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Weird and offensive or I am overreacting?

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RememberThatGuy · 25/04/2025 07:35

Quick sense check here please - my husband just left for work and as usual he sends me a nice message from the car. today’s message was a bit weird and I have taken offence at it but am I over reacting? I have attached a screenshot but the message boils down to “have a nice day, I have made your lunch, remember you have a husband”

I admit I am on the defensive because yesterday he left without saying bye, then when I questioned it he pretended nothing was wrong. Then eventually admitted that he was a bit moody and apologised.

For context I do not have amnesia or dementia, I have never cheated or not returned home from work or in anyway at all forgotten that I am married.

Weird and offensive or I am overreacting?
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2025isavibe · 25/04/2025 07:54

I'd read it that he's not feeling appreciated by you

TasWair · 25/04/2025 07:53

It's "remember you have a husband" as in "remember you have someone who loves you." I think you overreacted and owe him an apology.

DrinkReprehensibly · 25/04/2025 07:53

I agree, that's strange. Almost implies you might be unfaithful today!

LongHoliday01 · 25/04/2025 07:52

It is a bit weird but don’t analyse it too much.

Sherararara · 25/04/2025 07:51

You come across as controlling and frankly weird.

Wolfpa · 25/04/2025 07:51

Do you often start your day by starting a fight?

FaceOrf · 25/04/2025 07:50

I think it was a weird thing to say and implies he thinks you’re not giving him enough attention and that he does a lot for you and it isn’t reciprocated.

AlloftheTime · 25/04/2025 07:48

Goodness!
take a breath, start the day again with a thank you for the lunch/dinner. message to him.

maybe less messages and more irl conversation.

Is there a backstory here?

Neverenoughbiscuits · 25/04/2025 07:48

Clumsily worded but he went on to explain it in his next message. I think your response is weirder.

Jellycatspyjamas · 25/04/2025 07:48

I think you’re overthinking and jumping to offence, he was being flirty and did something kind for you.

BeansCounter · 25/04/2025 07:48

Have you not been intimate in a while? That's what that nods to for me.

Perhaps, he's feeling like he gives and you take.

FumbDucker · 25/04/2025 07:44

This is just flirty surely, do you not normally joke with one another? He is not suggesting you have dementia or amnesia, what an odd thing to immediately assume he meant. Weird.

DisplayPurposesOnly · 25/04/2025 07:44

A bit weird but you have made a mountain out of a molehill.

Top tip - don't have these kinds of discussions over text. Do it in person.

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