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Paddleboarding tragedy (why did she do this?)

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PassingStranger · 25/04/2025 16:55

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/former-cops-grovelling-voice-note-35105323

Did anyone else see this on the news?
4 people died
Horrific, imagine their panic.

What was behind this desire to take them out, when she shouldn't have.
I'll presume it was money sadly.😢

I'm glad she got prison.

Fatal error by 'cowardly' ex-cop that killed four in paddleboarding tragedy

Former police officer Nerys Bethan Lloyd has been jailed for 10 years and six months over the deaths of four paddleboarders in Wales after the "avoidable tragedy"

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/former-cops-grovelling-voice-note-35105323

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T1Dmama · 27/04/2025 20:47

CamillaMacauley · 25/04/2025 16:58

I assume she thought it was safe otherwise she wouldn't have risked her own life. Crazy and reckless, she wasn't qualified for river trips I don't think, only lakes? Just arrogance that she knew better. Wasn't she also suspended from the police for suspected fraud at the time, so not a nice person.

I was surprised she got 10 years though, did not think she'd get that long.

She’ll only do 5 years - so not even 1.5 years per victim.

PassingStranger · 27/04/2025 17:26

One month she won best business of the year
Really

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cakeorwine · 27/04/2025 09:59

FiremanDan · 27/04/2025 09:48

Didn’t she get sacked from the police because of insurance fraud? Or did that come later?

From the report

"Much has been made of the fact that you were running your Salty Dog business whilst first suspended from firearms duty and then off sick with stress and anxiety and continued to run it even after permission for your sideline business had been withdrawn by your employer. It is an unattractive feature of the case that does not reflect well on you, but it does not amount to an aggravating feature

FiremanDan · 27/04/2025 09:48

cakeorwine · 27/04/2025 09:22

At the time, she was on sick leave from the police with stress.

So running a business and getting paid by the police at the same time.

Didn’t she get sacked from the police because of insurance fraud? Or did that come later?

cakeorwine · 27/04/2025 09:22

FiremanDan · 27/04/2025 09:15

This. I’ve met a few narcissist types who think they can get away with anything they want and who are generally deluded and believe they are capable of things that others aren’t. Apparently she was posting happy photos of herself partying, on social media only a few days later. That fits with the sort of personality type described.

At the time, she was on sick leave from the police with stress.

So running a business and getting paid by the police at the same time.

Pleaseshutthefuckup · 27/04/2025 09:20

When I first read it,I was shocked and thought it was a very extreme response.

Once I read the entire story,I could see why she was given that sentence.

So arrogant and pointless loss of lives.

FiremanDan · 27/04/2025 09:15

SwanOfThoseThings · 25/04/2025 17:22

Reading about her being sacked from the police and having a caution for fraud, I formed the impression she was a chancer - always assuming she would get away with reckless behaviour.

This. I’ve met a few narcissist types who think they can get away with anything they want and who are generally deluded and believe they are capable of things that others aren’t. Apparently she was posting happy photos of herself partying, on social media only a few days later. That fits with the sort of personality type described.

crankycurmudgeon · 27/04/2025 09:13

sashh · 27/04/2025 03:20

@jasflowers could you explain a bit more about weirs and the functions of the various bits? Or point me in the direction of a 'weirs for dummies' type website?

I'm not a fan of water deeper than a metre and preferably not moving water.

See my post above, but also the link below for a much more detailed explanation: https://practical.engineering/blog/2019/3/16/drowning-machine-the-dangers-of-low-head-dams

Drowning Machine: The Dangers of Low Head Dams — Practical Engineering

Dams serve a wide variety of purposes from hydropower to flood control to storage of water for municipal and industrials uses. But when a dam’s useful purpose fades away, the structure itself still remains. Dams come in all shapes and sizes, but contra...

https://practical.engineering/blog/2019/3/16/drowning-machine-the-dangers-of-low-head-dams

crankycurmudgeon · 27/04/2025 09:08

I used to do a lot of white water kayaking and when I read about the story I immediately knew what kind of weir the one in Haverfordwest would be. First photo I saw confirmed it.

That kind of weir, with a vertical drop off, is notoriously dangerous. So much so that they are colloquially known as 'drowning machines' among white water paddlers. Even without the river being in flood, it's an extreme hazard because the water circulates and drags you constantly back towards the weir. With the river in flood it's only luck that they didn't all drown.

It's not a matter of experience, these weirs are extremely dangerous no matter how much experience you have, as demonstrated by the death of the instructor who was very fit and experienced in watersports.

You always come out and 'portage' (walk with your watercraft) round a hazard like that. The fact she didn't do this suggests she had absolutely no idea of the risks of moving water. Honestly, it is pretty much the first thing you learn when you do the most basic moving water safety course.

Paddleboarding tragedy (why did she do this?)
Gloriia · 27/04/2025 08:46

'there was no safety briefing and the participants were not even told about the weir.'

This is staggering, how on earth did she think they'd navigate it? Understandable if on kayaks perhaps but paddleboarding is a standing thing isn't it?

Were they all beginners do we know?

helpfulperson · 27/04/2025 07:41

In response to the 'could it happen again' the answer is yes. Currently there is strict regulation of offering adventurous activities to Children but the only legislation covering adults is the general health & safety legislation. It is only because of the extreme nature of the failures in this case that they were able to bring gross negligence charges against her.

It is a very difficult area to legislate because no matter what you do there is an inherent risk in all watersports, mountaineering activities etc that can be reduced significantly but never eliminated without changing the activity. Walking on a ridge with 1000 ft drops will always have the risk of falling off no matter how well run. I think there also needs to be more to ensure people understand the risks and accept them if they chose.

Inthebleakmidwinter1 · 27/04/2025 06:59

It was Gross negligence. It wasn’t just a poor decision in the day. She had no risk assessment, she wasn’t qualified,
there was no safety briefing and the participants were not even told about the weir. She’s not right in the head clearly.

jasflowers · 27/04/2025 06:47

latetothefisting · 26/04/2025 20:43

no, obviously not?
Did you even read my post? I have no idea how you managed to get the exact opposite from what I actually said.

I was replying to a poster that said "Paddle boards are for flat calm water" as an absolute statement. It was literally embedded in my post and I then repeated it in bold to indicate this was what I was specifically responding to

I was only saying that this isn't always true, and people can/do use paddleboards in different types of water, but then went on to specify that this wasn't what happened in this case.

Literally nowhere did I say or even suggest that paddleboard surfing was what these people were doing, just that it is something that does exist.

Edited

Yes i could have added "at their level of skill" but thats pretty obvious isn't it?

cakeorwine · 27/04/2025 06:07

latetothefisting · 26/04/2025 19:16

Paddle boards are for flat calm water.

Well, not necessarily. Paddleboard surfing is a thing, but usually with slightly different safety features/sometimes a smaller board etc.

Even just normal paddleboarding in the sea is rarely completely flat or calm.
It's about properly preparing for conditions/location and to some extent ability of participants, although as I said above that last factor didn't really make a difference in this case.

The majority of their journey on that day would have been fine if they'd just taken their boards out just before the weir and then got back on after (as a sign by their launch point specifically advised).

It doesn't look like they were well prepared for what they had planned to do for the day.

Few people wearing PFDs
Inadequate clothing for the day
It was late October when it happened. The river and the estuary wouldn't have been that warm.
A river in flood. What was the current like downstream?
It someone had fallen in upstream of the weir, they could easily have been swept towards the weir
If someone had fallen in downstream, they could have been swept along with the current and would have been at risk of hypothermia

It was a poorly planned trip - and the people on it seemed to have some prior experience of paddle boarding so should have taken some responsibility themselves for appropriate clothing and PFDs even if they were paying to go on the trip.

There should have been a risk assessment done - including clothing requirements and PFD requirements.

sashh · 27/04/2025 03:20

@jasflowers could you explain a bit more about weirs and the functions of the various bits? Or point me in the direction of a 'weirs for dummies' type website?

I'm not a fan of water deeper than a metre and preferably not moving water.

EdgyGreyUser · 27/04/2025 03:06

WhoAreYouTalkingTo · 25/04/2025 18:05

She will be out in 4 years, that's the travesty here

She will serve the whole sentence because when let out of prison early, she will be on licence and will be supervise and will have a few specific conditions to obey.

dogcatkitten · 26/04/2025 21:15

Stupidity and over confidence. She was confident she knew what she was doing and was too stupid to realise she didn't, no excuse at all..

verityveritas · 26/04/2025 21:11

passingstranger to go back to your earlier question of could this happen again? Yes of course, I mean obviously you’d hope anyone with a gung-ho attitude would re-think given her prison sentence, but unfortunately you get chancers in every walk of life, yes there might be more regulation, but she wasn’t qualified to take them out in those conditions anyway, so further regulation doesn’t necessarily mean improved safety. There already is a certain amount of regulation, Lloyd ignored health and safety which is why she was given a ten year sentence (2 years per manslaughter charge +2 years for H & S breach).
Hopefully more weir owners will look to make weirs safer, and I believer the HFW weir will now have improved signage warning of the dangers, and further construction to reduce the force of the hydraulic jump (it was suppose to have had a structure added either side of the fish pass, to make it easier to exit, but from reading the report, it seems this wasn’t under taken.
I think water safety should be added to the PHSE syllabus at schools, I mean the physics in itself is really interesting, but education would be the best way forward, especially given the amount of rivers and coastline the UK has!

PassingStranger · 26/04/2025 21:05

Fossilhunters · 26/04/2025 21:01

If you look at her Facebook profile and read some of the victim impact statements you’ll get a feel for the type of woman she was. I can’t believe she carried on going on holiday, socialising, just carried on as normal really. Paul and his wife lived ‘less than 10 metres away’ from her if you read the wife’s statements. Must have been so painful to watch her, an ex friend carry on as normal and blame your husband.

What a terrible thing to happen to them all. The more I read about it all the worse I feel about it. It’s just awful and if any good comes of this it’s that other people remember this tragedy and go into these potentially dangerous but easy to access hobbies with their eyes open to safety.

Yes I read it, the deaths caused a big fall obviously and a division of loyalty between friends.

I think she tried to blame her co.instructor but he was the one who told her not to go that route
He also died trying to save people
She thought it would be exciting to go the route she did.

Yes love really exciting not.
People are dead, friendships ruined and your in prison.

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Fossilhunters · 26/04/2025 21:01

If you look at her Facebook profile and read some of the victim impact statements you’ll get a feel for the type of woman she was. I can’t believe she carried on going on holiday, socialising, just carried on as normal really. Paul and his wife lived ‘less than 10 metres away’ from her if you read the wife’s statements. Must have been so painful to watch her, an ex friend carry on as normal and blame your husband.

What a terrible thing to happen to them all. The more I read about it all the worse I feel about it. It’s just awful and if any good comes of this it’s that other people remember this tragedy and go into these potentially dangerous but easy to access hobbies with their eyes open to safety.

Hmm1234 · 26/04/2025 21:01

Massive ego trip. She also was an ex police officer shows how corrupt they are. Also the people going must of been massive thrill seekers- some even refused to wear life vests- at the costs of their lives. Shocking and sad the whole story

nomas · 26/04/2025 20:48

jasflowers · 26/04/2025 17:23

Going down this structure isn't safe, fall off either side and you re in a closed stopper with no escape, the fish ladder wall effectively locks you the stopper.

Even if you don't, you risk being pulled back into the face of the Weir, tow back can be many meters.

She was a fucking idiot and to some extent so were the people with her, even with no training, Weirs in flood are scary places, no one in their right mind goes near them.

Paddle boards are for flat calm water.

Going down this structure isn't safe

Safer than tumbling down into the weir. She didn’t even give them that modicum chance of safety.

latetothefisting · 26/04/2025 20:43

330ml · 26/04/2025 19:32

Well, not necessarily. Paddleboard surfing is a thing.

For beginners? On a swollen river?

no, obviously not?
Did you even read my post? I have no idea how you managed to get the exact opposite from what I actually said.

I was replying to a poster that said "Paddle boards are for flat calm water" as an absolute statement. It was literally embedded in my post and I then repeated it in bold to indicate this was what I was specifically responding to

I was only saying that this isn't always true, and people can/do use paddleboards in different types of water, but then went on to specify that this wasn't what happened in this case.

Literally nowhere did I say or even suggest that paddleboard surfing was what these people were doing, just that it is something that does exist.

PassingStranger · 26/04/2025 20:42

FeetLikeFlippers · 26/04/2025 19:32

I imagine she was thought she could make a quick buck by jumping on the latest bandwagon/Intstagram craze, which I think says a lot about her. Exploitative, lazy, mercenary. 10 years is a joke for being so reckless.

Think your probably somewhat right about the social media aspect.

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FeetLikeFlippers · 26/04/2025 19:32

I imagine she was thought she could make a quick buck by jumping on the latest bandwagon/Intstagram craze, which I think says a lot about her. Exploitative, lazy, mercenary. 10 years is a joke for being so reckless.