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Meal Drama over £2

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:16

My cousin invited myself and two other women out for a 'taster meal session.' I accepted right away. Another declined and the other woman my good friend stated she would come along. Today was the day of the meal and my friend came with her 18 year old daughter. We all sat together in a group of 4. When asked by the waitress regarding still and sparkling water, my cousin stated still. The waitress came back and poured the water into all 4 glasses. At some point during the meal my cousin went to drink some water and she noticed a lipstick stain, it seems my friend had drank from her glass and her own by mistake, it didn't seem like much, it seemed like only a few sips from the glasses as the majority of water was still in the glasses. My cousin asked for a new glass and my friend started to drink out of her own personal water bottle and didn't drink again from the glasses. My friends daughter also drank the still water.

My cousin asked for more water and I drew her attention to the fact she said still at first and did she mean it, she stated no and said she had meant tap. The waitress came back with more water and started to pour it into the glasses, my friend stopped her stating she didn't drink tap water. We continued on with the meal and had a great meal, ordering drinks etc. I believe my cousin asked for the bill and then my friend and daughter said they needed to go to the bathroom. The bill came before they left to the bathroom. The waiter stood waiting and my cousin asked if he could come back later, we did also mention the two other guests were in the toilet as he thought they had left for some reason. I added my bill up and my cousin added her bill up and I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill. The waiter came back and asked if we were paying now, I think it had been around six minutes since he had been at our table. My cousin paid and then asked are you paying and the waiter came over to me and asked how much I was paying, so I told him my portion and paid.

My friend and her daughter came back and sat down. As she was looking at the bill I tried to explain it to her twice and she looked annoyed and said yes yes, I know. As a discount on the bill had not been clear, I had wanted to explain it. I couldn't even explain to her that the water had been split 4 ways. She called the waiter over to pay and I asked her how much she was paying and she stated £94 and I stated the balance was £96. She looked visibly upset and said why was she paying for the water and if she was it was suppose to be split 3 ways not 4. To tell you the truth I couldn't really understand this argument. So I said her daughter was 18 and should be included in any split. Anyways she paid but was not happy. About 5 minutes after she left I got a text saying she was annoyed and other things, and that annoyed me. My cousin said I will pay her the two pounds give me her account details, but I didn't as I thought that might upset her more, so I texted her saying my cousin would pay, could she pass on her details.

So who is being unreasonable? My cousin or friend? To be fair its such a stupid fight and over £2. It boggles the mind.

I think my cousin should have paid for the water, but we shouldn't have drank any if we weren't prepared to pay towards it, regardless, if the waitress poured us a glass or not.

Also my friend believes we were a bit rude to pay without her and my cousin feels she was a bit rude to go to the bathroom before settling her bill as the bill came before she left, and she wasn't bursting to use it, she was just going to have a try because she had a long journey afterwards. My cousin thinks she could have tried after the meal, as we could have all sat and discussed the bill then.

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Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:55

She is pissed because you split the cost of your drinks (bottled water) but not hers (wine and coffee). It will be a principle thing I'm sure which I kind of get but wouldn't kick off over £2

Namerequired · 25/04/2025 21:54

Yep to spend £40/50 on a meal and argue over £2 is ridiculous. Takes away some of the enjoyment. I still don’t understand what she means about treating her daughter as an adult though. So was that all about splitting the water too?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:54

Ponderingwindow · 25/04/2025 21:52

If people didn’t want water, why didn’t they stop the waiter from pouring them a glass?

exactly, that's what she did with the tap water. So she could have done the same with the still water.

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Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:53

FOJN · 25/04/2025 21:51

OP you seem to need to be in control of everything. Read your post again and see how many times you intervened to sort out things that other people at the table were quite capable of dealing with. I wonder if you are really controlling or more anxious.

There was poor communication all round. I don't think she's upset that you treated her daughter as an adult and split the water 4 ways instead of 3 but because she only had a few sips so doesn't think she owed anything for the water.

I would leave well alone until everyone has calmed down. A bottle of water is really not worth this much hassle.

Yeah, this sounds like good advice. I'm not controlling though, far from it. But she sipped from cousins glass also.

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Ponderingwindow · 25/04/2025 21:52

If people didn’t want water, why didn’t they stop the waiter from pouring them a glass?

Sofiewoo · 25/04/2025 21:52

we're classing her daughter as an adult

It doesn’t matter if the daughter is an adult or a child it’s still your friend’s responsibility to pay for her, not a anyone else.

Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:52

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:48

Her £96 included 2 wines, 1 coffee for her daughter and her portion of the water and her daughters portion of the water.

Ahh OK I was going to say! Seems all a bit OTT, come for tea with us instead it would be more fun!

KellySeveride · 25/04/2025 21:52

I’m going to hazard a guess that your friend was hoping to persuade you to split the whole bill 3 ways but you and your cousin put paid to that fantasy by paying whilst she was in the loo….and that’s what’s pissed her off but she can’t say that because she knows it’s unreasonable so is focusing on the water.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 21:49

Sorry - to go to try to have a piss?

Yes, that's why I believe the waiter was so anxious.

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FOJN · 25/04/2025 21:51

OP you seem to need to be in control of everything. Read your post again and see how many times you intervened to sort out things that other people at the table were quite capable of dealing with. I wonder if you are really controlling or more anxious.

There was poor communication all round. I don't think she's upset that you treated her daughter as an adult and split the water 4 ways instead of 3 but because she only had a few sips so doesn't think she owed anything for the water.

I would leave well alone until everyone has calmed down. A bottle of water is really not worth this much hassle.

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:51

MadCattery · 25/04/2025 21:49

American here. I know we aren't too popular on MN. But, it is so, so normal to say, right at the start while ordering, "Separate checks, please. " and with the mother/daughter, to add "those two are together". It's so normal that if we forget to ask, the server will ask at the end of the meal.

I wish we did that here. I will try to start doing this. But to be honest I won't go out with the both of them together again, I'll go out with them without each other.

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Gremlins101 · 25/04/2025 21:50

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 25/04/2025 21:34

Don't try to understand either side. It's £2.

If it were me I'd say I'm not interested in discussing or anyone falling out over £2. She either accepts the £2 'refund' or its end of the matter.

Providing a resolution means there's no longer a matter of principle angle.

This.

It's ridiculous

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:49

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:49

Yeah, I'll have to send it to you. Nonsense.

absolute nonsense over £2

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MadCattery · 25/04/2025 21:49

American here. I know we aren't too popular on MN. But, it is so, so normal to say, right at the start while ordering, "Separate checks, please. " and with the mother/daughter, to add "those two are together". It's so normal that if we forget to ask, the server will ask at the end of the meal.

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 21:49

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 21:48

They took their coats and bags to go for a piss?

Sorry - to go to try to have a piss?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:49

limebasilandmentalhealth · 25/04/2025 21:48

You owe me £2 after I tried to understand what this issue was all about.

Yeah, I'll have to send it to you. Nonsense.

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whycantibeselfishforonce · 25/04/2025 21:48

I think your friend should have paid the £2 for the water. She drank some and it's £2 fgs. I absolutely hate bill quibbles literally does my head in.

Having said that, I think I would have waited for friend and her DD to come back from the loo and say to her ' Bill is here - right it's X each then - all OK with that?' She might have felt that you pulled a fast one as you sorted the bill when she wasn't there and paid your portion along with your cousin especially as you know she's a tight wad (if that is what you were implying?)

FrodoBiggins · 25/04/2025 21:48

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:35

We paid because the waiter was just hoovering, I think he thought they left, as they took coats, bags, etc. That's why he was so keen for us to pay. To be fair she could have left her coat when she went.

They took their coats and bags to go for a piss?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:48

Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:47

So she paid £96 for something that should have been 80, as your Friend ordered bottled water at what seems like £32???

Her £96 included 2 wines, 1 coffee for her daughter and her portion of the water and her daughters portion of the water.

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limebasilandmentalhealth · 25/04/2025 21:48

You owe me £2 after I tried to understand what this issue was all about.

KilkennyCats · 25/04/2025 21:47

How was tap water even on the bill?

Sorry, I see there was some bottled water

Namerequired · 25/04/2025 21:47

If there’s no tip how did the bill go from 80 to 96 though? Were there other drinks you paid separately?

Nightlightonplease2025 · 25/04/2025 21:47

loropianalover · 25/04/2025 21:44

I asked about the water as I noticed she had attributed a quarter of it. She stated everyone drank from it. I said okay and added a quarter onto my bill.

This is insane!! Jesus who doesn’t just cover £2 for a bit of water…. You both sat there and added 50p on, bloody weird.

It wasn't 50p, I added a quarter of the cost of the water onto my bill. It was almost £5 for the bottled water.

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Helpmysanity · 25/04/2025 21:47

So she paid £96 for something that should have been 80, as your Friend ordered bottled water at what seems like £32???

fashionqueen0123 · 25/04/2025 21:46

I wouldn’t bother going out with that friend again for dinner.

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