Child's friend parent on sexual offender register

So you're basically saying women don't /aren't capable of doing such heinous things because we're all poor little lambs without a mind of our own, must have been told to think that way by a man and too scared to say no etc?!
Load of shit, your attitude is disgusting as well.
Edited to say I'm aware coercive control exists etc, and it's awful, but to absolve women of ever doing anything wrong because "must be being abused" is 🙄

Cross posted - yes, this

If you read my comments I'm of the opinion no way should he be anywhere near kids, and wouldn't let mine anywhere near him as wouldn't want him to be thought of as a trusted adult.
Just hate the "must be a man" narrative on here when an opinion differs.

@Audiprettier - I have never actually met a woman who stood up for a paedophile or excused their behaviour either - but I am not so naive or innocent as to assume that they don't exist.

The thing is, loads do.

Plenty of wives stay with their paedophile husbands who are caught downloading images and the like. In fact if you look at the news I’d say more do than don’t. Fuck knows why but they do.

I suspect that many leave later down the track, but initially it’s not unheard of for women and families to stand by them.

Never EVER met a woman who stood up for a paedophile, so...
YAWN!!

Hate this kind of comment on here - just because someone has a different opinion, doesn't mean they're automatically a man!
Sadly women can come out with that kind of shit as well.

IMO only a man would spout such rubbish !!! 🤬

No way at all!!! I understand that it's a childs party and if vigilant, will not have any access to your child but that doesn't stop photos being taken.

100%.
“ You need to support opportunities…” FFS! She can’t be serious! Ok GrannyAchings - offer up your own kids to “help” paedophiles… I doubt you would.

He’s already broken the law, you think he won’t do it again??

She said they still have a close relationship and the mother is trying to reintegrate him into the community. Isn’t that enough to know?

It’s mummy’s fault if she’s still with him/ keeping a close relationship and letting him be around children.

Oh my god! what person in their right mind would ever let their child socialise with a paedophile???

BAD, BAD PARENTING.

Your totally naive/ridiculous take your pick.

You don't know if it is the mother's fault.

If mother is with dad then yes you could say that, but the OP doesn't know.

If a court has ordered the contact arrangements then then what could mum do?

Personally I think, "At least I know". Lots and lots of men do this kind of thing, and by that phrasing I am not minimising how bad it is.

It's a hard one OP How did you find out?

Absolutely this!

All these people who are telling you you are overreacting I think are misguided in their opinions. Everybody is entitled to feel how they wish to feel and if you don’t feel comfortable with this man being in the presence of your child then you are absolutely within your rights to either speak to the mother and insist that she brings their son or daughter to your party or you exclude the child completely. At the end of the day you have to go with your gut on this and I have gone against my gut feeling so many times in my life and regretted it later. Listen to your gut The other child’s happiness is not your responsibility but the safety and well-being of your own child definitely is!

In Britain from my knowledge, if a man is on the sex offender register it is illegal for him to approach children.

Once a paedophile, always a paedophile. They cannot be rehabilitated, and they certainly should not be integrated into a community with children. They do not deserve ANY sympathy or pandering to. He is still a paedophile. He’ll just be more careful not to get caught now. The partner is disgusting to be maintaining a close relationship.

Its odd isn’t it how many posters are actually very keen for their children to be in a room with a peadophile.

No worries darling xx

Thank god for this response. I thought i was going mad!

My heart goes out to all of the victims who have posted or just read this thread.
Best advice I’ve read here is to always put the safety of your own children first, don’t let a known sex offender anywhere near your child, keep a watchful eye on everyone and start talking about safety issues early.
Whilst at a prestigious International School outside of the UK, a fellow parent found out there was a father in her child’s class who was convicted of making and distributing v serious level child sexual abuse videos. She tried to make school let other parents know but was called in and warned she was being unfair to the child. Of course she discreetly let us know thank goodness.
In the same Country we were warned off taking our children to a certain shopping mall with a lovely play area - because it was a known area for poor people to be recruited to take photos and videos of the children which were then passed onto paedophiles. I had never heard of such a thing before but thank goodness there were sensible fellow mums helping to educate and keep us safe.
I am sceptical of some of the posters on this thread being actual female parents.