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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

OP posts:
twopintsofHPsauce · 25/04/2025 23:42

GBooArt · 25/04/2025 23:41

There's a lot of superfluous info in this post! I think I followed it, though.
And it really does seem like a storm in a tea cup!

It was a glass of water, not a cup of tea. As you will have noticed from the OP, the devil is in the detail.

GBooArt · 25/04/2025 23:41

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

There's a lot of superfluous info in this post! I think I followed it, though.
And it really does seem like a storm in a tea cup!

latetothefisting · 25/04/2025 23:41

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

Yes, that's why I believe the waiter was so anxious.

huh? I'm even more confused
why would the success or not of your friend's attempted wee have any impact on the anxiety of the waiter?

if she needed to try so hard to pee maybe she should have drunk more of the water...

friendlycat · 25/04/2025 23:38

BlossomMoon · 25/04/2025 23:29

What a performance 🙄
I bet the poor waiter was glad when you left.
I can just imagine his face stood their watching and listening to you all quibbling over £2
Then to add insult to injury, you never left a tip.

This in spades.

It’s incredible that you’re happy to arrange a meal in a £40 per head restaurant (that’s fine) but then quibble over the cost sharing of water and £2. You all want to add up precisely what you each had with the waiter hanging around and are too mean to leave a tip.

Then to cap it all there’s arguments via text over the cost of the water and how that element was split between you. You all don’t sound old or wise enough to eat out frankly.

Perhaps a happy meal at McDonalds would be a more appropriate option going forward.

latetothefisting · 25/04/2025 23:36

90% of what you've said is irrelevant

your friend and her dd drunk some of the water, so, yes, they should have paid half. For the sake of £2, even if she hadn't drunk any, I wouldn't have quibbled.
tbh it's embarrassing of her to have drunk from her own water bottle! If she didn't want to drink the table water then she should have ordered her your own drink, you can't go to a nice restaurant and keep taking swigs out of a water bottle hidden in your handbag, ffs!

I don't think it was rude of you to pay before she came back, as other than the quibble over water it seems like you just paid for what you had, so not as if you stiffed her with anything - but I also think your cousin is rude and weird for monitoring your friend's toilet habits, and to think the bill would need an extended amount of discussion.

basically out of the 4 of you the 18 year old dd seems the most normal, and the only one who doesn't seem to be completely overthinking what should be a very straightforward interaction, although no idea why she wanted to come out for food with her mums friend and a random cousin of mum's friend in the first place!

BigHeadBertha · 25/04/2025 23:36

If they want to quibble over a couple of bucks, let them. I don't know why you'd volunteer to get into the middle of this nonsense.

However, your friend sounds like the problem to me, if I understood your posts correctly.

First, she brought along her uninvited grown daughter without asking, first of all. An 18-year-old definitely changes the dynamic of the get together. I think that was rude.

Second, she tried to make everyone else to pay for her daughter. There's no justification for that. That indicates strongly to me that she wants something for nothing and would make me not trust her motives on the silly little water issue either. Anyway, when it's her paying, that's different. Then a mere couple of dollars is a big deal.

Third, she took her time in the bathroom, putting everyone else in an awkward position, taking her coat etc. and causing the waiter to think she'd left, too. Considering her trying to make everyone else pay 1/3 instead of 1/4 and being upset over the small amount for water, I wouldn't doubt if she was hoping the you and your cousin would pay the whole bill while she was in there. Then she had the nerve to complain that everyone should have waited for her rather than apologizing for her untimely disappearing act.

Fourth, after doing the other three annoying things above, she had the nerve to text you on the way home. Not to apologize, but to complain some more.

I wouldn't say anything to her. I just wouldn't invite her next time. She sounds quite annoying.

Also, like another poster stated, I'm from the US and we'd just ask for separate checks in the first place. Is that not a thing there?

Busybeemumm · 25/04/2025 23:35

twopintsofHPsauce · 25/04/2025 23:28

I have read the OP four times. Each time it makes even less sense (I think I got too hung up on the inclusion of the information that someone who was invited didn't go and as such couldn't have been involved, wasn't involved, and bore not relevance to the "drama". Also with the word "drama" in the title I could tell it was going to be full-on).

The only thing I can decifer is that someone is quibbling about £2 on a meal that cost almost £100 (which in itself is on another level altogether) so on that point alone I think the person refusing to pay it is being an arse, however, if the vibe I'm getting from that first post is anything to go by, I think they all deserve each other.

But it's the extra details which make this post so special -another person declined invite, lipstick on the glasses...

Littlemisscapable · 25/04/2025 23:33

LardoBurrows · 25/04/2025 23:24

You are all unreasonable not to have left the waiter a tip, especially as he had to hang around while you got your calculators out and counted out your money to the last penny and your friend and her DD took the longest dump in history. What a bunch of miserable, tight-fisted fuckers.

This. What AM I reading here?!

Chopsticks001 · 25/04/2025 23:31

Borring

Mickeychampionwhatgoodami · 25/04/2025 23:31

What nonsensical crap..

fashionqueen0123 · 25/04/2025 23:30

I agree imagine acting like this then no tip. I’d be mortified.

BlossomMoon · 25/04/2025 23:29

What a performance 🙄
I bet the poor waiter was glad when you left.
I can just imagine his face stood their watching and listening to you all quibbling over £2
Then to add insult to injury, you never left a tip.

Busybeemumm · 25/04/2025 23:29

Rainbow1235 · 25/04/2025 23:06

Peaple have real problems goin on and u are stressing over basically nothing . There’s enough drama and upset in this world without adding to it ,

It's threads like these which are classic mn though. Yes there are more important things going on in the world but still £2 is £2😅

Tbrh · 25/04/2025 23:29

doodleschnoodle · 25/04/2025 21:19

What a lot of fuss about nothing.

This. Although, you should all be paying if you drank it and nobody asked for tap water

twopintsofHPsauce · 25/04/2025 23:28

I have read the OP four times. Each time it makes even less sense (I think I got too hung up on the inclusion of the information that someone who was invited didn't go and as such couldn't have been involved, wasn't involved, and bore not relevance to the "drama". Also with the word "drama" in the title I could tell it was going to be full-on).

The only thing I can decifer is that someone is quibbling about £2 on a meal that cost almost £100 (which in itself is on another level altogether) so on that point alone I think the person refusing to pay it is being an arse, however, if the vibe I'm getting from that first post is anything to go by, I think they all deserve each other.

mondaytosunday · 25/04/2025 23:25

Of course her dd is an adult. Bill should be split by four. Unless one if you ordered alcoholic drinks then those should be paid separately.
rReally cannot understand being this petty.

LardoBurrows · 25/04/2025 23:24

You are all unreasonable not to have left the waiter a tip, especially as he had to hang around while you got your calculators out and counted out your money to the last penny and your friend and her DD took the longest dump in history. What a bunch of miserable, tight-fisted fuckers.

Lotsofsnacks · 25/04/2025 23:17

scoopoftheday · 25/04/2025 21:43

I'm still laughing at "and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards."

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ha ha so many important minor details in this thread 😂😂. Can’t blame them though, best to try for a wee before a car journey

Rainbow1235 · 25/04/2025 23:06

Peaple have real problems goin on and u are stressing over basically nothing . There’s enough drama and upset in this world without adding to it ,

sesquipedalian · 25/04/2025 23:04

What a storm in a teacup. I hope you’re never going to this restaurant again - quibbling over two quid and then not leaving a tip? Are you a bunch of teenagers?

Sofiewoo · 25/04/2025 23:04

Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:55

She is pissed because you split the cost of your drinks (bottled water) but not hers (wine and coffee). It will be a principle thing I'm sure which I kind of get but wouldn't kick off over £2

She had a glass of the water! It’s not remotely comparable to her coffee or glass of wine.

theleafandnotthetree · 25/04/2025 23:03

All that fuss and the poor bloody waiter didn't even get a tip. He's the only one in this sorry/soggy saga I have sympathy for. Anyone who can be so self indulgent and/or financially comfortable to pay this kind of money per head for a lunch should be ashamed of themselves for arguing over £2 but especially for not leaving a tip.

Matronic6 · 25/04/2025 23:02

I think it's not so much about the £2, but more about the personalities. They both just want to be right.

Stay out of it and let them sort it out themselves.

Busybeemumm · 25/04/2025 23:00

I don't think the real issue here is the water. I think your friend thought the whole bill might be split 3 ways or something else annoyed her. Same for your cousin as might be annoyed your friend came with her 18 year old daughter. Whatever it is, it's not really about the money or the water. The £2 is a red herring.

Flytrap01 · 25/04/2025 22:59

The entire episode is a case study in social over-sensitivity and communication breakdown. If blame must be apportioned, the friend was most unreasonable in response, but the cousin's assumptions created the groundwork.

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