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To ask my maid of honour not to announce her engagement at my wedding

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Skyhu · 24/04/2025 16:23

I'm getting married next month, my MoH has just told me that she's engaged. Obviously, I'm super happy for her, but we have a lot of mutual friends, and the next time we will see most of them is at our wedding. I don't want to have to ask her, but I just want our day to be about me and my FH.

All advice appreciated!

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SilverButton · 24/04/2025 16:28

YANBU but I imagine by then she'll have told people anyway? Would she really wait to see them in person?

ICanTellYouMissMe · 24/04/2025 16:28

Nah, you absolutely cannot tell her what she can talk to her mates about while she’s spending an entire day with them, you loon 😁

JackieDaytonaLuckyBrews · 24/04/2025 16:27

I wouldn't care personally. She obviously shouldn't do a stand up announcement or speech, but her telling her friends? That's fine. It won't take away from your day.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 24/04/2025 16:27

If she';s already engaged then she can announce it now, so it will have trickled around the group before hand. It's a month away. It is fair enough that you don;t want a public annoucement stealing your limelight on the actual day - but she should be able to tell people - now, don't be a Bridezilla.

TimeForTeaAndG · 24/04/2025 16:26

Presumably she will have actually told them before then via group messages or something rather than waiting a whole month?

As much as the day is about the bride and groom people spend a lot of time not actually focussed on them (they get taken away for photographs together...).

DappledThings · 24/04/2025 16:26

It's your wedding. It will be all about you anyway. There's no way to be precious about making other people keep stuff going on in their lives secret without being a dick.

Surely by next month she'll have told most people anyway. It's not generally something people keep secret is it? Are you planning to ask her to taker her ring off?

Shoxfordian · 24/04/2025 16:25

As long as she doesn't do it in her speech then I'd be fine about it
Maybe she'll have told them by then anyway even if not in person