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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

OP posts:
Bumcake · 25/04/2025 22:59

Giving this nonsense any headspace is absolute madness. I’m kicking myself for the third of the OP that I read to be honest.

dannyufcfan · 25/04/2025 22:55

Life is far too short for you to spend time giving this any energy, at all.

What a convoluted story all about £2.

largeprintagathachristie · 25/04/2025 22:54

Taking their coats and bags to the loo just as the bill came in suggests to me they hoped it would have been magically paid without their input by the time they came back.

Busybeemumm · 25/04/2025 22:48

Neveranynamesleft · 25/04/2025 22:16

Thread of the day right here....

Thread of the week😅

BakedAlaska12 · 25/04/2025 22:48

I know this isn’t the point but £12 for two glasses of wine and a coffee is very cheap

Snugglemonkey · 25/04/2025 22:47

I think your cousin was a dick about water for starters and that people should agree about water before anyone orders a thing. I prefer sparkling, so always say I will be ordering, and ask if anyone else will be. That way we can order a large bottle as opposed to multiple glasses. I would have a similar chat about still water. I would not order a bottle of that as I am happy with tap. That stuff should be cleared up pre bill.

The bill should be split and agreed upon together before anyone pays or leaves. You wait for people to return from the toilet. The only way it is ok to settle it with payers being present, is when one person covers the tab and tip and then the others pay their share (easier for restaurant staff).

To quibble about £2 though is madness to me. I couldn't handle the pettiness of this.

CalleOcho · 25/04/2025 22:47

So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split.

You were incredibly rude to say this.

To be fair, you, your cousin and your friend all sound like hard work.

You should have totalled up the bill together. Not when 2 people were in the toilet. You should have discussed splitting the water costs like adults.

I wouldn’t want to go out for a meal with any of you.

vincettenoir · 25/04/2025 22:41

This seems a bit bizarre to me.

NotEntirelySerious · 25/04/2025 22:39

All this drama over a bottle of Peckham Spring. 😂

Charliecatpaws · 25/04/2025 22:39

I can’t believe that someone would question £2 ?

IBelieveinSomething · 25/04/2025 22:37

I understand it’s not about the 2 quid. It’s about the hassle it’s caused. When it shouldn’t. YANBU

Merryoldgoat · 25/04/2025 22:33

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:40

It was a set menu price of £40 per person. We split the bill 4 ways. But my friend wanted the water split 3 ways I believe.

How can you be friends with someone like this?

Endofyear · 25/04/2025 22:32

Honestly who cares? It's 2 pounds!!

lifeonthelane · 25/04/2025 22:30

Oh for goodness sake. I will never understand this adding up of "what I had" (unless there are big differences e.g. drinkers/non-drinkers). When you go for a meal with friends, you are not literally paying for what you eat. You are paying for an experience - the venue, the company, the treat as a whole! Just split the bill evenly between all parties. If you can afford the treat of going out for a meal, then you can afford not to quibble over a few pounds when splitting the bill.

strawlight · 25/04/2025 22:29

I can’t believe either ell that faffing about nobody even left a tip.

#teamwaiter

Hastentoadd · 25/04/2025 22:29

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:58

They're both such lovely people and this seems so out of character. Friend always doing something to treat me. She's lovely like that. So it seems hard to understand falling out about £2

I would think your friends issue is more with your cousin and her penny pinching ways and not you, she was probably expecting something like this to happen so was a bit fired up when it actually did
I would stay out of it if I were you unless you want to text her and just say you will buy her a coffee the next time you meet

Penny pinchers drive me mad, it’s such petty behaviour

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:28

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:30

I don't think I jumped down her neck. But I was confused as why we wouldn't case her child as an adult when she was 18. I didn't argue I just said, but she's 18, she's an adult.

If a person is eating from the same menu as the rest of the party then their meal is paid for like the others, even if they're not 18. My granddaughter is 14 and she eats from the main menu, for the last 5 years God help anyone who offered her the children's menu!

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:25

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

I wish we did that here. I will try to start doing this. But to be honest I won't go out with the both of them together again, I'll go out with them without each other.

Some places refuse to give separate bills for a group, how can they deal with shared items like, er, water for instance?

AlohaRose · 25/04/2025 22:24

It's the waiter I feel sorry for.

TwelveBlueSocks · 25/04/2025 22:23

I think it might be best to treat it like a toddler tantrum.

Maybe you could say "sorry that you feel upset. Do you maybe need a holiday or something? It seems a shame to be so upset over a tiny thing after such a lovely meal. "

Then I think it would be a really good idea to leave them for a few days to simmer down.

Gazelda · 25/04/2025 22:23

FGS. Just send them both a text message/whatsapp.

“thanks for a lovely meal today. It was great to catch up. Let’s not get hung up on the £2 because it’s starting to sour the lunch. In future, let’s agree to split 4 ways or each pay for our own. By the way, did anyone leave a tip? I think we may have forgotten to, which is embarassing. Speak soon! xxx”

Hastentoadd · 25/04/2025 22:22

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:23

It's so silly I understand that, but its caused a fall out, so I'm trying to understand both sides.

Going to the toilet just after the bill arrived was (possibly) sneaky behaviour, we’re they hoping you and your cousin would pay the whole amount

Surely both mother and daughter didn’t need to go to the toilet at the same time or had they planned this and discussed it together beforehand

As the difference was so little, the bill should have been split 4 ways equally

JudgeJ · 25/04/2025 22:21

Hercisback1 · 25/04/2025 21:26

Who cares?

I can't believe this is even a discussion.

Splitting the bill into 4 seems fairest.

I feel sorry for the waiter having to hang about while the bill was sorted.

Clafoutie · 25/04/2025 22:21

Sorry OP, I am not meaning to take the piss(!) It does sound a frustrating situation for you and I think you are right not to go with them again!

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 22:21

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 22:05

Yeah it's a bit unbelievable. I feel so involved and I don't to be.

How do you think we feel? 😂

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