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Paddleboarding tragedy (why did she do this?)

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PassingStranger · 25/04/2025 16:55

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/former-cops-grovelling-voice-note-35105323

Did anyone else see this on the news?
4 people died
Horrific, imagine their panic.

What was behind this desire to take them out, when she shouldn't have.
I'll presume it was money sadly.😢

I'm glad she got prison.

Fatal error by 'cowardly' ex-cop that killed four in paddleboarding tragedy

Former police officer Nerys Bethan Lloyd has been jailed for 10 years and six months over the deaths of four paddleboarders in Wales after the "avoidable tragedy"

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/former-cops-grovelling-voice-note-35105323

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Dillshair · 25/04/2025 20:18

I wonder what made them trust her? There are some terrible people hiding in plain sight. I realise this more and more as I get older.

cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 20:17

Gloriia · 25/04/2025 20:12

Yes I don't understand the weir bit. Paddle boarding is generally just standing about on a board, why go down a weir with that narrow fish lane bit?

Did they know they were going to be negotiating a weir? Even without any weather issues the logistics of getting down that would surely have been challenging even for experienced paddle boarders.

I guess if you don't know about weir dangers, then you don't know that they can be dangerous.

I wonder how many people look at a weir and think it would be just fine to go over and what's the worst that can happen?

bellabasset · 25/04/2025 20:14

I live in Cornwall and know that you need to be careful near the sea. Every year there are tragedies when people dobt know the tides. Always swim near a life guarded beach and respect the notices. So sad for tge families who have lost loved ones

BlackWhiteCircle · 25/04/2025 20:13

There’s a really good video of a water tank by a fireman about how a weir works when it’s faster water, horrible watching his little Lego people.

Gloriia · 25/04/2025 20:12

cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 19:43

I do kayaking and some sailing. I can't believe she thought it was a good idea to go on a river, in flood, with a weir. You've got to know your route and weirs are incredibly dangerous. I know people who have bought inflatable kayaks and have drowned when they've gone over a weir.

When you are taking people out, you have a responsibility to them if you claim to be an instructor.

The fact that no route seems to have been discussed, no briefing, no next of kin contacts etc.

Lessons shouldn't need to be learned, These should be known already

Yes I don't understand the weir bit. Paddle boarding is generally just standing about on a board, why go down a weir with that narrow fish lane bit?

Did they know they were going to be negotiating a weir? Even without any weather issues the logistics of getting down that would surely have been challenging even for experienced paddle boarders.

BlackWhiteCircle · 25/04/2025 20:11

People tried to stop her, warned her not to go, some people dropped out after hearing that but she kept going telling them it was fine.

Mydietstartstomorrow · 25/04/2025 20:11

I don’t understand the AIBU and what I’m voting for?

It was a horrific and negligent accident. What is U about it?

RollerCoaster2020 · 25/04/2025 20:08

TheHappyBug · 25/04/2025 20:00

What an awful tragedy. Looking a photos of a weir I would never have guessed they are so dangerous, they look like very small ramps/ledges.

The fish ramp was so narrow, inexperienced people didn’t have a hope in hell of navigating down it.

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Northerngirl821 · 25/04/2025 20:08

I lived in Haverfordwest for several years and nobody in their right mind would try and paddleboard or kayak over that weir if they knew the area. She did the trial run on a day when the tide was high and the river level was low so the weir was barely visible. She just assumed that because it was safe and easy to cross it that day, it would be safe any day. She didn’t even bother to check it before setting off on the trip despite there being a flood warning in place for the Western Cleddau.

If she’d bothered to do even basic research like contacting the local canoeing club she’d have been given very clear advice not to attempt paddling over the weir - there are steps just before you get to the weir where they could have gone ashore and simply carried the boards around the weir before relaunching.

I feel so sad for the families of those who died because this was a completely and utterly avoidable tragedy.

Clarabell77 · 25/04/2025 20:04

cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 19:43

I do kayaking and some sailing. I can't believe she thought it was a good idea to go on a river, in flood, with a weir. You've got to know your route and weirs are incredibly dangerous. I know people who have bought inflatable kayaks and have drowned when they've gone over a weir.

When you are taking people out, you have a responsibility to them if you claim to be an instructor.

The fact that no route seems to have been discussed, no briefing, no next of kin contacts etc.

Lessons shouldn't need to be learned, These should be known already

I read that the other instructor who worked for her tried to get her to change the route because of the conditions, but she insisted on going that way as it would be more exciting…

Yorkshirelass444 · 25/04/2025 20:03

Seventree · 25/04/2025 18:10

The other instructor, the one that actually raised concerns and suggested a different route, went in to help.

Any sympathy she deserved for it being a mistake or lapse of judgement is completely removed by the fact that she left those people to drown due to her own stupidity rather than doing everything in her power to help. She absolutely deserves 10 years, those poor families.

She also attempted to shift significant blame onto her dead colleague
This woman is low

cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 20:02

TheHappyBug · 25/04/2025 20:00

What an awful tragedy. Looking a photos of a weir I would never have guessed they are so dangerous, they look like very small ramps/ledges.

The fish ramp was so narrow, inexperienced people didn’t have a hope in hell of navigating down it.

It's the way the water flows over it and washes around a bit like a washing machine.

It's very hard to get out of it

TheHappyBug · 25/04/2025 20:00

What an awful tragedy. Looking a photos of a weir I would never have guessed they are so dangerous, they look like very small ramps/ledges.

The fish ramp was so narrow, inexperienced people didn’t have a hope in hell of navigating down it.

MrsMappFlint · 25/04/2025 19:51

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 17:46

Don't think it was murder

Lives were lost as a direct consequence of her actions.

She didn't set out to kill them, so it's not murder but if she hadn't acted the way she did-her actions-then four souls would be alive today. She showed no remorse-she lied and tried to blame a dead colleague.

I imagine that's why she got 2 years six months for each life that was lost-which seems pretty lenient to me.

Four people will no longer feel the sun on their back, no longer laugh, no longer see their loved one, no longer cry, no longer sleep, no longer breathe because of her actions. She condemned them to darkness.

I think the sentence should have reflected that and been 5 years for each life which is still lenient.

Somethingsnapped · 25/04/2025 19:50

Muddywellies10 · 25/04/2025 18:57

This was very serious negligence. The weather that day was atrocious (with associated warnings) and she did no risk assessments and did not cancel.
I live locally and when this happened there was astonishment that anyone would have even considered trying to paddle board over the weir, particularly in those conditions. This was not a local group - they had travelled down and trusted their leaders to have assessed this.

Absolutely tragic but avoidable, so I do think the 10 year sentence is appropriate.

Yes, and according to the reports, the people on the trip did not know they were going to be going down a weir at all. She went successfully down the very narrow fish pass, and everyone else just fell down over the weir. Horrific. I know this part of Wales very well. It's just awful walking along that river and thinking about what happened to them.

Fossilhunters · 25/04/2025 19:50

PassingStranger · 25/04/2025 19:45

She was the boss, he told her it wasn't a good idea, but she ignored him.

Fair enough however he could have stood his ground. I’m not blaming him at all but I do wonder how thing would have turned out if he’d survived. At least there was text message evidence of him saying it wasn’t a good idea.

AchillesAndPatroclus · 25/04/2025 19:48

I was going to book with this company for me and my daughter the same year, but chose surfing at the last minute. 🙏

Reading about the case has been truly harrowing.

cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 19:46

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 19:33

Decades ago near me a scout group died in similar circumstances, got pulled over a weir and drowned. Apparently the extra oxygen in the water makes it much harder to be boyant which combined with the weight of water pushing down on you makes it very difficult to escape. These risks are known and should have been known to her. You can’t expect novices to know though, they’d have trusted her.

It's the bubbles. All those bubbles make it harder to be buoyant.

https://www.yorkshirepost.co.uk/news/people/inexperienced-kayaker-43-died-after-capsizing-on-swollen-river-ure-near-ripon-3517340

It's so easy to buy water sports equipment but the water must be respected

PassingStranger · 25/04/2025 19:45

Fossilhunters · 25/04/2025 19:43

There was video footage of her with the police a lot further down the river - she’d tried to phone the other instructor and could t get an answer. I’m not condoning her behaviour but those who are saying she didn’t go in to save the people - she couldn’t - she’d been taken way downstream by the flow.

I have wondered if the other instructor, if he’d survived would he have been held accountable too? Had they taken responsibility for this trip jointly?

She was the boss, he told her it wasn't a good idea, but she ignored him.

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cakeorwine · 25/04/2025 19:43

I do kayaking and some sailing. I can't believe she thought it was a good idea to go on a river, in flood, with a weir. You've got to know your route and weirs are incredibly dangerous. I know people who have bought inflatable kayaks and have drowned when they've gone over a weir.

When you are taking people out, you have a responsibility to them if you claim to be an instructor.

The fact that no route seems to have been discussed, no briefing, no next of kin contacts etc.

Lessons shouldn't need to be learned, These should be known already

Fossilhunters · 25/04/2025 19:43

There was video footage of her with the police a lot further down the river - she’d tried to phone the other instructor and could t get an answer. I’m not condoning her behaviour but those who are saying she didn’t go in to save the people - she couldn’t - she’d been taken way downstream by the flow.

I have wondered if the other instructor, if he’d survived would he have been held accountable too? Had they taken responsibility for this trip jointly?

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 19:35

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 19:33

Decades ago near me a scout group died in similar circumstances, got pulled over a weir and drowned. Apparently the extra oxygen in the water makes it much harder to be boyant which combined with the weight of water pushing down on you makes it very difficult to escape. These risks are known and should have been known to her. You can’t expect novices to know though, they’d have trusted her.

I remembered this incorrectly, it was actually soldiers not scouts.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-nottinghamshire-34347337

RAF helicopter at Cromwell Weir

Cromwell Weir tragedy: Service remembers dead soldiers

Ten soldiers, who were killed after their boat went over a weir on the River Trent 40 years ago, are commemorated at a service.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-nottinghamshire-34347337

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 19:33

Decades ago near me a scout group died in similar circumstances, got pulled over a weir and drowned. Apparently the extra oxygen in the water makes it much harder to be boyant which combined with the weight of water pushing down on you makes it very difficult to escape. These risks are known and should have been known to her. You can’t expect novices to know though, they’d have trusted her.

PassingStranger · 25/04/2025 19:31

She's been out on bail all this time I suppose.
That must have been so hard for the families.

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AngelicKaty · 25/04/2025 19:31

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 16:58

I assume she thought it was safe otherwise she wouldn't have risked her own life. Crazy and reckless, she wasn't qualified for river trips I don't think, only lakes? Just arrogance that she knew better. Wasn't she also suspended from the police for suspected fraud at the time, so not a nice person.

I was surprised she got 10 years though, did not think she'd get that long.

10 years isn't actually long enough when you consider that four people lost their lives due to her negligence. 😞