Child's friend parent on sexual offender register

But he might be taking photos. The latest thing is to take photos of children then use their faces and create sexual images based on AI. That’s why my kids faces aren’t on social media.

Plus watching children means they get a good scope of who to groom. This is well known as paedophiles have admitted this is how they start - watch the kids, figure out who is close with who, who would make a good victim.

A person watching your kids can absolutely be a risk and harm a child.

I do hate this bloody type of answer: you're right,we don't catch them all: but we know this one!!! There's a guy on our trick or treat route that gives my OH vibes, so we won't go back there this year. But here's a sex offender on the register, and you shrug your shoulders? I find this view Contemptible ,to be honest

Agreed.

Rather that than expose other children to a paedophile.

YABU and punishing the child for the sins of the father

I can’t believe how many parents don’t care about knowing allowing their dc being around a paedophile. Absolutely not! The fact the mother is minimising and keeping a relationship is worrying.

The one that I mentioned upthread finished up with convictions against adolescents, a grown woman and a baby and was not on the register at that time, in spite of his previous convictions.

How is that going to harm the child? Answer it isn’t. If you are going to start policing people’s thoughts you are going to have to interrogate a lot of people. Who knows what any stranger in the street is thinking. Besides which it doesn’t affect you or your child.
Is it nice to think about? No. Is it damaging to the child? Also no

This is a common misconception. Children are everywhere, so without being confined to permanent house arrest it's not practically possible for a convicted paedophile to ensure they never go "near children". They won't be able to work with children or take on voluneering roles with children but their SHPO (Sexual Harm Prevention Order) will probably say something fairly vague along the lines of they must avoid contact with children other than that which is necessary in the course of their normal day to day life- i'm paraphrasing obviously. So they could argue that picking up their own child from school is a necessary part of their every day life (even though there will be other children there) but they would potentially be in trouble if they were approaching random children in a local park. Being at their own childs birthday party would more than likely be seen as reasonable but taking their child to another childs birthday party and staying there with them could be pushing the boundaries of, or even breaching, their SHPO depending on what it says.

Ignore the ridiculous on here today OP, & the mother who appears to think that everything will be OK. It won’t, pedo’s never stop! Give it to that woman straight, & keep your kid safe. What do the other parents think, surely they can’t think that this is OK too?

Of course it's a joke. But given the overall content of this thread I admit that I, too, blinked twice.

Nope.

The predator that I've mentioned was able to set up home with a woman who had two children and - as I've just discovered - even though I reported the situation the same year that he was convicted again.

A Fife teacher has just been convicted of inappropriate communications with teenage girls (they'd just left school). He sent them pics and videos of himself. He's only going to be on the sex offenders' register for two years, if I recall correctly.

"Because your dad us a nounce that I've not said isn't welcome in my house"?

NTRTFT but grooming can absolutely start from the merest of interactions. A young child who trusts his parents is likely to trust the parents of his friends. Once the adult has been seen in a safe environment a few times, a certain level of trust will have been reached. And so on.
Dramatic? Unlikely? Maybe but I’d not have that paedophile anywhere near my child or home.
Maybe he’s a hebephile (?sp) so OP’s child not yet of interest but behaviour changes and can become more extreme.

My issues is that parent allowed an abuser to have contact with my child. I consider this a serious breach of trust.

I'm personally wondering what could possibly be motivating them to post in that vein. #MeToo was an indication. Not the numbers of women posting - that sadly came as no surprise - but the extent and vitriol of the pushback telling us why 'nice girls' should not be speaking about this serious and far too pervasive issue.

Who stands to gain from keeping the status quo precisely as it is?

Hint: it isn't women, and it isn't children.

Trust the mum too,do we? Ridiculous comment

Yanbu . I’d be making other plans/ excuses so your child can just say they did something else instead.

Thing is you feel uncomfortable about it for a reason. Children being young goes quickly. If you socialise with these people it’s quite disinegnuous isn’t it. They’ll keep inviting you to things. It’s easy to stay at a 4 year olds party but at an 8 year olds party, or when they start going on smaller outing for birthdays in 1 car with just parents? It will be easier to make excuses now and shut it down than going along with it, pretending to be ok with it and going along with it for ages…

There will hands down be other people thinking the same. Your child can an be friends with this child but you just don’t want to expose your child to the risk of their home life.

People who are saying that the guy will be monitored by social services/ police…. I mean relying on these services to keep your children safe isn’t a fail safe plan is it.

YANBU

Because the OP or her partner will be there?

Can’t believe some of these responses,He was looking at child porn (those poor abused children being made to do these things ),also done for grooming.People saying he needs integrating back into village life FUCK OFF.

And I think risking the child. I know paedophiles have preferences but paedophiles can be very depraved. I would fight to the death to keep my child’s parent away from them if they were a convicted paedophile, I would not be trying to reintegrate them into my local community. I wonder if she doesn’t believe he is guilty.

I thought part of being on that register was that it stopped you from going near children In this sort of situation.

Yes - if I wasn’t aware that he was a convicted child abuser

because the OP is aware he is an abuser and a convicted one on the register and allowed him into her home where there are lots of children at a party & didn’t give me any choice if that was ok with my child being around such a person

so while I would feel disgust at the man
I would also be very angry at the OP that she allowed him in her houses for a child’s party ( ( if she were to do this )

I mean inviting a registered child sex abuser to a party full of young kids - it’s like putting lambs in a field to be slaughtered by a lion

You can't possibly say that. My child was groomed and assaulted by a man with a valid DBS check on school premises during class time - don't ever underestimate the deviousness of the paedophile.

I've just Googled the offender that I mentioned above.

To my shock, I've just discovered that he had a conviction in 1985 for 'lewd and libidinous practices'. That would be the same year that I reported that he was living in the same household as a woman and her daughters.

FGS, don't take chances around a sex offender.