Charity starts at home

So start your own donation campaign! I’m sure there are a lot of like minded people who agree with you. Problem solved!

I don’t understand why you felt the need to comment in the first place. If you don’t want to donate, don’t. Not up to you to dictate what other people fundraise for.

Organise something yourself- lazy!!

How convenient. Perhaps next time it would be better to keep your opinions to yourself. And of course, put your money where your mouth is and do a collection of your own

Yes OP, you did say something wrong. She wasn’t an asking the question “What she should be collecting donations for” she was asking for donations to a cause she had already picked.

If she was asking for ideas for a cause your comment would have been appropriate.

Do you see the difference?

Also you are being unreasonable to think any FB interaction will be in any way productive.

ETA; that’s great that you have an opinion. There is a saying where I’m from “Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one” meaning just because you have an opinion about something yours isn’t special or correct. So keep it covered. It’s crude but accurate.

Your opinion is just that, yours. So don’t donate to her cause. I’m sure you can understand the difference between having an underfunded council, and being at actual war though. It’s fine not to donate to a cause you don’t believe it, it’s not fine to put others down and tell them what to do, particularly when you don’t even no them.

You go fundraise for your town, she can fundraise for what she likes, if you don't want to give then scroll on, no need to share your views.

Why? I don't know the people anyway and I live in an area with lots of rude, racist chavs. I'd rather donate to children in need in my country of origin where there is no benefit to support them at all.

I volunteer at a local food bank, for local people. I also help organise fundraisers for our local Mencap because my disabled daughter benefits from it and I want to give something back. On top of that I help fundraise for aid to the people of Ukraine. I can do all this because I'm retired but not useless.

Perhaps this lady already supports her local community in some way. I wouldn't rule that out. When all's said and done, as difficult times are in this country, we don't have to live with the terror of war. Charity may begin at home but it shouldn't end there.

Are the people in your local community being shelled with bombs? Are they going through periods without electricity and water? Are families being ripped apart as sons/husbands/fathers are being forced to go to war (and possibly not coming back!)? Is your local community constantly living in fear, not knowing when the Russians will take over? Is your local community at risk of being annexed to a country run by a sadistic dictator? Need I go on? If none of things apply to your seaside resort, I'd say you are being wildly unreasonable.

So, you are not wrong that sometimes people pay more attention to good causes that are in the news a lot. Sometimes because they are just more aware of them or sometimes because they seem more glamorous. Sometimes the person may have a connection to the cause you don't know about.

People can be very blind to great need close by.

Also - often the kind of collecting she is doing isn't really useful to the people she is trying to help. It can be more effective to try and address the needs in your own community where you can see what is needed and know the people.

However: generally, unless you are in a position to know about this person well, even if you think their work isn't the most useful, it's best to just leave her to it. She is acting, as far as you can see, from a desire to to good. you could instead be inspired to do some community work of your own.

If there was some more serious reason you felt you needed to point out a problem with the project, I'd do it privatly, not openly on a public page.

I know someone who lost their much loved greyhound, and set up a fundraiser in his memory. They raised over $250k (Australian dollars). They got shit for not giving it to homeless etc.
You are free to set up your own charity events and fundraisers for things that mean a lot to you. Criticising people who are raising money for other causes is not got to help you one jot.

Then start a collection. Or do something. So far, all you’ve done is criticize someone doing something to help people.

This is the thing. Red faced ranters going on about immigrants and foreign aid. Yet they're not handing out blankets or soup or campaigning for better services. They are voting for parties that consistently put people on the streets though.

Yes. YABVVVU. You should be ashamed of yourself but I expect you're proud of your views? Are you near Clacton?

Yes, we do definitely have challenges here, but we aren't living our lives wondering if our house is going to be bombed or our children are going to be killed by Putin's army.
We as a country can do something proactive about the challenges we face in our communities. They cannot stop the invasion of their country.
If there is a local cause you are passionate about, I kindly suggest you look at fundraising for that yourself.

How much fundraising and volunteering do you do? I've been involved with food banks and pantries for years, and the loudest, most 'virtuous' keyboard warriors are always those who are are far too busy to actually do anything themselves.

Btw in my experience the type of people who say “charity begins at home” are also the type of people who wouldn’t give the poor and vulnerable of said home the steam off their own piss.

Oh dear. You miserable busybody.

Yes you are being unreasonable to complain however “kindly” 🙄at this lady doing something charitable. If charity does indeed start at home get off your arse and start something yourself.

I think it was horrible of you to criticise someone trying to do a good thing. Nothing to stop you doing a good thing, but oh no, that’s too much trouble, why not just be mean to someone who’s a better person than you are?

The people who do nothing really need to stop criticizing those actually doing things and making a difference.

why can’t you raise money for your area since you feel strongly about it?

What is it that you’re currently doing to resolve these local issues that donating to or helping Ukraine would affect