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Being unhappy with your job affects your whole life

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SophieH91 · 24/04/2025 18:53

I had a bit of a debate with my other half earlier and would welcome some MN wisdom!

I’m really fed up with work currently, just stagnant and at a dead end. I’ve always been quite career focused, climbed 2/3 roles quite quickly and now earn reasonable money but I’m just not getting the satisfaction any more. I can do the job easily and have been in my current role nearly 3 years. I’ve had a couple of unsuccessful interviews for roles elsewhere in the company which are little to no salary increase but would give a fresh challenge.

I feel like it’s impacting me outside of work now, low motivation, not looking toward to work on a Sunday and feeling a bit down about my prospects as I’m only in my mid 30’s and have a lot of work left to do.

DH says I should just switch off and be thankful I have a fairly well paid job with good perks in terms of work/life balance. I wish I was this way but I can’t help shaking the feeling I am at a dead end.

I’ve debated career changing but it would be a big drop in salary initially to retrain and I’m struggling to get past that in my mind.

YABU - be grateful and get on with it
YANBU - it’s understandable it is impacting non-work life

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Toomuch2019 · 24/04/2025 19:02

You spend a huge chunks of your life at work. And sorry to be blunt but, one day you will die.

Don’t waste your one wild and precious life with something unfulfilling if you can get a quality of life you need doing something more fulfilling. Not everyone has this choice, so many folks in this world need to do something they dislike to survive. Money past the point of your base needs being met is just money. Only you can decide what this point is. But it’s a con to think that more of it can make up
for being happier overall everyday.

SharpOpalNewt · 24/04/2025 18:58

Yeah it definitely does affect your whole life. We spend so much of our lives working. Hope you find something else soon, OP.

SophieH91 · 24/04/2025 18:57

canthavethatonethen · 24/04/2025 18:56

And your DH's job - how's that? Happy and fulfilled is he, and progressing well in his career?

He’s far more content with his job (not passionate about it, just turns up gets on with it and goes home) and not looking to progress.

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Donttalkaboutit · 24/04/2025 18:57

I had a hard year in work last year and it almost destroyed me. Yanbu.

canthavethatonethen · 24/04/2025 18:56

And your DH's job - how's that? Happy and fulfilled is he, and progressing well in his career?

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