Child's friend parent on sexual offender register

Agree, no way would I be “supporting” this evil cunt.

I would message him and the Mum “given X’s paedophiliac criminal record, he is not allowed in our house so only you/Mum can bring little X to party and stay”.

Why dance around it - if they don’t like it, it’s up to them to let their kid miss out.

Yes, I understood you completely, that's not the point.

"Porn" is created for entertainment purposes whereas the children in these images/videos are victims of real abuse, not performers, hence why the language has changed and there have been widespread campaigns to get the media to stop using the phrase "child porn". It's the same reason we don't say "child prostitutes" anymore, they are victims of Child Sexual Exploitation. As I said, I'm not trying to be pedantic and I agree with the content of your post but words do matter.

I would take the mothers word for it, she knows if she lies and he does actually attend that it would be highly likely that very few children would attend any future parties

Can you see that even if always supervised, someone being positioned as a trusted adult is a risk when you know them to be a paedophile? If your child has met someone’s dad at parties etc then if they then come across them in other situations, they are likely to think of them as a ‘safe’ adult which means they are then vulnerable to being approached / groomed. A way to minimise that risk is to not allow known sex offenders to be in situations where they are being positioned as safe adults to the children present.

It's sad for the child involved but I would not be letting my child anywhere near this man or his wife, as she is an apologist for a paedophile. I cannot get my head around why any woman would accept this from her 'partner'. Its vile.
Go with your heart and keep your child well away from these messed up individuals. Is he even allowed to have contact with any children as a consequence of his registration?

If he is on the sex offenders register there are probably a whole shed load of restrictions about where he can go and what he can do regarding interaction with children, his own and others, online and in person. If he breaks these terms he will be in breach of his conditions and liable to be sent to prison. If you feel bold enough then bring it up with his wife and explain what you are thinking re the party.

I hate to say it, but your priority is your child alone. It is sad for the other child, but I would not he encouraging a friendship because this problem is not going away.
I would do small group parties rather than full class ones so that the child is not singled out, and I would find reasons why your child cannot go to any events where he might be invited. But I would not be allowing my child to have anything to do with this family outside of school. Your DC should be pleasant to the child in school, but as they get older there should be no socialising outside of school at all.

I’m actually gobsmacked that anyone would be ok with a child sex offender being in their house. Truly gobsmacked. Some of the answers on this post are weird AF.

I sometimes wonder how it is possible that so many of these monsters manage to reoffend after being convicted (apart from the fact they should never be released in the first place).

Some of the posts on this thread are clearing up that mystery for me.

Horrified.

I wouldn’t allow a nonce around my dc either.

Unsupervised or not, I wouldn’t want the thought of him leering around them or quite possibly having sexual thoughts/attraction towards the dc.

I think exactly this. Familiarity and trust are built up over time. My kids know and trust their friend’s parents. You do not want this man being seen as trustworthy by the smaller kids as when they’re older there will be more unsupervised opportunities and associated risk.

I find it scary that so many parents are pro-peadophilia, it does make me wonder what they’re choosing to expose their children to.

The only one punishing the child is the parents, the mum obviously thinks children should be forced to spend time with a sex offender, if she didn’t she would attend events without him and do non-home based parties for her own child.

@Praying4PeaceI’m deeply concerned by your response on this thread. Genuine question: do you actually know what a paedophile is? If so, why in the ever loving universe are you defending one? Please explain in detail

Please be kind - I absolutely know it is not the mother or the child's fault.

It’s probably not her fault that he committed the offence but I would 100% be judging her for maintaining any relationship whatsoever with a paedophile. If everyone was open about it ie ‘sorry, I don’t want my child around a paedophile’ then perhaps she’d make better choices for her child and cut him out.

Well because the OP is likely to stay at the party. Kid is reception age

I’m shocked by how many posters would be fine with a paedophile rocking up to their kids birthday party.
so yes he comes along, behaves impeccably, all the kids think he’s great fun, this happens several times over the years.
then age 10 DS is allowed to walk home alone, a car pulls up and offers him a lift, he knows of course not to go with strangers but this isn’t a stranger, this is Ben’s dad who he knows from several birthday parties, so in he gets….

no thanks!!!

I can never understand the paedophile apologists. I had a friend who's husband ended up being convicted for offences to children, and she stayed with him, and several friends still stand up for him and encourage everyone to #bekind. Despite him wanting to rape girls.

At 4 I think you can manage this quite easily as generally parties still involve parental supervision. Things might get stickier in a few year time where drop-off parties become more common alongside lift shares etc. However, even in a single form year, there is no guarantees your children will be close in older childhood and you might be able to naturally avoid. Your challenge will come if the children become good friends because I think the risks become greater the older they are.

And what many people are saying is that it isn't possible to supervise every child sufficiently at a party you are hosting to ensure there is no risk. Far safer and easier to just make sure the paedophile isn't there in the first place.

Apply for more information via a Sarah's Law request. Be guided by the police and child services.

We just have to hope her partner doesn’t feel the same and would stop @Gymmum82

As someone who was abused as a child by one of these perverts, I wouldn't have him anywhere near me, my child or other people's children. Sod all the hand wringers, I doubt they've ever seen the damage men like this do to people.

Agreed, 100%!!

“Judgemental vigilante style approaches”
what approach is more appropriate for a known pedophile? I personally think we should bring back the death sentence or castration for such people but please do enlighten me on how pedos have rights and feelings too and we should all ponder to them?

Fuck, I’m so sorry. That must have been really hard for you to cope with.