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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

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WhySoManySocks · 25/04/2025 22:21

Please tell me you left a tip!

The poor “hoovering” waiter must have had enough of you all by then, with the lipstick on glasses and ignoring the bill while two of you try a wee 😂

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:20

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

Yes, that's why I believe the waiter was so anxious.

In case her bladder wouldn’t allow?

AliBaliBee1234 · 25/04/2025 22:18

You say her daughter is 18 so should be included but wouldn't she pay for her own child regardless of her age? Was she expecting you'd all just split the cost?

Seems like it isn't really over £2 for water. Especially if she was annoyed you paid your share of the bill without her.

Can you share more about her text to you for context?

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:17

scoopoftheday · 25/04/2025 21:43

I'm still laughing at "and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She was unable to spend a penny more

sundaymorningatwork · 25/04/2025 22:17

Don’t go to restaurants if this is what happens. And especially don’t go if you don’t tip…

Neveranynamesleft · 25/04/2025 22:16

Thread of the day right here....

myusernamewastakenbyme · 25/04/2025 22:14

scoopoftheday · 25/04/2025 21:43

I'm still laughing at "and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Im laughing at the waiter 'hoovering'🤣🤣🤣

nomas · 25/04/2025 22:13

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

You’re trying to sound as if it’s the other women being petty but listen to yourself, you’re also arguing over splitting £2 with an 18yo. You sound just as petty and I thunk it’s you who ordered the water and wanted to split cost between all.

MoominMai · 25/04/2025 22:13

Tbh if you really do a deep dive, it could be argued your cousin was right to have asked for a 4 way split because technically it was equally split but also wrong because no one asked for it to be doled out to them also but they’re hardly going to waste nice bottled water if they’re given it so she should have just sucked up the cost herself. And the friend was correct because it wasn’t ordered by her and it’s not her fault if the waiter misunderstood and gave her ‘free’ water but also wrong because she knows full well she did drink it though no matter how it got to her so to just suck up the minimal cost allocated to her. See this is where you’re reliant on both parties just being grown ups and letting it go! I’ve been on work dos where I don’t drink but everyone else does and they always want to share the cost between everyone meaning it always ends up costing me an average of a tenner more than I actually spent but you just suck it up! It’s hard OP I bet always having to be the sensible one!

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:12

I just needed to vent about this £2 drama and couldn't vent to anyone I knew, as I didn't want to make my friend or cousin look bad to anyone. I think sometimes it's simple things that cause the biggest fall outs.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:09

EilishMcCandlish · 25/04/2025 22:09

I don't know. I lost the will to live half way through the post.

haha

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:09

Friend is a very good friend but I think maybe I didn't understand her tone in text or her points. This is way more that £2 for both of them. I think they're each trying to prove their point, and unfortunately its over £2.

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EilishMcCandlish · 25/04/2025 22:09

I don't know. I lost the will to live half way through the post.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:05

scotstars · 25/04/2025 22:03

Anyone arguing over £2 for a meal that was over £45 per person is being ridiculous. Don't get involved

Yeah it's a bit unbelievable. I feel so involved and I don't to be.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:03

MoominMai · 25/04/2025 22:00

Well after having read everything, because everyone allowed the bottled water to be poured individually for them (whether ordered by them directly or not), I think it’s fair to have split the cost 4-ways for it. As far as your friend getting upset by it all, that’s on her as she didn’t want to listen to your reasoning re why everything else panned out as it did after coming back from the toilet. Yet she was able to shoot you some annoying texts afterwards to which I’d have just replied that it was all academic now since she didn’t want to engage at the appropriate time.

Yes it seems fair, to all split it, but I think cousin could have asked also if we would all pay towards it.

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scotstars · 25/04/2025 22:03

Anyone arguing over £2 for a meal that was over £45 per person is being ridiculous. Don't get involved

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 22:03

I can't be the only one who wants to see the texts

Apreslapluielesoleil · 25/04/2025 22:03

I felt exhausted just reading that. £90+ for two meals and they’re quibbling over £2 water? I’ll send you the £2 myself if that’ll settle it , way too much drama.

I don’t think anyone can give you a specific answer as it could have been paid by anyone and wouldn’t have altered their lives at all.

NotSafeInTaxis · 25/04/2025 22:01

CalypsoCuthbertson · 25/04/2025 21:24

Do you think she was actually upset about a meal for 2 costing over £90, rather than the £2? I know food’s gone up lately but that seems huge.

45 a head for good food plus drinks is not a lot

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:01

I think this must be a blimp as they're really nice. I think this is all down to communication. My friend and I are extremely close, so I won't make this ruin our friendship but I feel like just putting £2 in both their accounts and be like, its finished.

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MoominMai · 25/04/2025 22:00

Well after having read everything, because everyone allowed the bottled water to be poured individually for them (whether ordered by them directly or not), I think it’s fair to have split the cost 4-ways for it. As far as your friend getting upset by it all, that’s on her as she didn’t want to listen to your reasoning re why everything else panned out as it did after coming back from the toilet. Yet she was able to shoot you some annoying texts afterwards to which I’d have just replied that it was all academic now since she didn’t want to engage at the appropriate time.

Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:58

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:56

We all paid for our individual drinks, my cousin also had a wine and I had a cocktail. The only drink split was the water.

I'm lost good luck, they sound like hard work!

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:58

They're both such lovely people and this seems so out of character. Friend always doing something to treat me. She's lovely like that. So it seems hard to understand falling out about £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:56

Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:55

She is pissed because you split the cost of your drinks (bottled water) but not hers (wine and coffee). It will be a principle thing I'm sure which I kind of get but wouldn't kick off over £2

We all paid for our individual drinks, my cousin also had a wine and I had a cocktail. The only drink split was the water.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:55

Sofiewoo · 25/04/2025 21:52

we're classing her daughter as an adult

It doesn’t matter if the daughter is an adult or a child it’s still your friend’s responsibility to pay for her, not a anyone else.

That's what I believe also.

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