You are afronted that someone you traumatised as a child is frosty to you? You need to do some self reflection.

I was at school in the 80s in the UK and no teacher did what you describe. You describe yourself at having been at a low point and clearly your behaviour at that time was not acceptable. I am glad that you are in a better place now but it is not reasonable to be angry at those you behaved badly to and who were impacted by that. They were kids at that time and seeing their teacher, someone who is supposed to be there acting in their best interest throw a table. You know that behaviour was not ok and likely have no idea how the kids were impacted. You can’t tell them effectively to just get over it because you were not in a good place then and it’s a long time ago. I think you’re taking out your anger on the wrong person. You need to address your own feelings about yourself. I think therapy of some sort would be helpful. You need to understand your behaviour had impact that can’t be swept under the carpet. And I think you should apologise to this women who has done her job well re your husband. Best wishes.

This has to rank right up there with the most ridiculous AIBUs on MN.