AIBU please?
My DP was talking today about how one of his friends had a cleaner. The cleaner arrived early and DP’s friend was just getting out of the shower: long story short, the woman offered DP’s friend a ‘massage’. He declined and told my DP - who said that his friend shouldn’t tell his wife.
When I asked why my DP had said not to tell his wife, he replied that the cleaner didn’t deserve to lose her job because of ‘a mistake’ and that the wife would probably ‘overreact’ and sack the cleaner.
I think it’s pretty fundamental in a relationship to communicate about things like this and asked if he’d do the same to me - he said he’d have to think ‘carefully’ about this.
We have gone around in circles and now I am starting to doubt my sanity - this is something that shouldn’t be withheld from your partner isn’t it? Like if someone in your home has acted in a way incompatible with your relationship, then this should be discussed?
However, I would appreciate other perspectives please. Thank you so much in advance.