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Is it a red flag if someone doesn't have any close friends?

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Brunocatmon · 24/04/2025 19:49

I know everyone is different, im very outgoing, I have a lot of friends, more than a handful of who I would consider to be close friends then a few besties.

I'm in my 50's.

Would you consider it a red flag if a person in their 40's only had one close friend, and one

OP posts:
Fidgety31 · 24/04/2025 19:54

I would see this kind of judgment of another person as more of a red flag tbh.

Not everyone is able to have many friends and some don’t want friends either. We are all different and you shouldn’t judge a person by a circumstance that might be out of their control .

Pringlebeak · 24/04/2025 19:54

God I hope not or I'm buggered.

Emotionalsupporthamster · 24/04/2025 19:53

No I don’t think so. Many of the most toxic people I’ve known have had many friends, inexplicably. One good friend is worth many middling ones.

Original poster
Brunocatmon · 24/04/2025 19:53

Its difficult to explain what I mean. Don't most people have more than 2 friends by middle age?

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ItGhoul · 24/04/2025 19:51

A red flag? Red flag for what? Being less outgoing than you?

BakelikeBertha · 24/04/2025 19:51

Why would it be a red flag OP, lots of people don't have many or any friends, all depends on their circumstances I would have thought.

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