Is my friend outrageously entitled in her expectations?

This. If they are built for disabled people obviously they should get them.

I live in an adapted property which is a council house due to my son suddenly becoming disabled and our old privately rented property deemed unsuitable for his needs. We were incredibly lucky and were only waiting for a month before the property came up and we had to provide lots of evidence including my son's OT and Physio going to our old property and actually seeing for themselves it was unsuitable so they could write evidence to support it. The LA also had a conversation with the hospital my son was at because he couldn't be discharged without suitable housing.

She can want something all she likes but she isn't going to get it.

Oh & I'm several years into my wait simply to access a bedroom & a shower. So many disabled people have long waits. I couldn't assist someone in cheating the system as she wants. She won't qualify on the grounds stated.

Bungalows are in short supply, in some areas none have been built for years.

The disabled already have to complete with the elderly for such accomodation & I'd hope that no one with any compassion would support another person in taking one from someone with no other options.

I live in an M4 (2) house, aka one built with the ability to add a lift or stairlift etc with ease due to how it was built. My specific needs mean a lift won't work for me. For the first time in 30 years five bungalows are being built in my town. One is (hopefully) being built with my needs in mind.

The other poor sods in my town will be fighting over them. Everyone with even a minor walking issue thinks they need one & will bid. Most of them could use an alternative option.

Unless your area builds whole estates of bungalows as far as the eye can see then she is not a nice human being.

Don't assist in screwing up the lives of others just so this person can have a yoga room.

Disability is the only minority you can join at anytime of life remember.

Oh & most benefits stop after four weeks out of the country, so your friend either has permission for medical reasons or such like, or is committing fraud.

Someone else sponging off the tax payers back - couldn't be bothered to work and pay for a life and now expects me to pay for it! I am sooo sick of it.

Anyways ref the bungalow, they're normally saved for people with physical disabilities, wouldnt she be better to find a different flat where she is? The warden should be managing loud music etc so has she even raised the issue? If she hadn't noone will look to move her anyway.

She's a typical hippy grifter. Expects everything on a plate. Here's the interesting bit, that she won't tell you about directly. She's got assets and probably a private income. But she'll never admit to that because it would mean she couldn't legally claim dhss and it would mean she'd been ripping everyone off for her whole life. Steer well fucking clear. You are her next mark,as in victim. Never trust a fake hippy.

Nothing wrong with wanting. It’s up to her HA if she’s eligible for one

I knew a 'hippy' couple, married with kids. Got a council house when it was a lot easier. Exchanged to a village so that there were no job opportunities, no transport. They had an old banger that they drove to town once a week to get shopping. Didn't work after that. Had no intention of working beyond craft stuff at summer festivals. For some its a lifestyle they are happy with and in those days easy enough to do. The OPs friend probably still thinks it's doable today, if acquaintances in the past on 'the circuit' lived their lives that way. There will probably be 200 on the list for those bungalows. Having enough points to get a 2 bed as a single person won't be easy. She would only have a shout if it was undesirable.

Surely it's rented, not free? No social housing in this country is free. Housing associations tend to have quite high rents.

I work for LA in the housing dept- she would struggle to use you to prove her local connection to the area if she is moving out of her local authority. She would need to provide proof of residence for a close family member (parent, sibling, child). Friends won’t be accepted

She won’t listen to reason from you

She’s a lazy loser, expecting life handed to her on a plate.
step back, play dumb and do nothing to help her

This above.

I wouldn't get involved if I was you. I very much doubt that she will get what she wants. There are others with much greater need.

You were unreasonable to stay friends for so long with a scrounger who could have worked but chose not to, thereby expecting everyone else to subsidise her life from their tax payments.

I would not support this.

I have a relative with a personality disorder / mental health issues and I think this perspective is part and parcel of it. Similar life too, drifting around, but actually unable to commit to anything or stick with it. Grandiose, it seems entitled (and it is) but its more than that, its not grounded in reality. Probably the best thing you can do is try to kindly offer some realism. But to be honest I think the fantasies keep them going, and they crash quite hard when reality bangs up against it.

I had a lovely friend like this.
You'll find she's only your friend whilst you're useful to her. Take a step back, see what happens.

Did you point out to her that without this flat that she is currently in ( which sounds fine) that she would be homeless and beggars can’t be choosers

Definitely entitled behaviour, but she has the mentality of someone who has been on long term benefits ( for no specific reason other than they don’t want to work) and that is to grab as much as you can

DS lives in a MIND supported flat. It’s ring fenced for need and even with all the provided medical evidence there were another 70 people with a similar level of genuine need for the place. He now cannot move out due to the OH statement of physical need and housing stating his needs for a home are more than fully meet for his additional physical needs. Social Housing of any description is hard to come by and that developed specifically for disabilities is as rare as hens teeth to get. For the record I have no idea how DS was placed first even with his input of evidence from all supportive services.

Well, she's right - you don't ask, you don't get. I also rather like her attitude of, "What's the problem with aiming for what you really want and what would bring you happiness, instead of just settling for what you're offered?"

I doubt she will get a 2 bedroom bungalow if she has no medical evidence supporting the need for it, but if she doesn't ask, she definitely won't. There's no reason you have to help (whatever that may entail), or remain friends, if you don't want to.

I don't understand your attitude towards someone who sounds like like a pretty decent human being - helping you when you needed it, volunteering etc...it does sound a bit like envy may be clouding your view. I don't think living hand to mouth, as she was, equates to a 'free and easy' lifestyle. I'd find it pretty stressful not knowing where I was going to sleep or where my next meal was coming from. But it worked for her, as your choices did for you. You make it sound like she's somehow gotten away with something by not having a mortgage or a 'normal' life.

That's what I thought.

Because I was responding to your suggestion that she would easily be able to 'take' a flat from someone more deserving.

That's usually how a forum conversation goes, if you reply directly to someone's point you quote them ...

tbh I think as long as she's asking you to do something reasonable (ie. not lie) then it's fine -- wish her luck, she's been a good friend in the past, and it sounds as though her lifestyle was heavily based on bartering and not cheating.

Doesn't really work with the local authority but maybe she can find a way to swap her flat for somewhere she likes better.

Probably won't be the perfect house she's spotted but as long as she's not breaking any rules she's allowed to put in her application.