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to be tired of the jealousy towards people who WFH?

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WFHFan · 24/04/2025 09:12

No one can post a thread about it without someone chiming in threatening if their job can done from home then it could be given to someone in another country or AI could take it.

Other people saying companies want everyone back in the office. Yes some do. Mine doesn't. They do not have the space anymore. Neither will my job go to someone in another country because of expertise and it does involve some critical face to face work. AI can't do it either.

Then some people getting offended saying if someone is WFH they shouldn't do anything else but work non stop. I can work and I do chores, shopping, school pick up, errands. It does not affect the standard or quantity of my work. I don't doubt it does affect some people's work.

I have won two awards for performance already.

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WFHFan · 24/04/2025 14:44

User79853257976 · 24/04/2025 13:34

As long as you admit that you have privileges that others don’t and that you have it easier, it’s fine. Some jobs can’t physically be done from home and we trained before wfh was widespread. Yes I’m jealous of my friends who have all this flexibility and their homes run like clockwork.

My home now runs like clockwork because I have the time to shop, cook and clean. It used to cut into my evening when in the office full time. It has made for a much happier family and also workforce. Everyone in my department enjoys hybrid working and it has brought a lot of value to their lives.

It is something I appreciate. It only happened because of covid.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 14:31

fantastiq · 24/04/2025 14:27

So you work from home but do school drop offs, chores and exercise... then you wonder why people don't think your working hard. You just answered your own bloody q!

Depends on the job though. I manage my own time, and I don't have customer/client calls. So if I "disappear" at 330 to do a pick up, that's fine, because I can make up 30 mins by working through lunch or logging on later. I am allowed to be flexible.

It's different if you're supposed to be customer/client facing and aren't available to do that work because you're doing drop off/pick up or popping to the gym.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 14:28

Fizbosshoes · 24/04/2025 14:16

But the posters I'm talking about aren't saying they're doing 2-3 hours work a day because work ebbs and flows eg this is a quiet period but they work 10 hours a day during a busy period. (Of course I understand this, my own industry has busy and less busy periods - none as quiet as 2 hours a day unfortunately)
They are saying they are regularly working 2-3 hours a day because they are super efficient when WFH
....in which case I'd think it wasn't actually a ft job....

I think that's the kind of person who gets easily distracted when around other people.

When I used to work in an operational role, we were measured on numbers. My numbers in the office were usually double the majority of the rest of the team, because I can work quickly to a high quality. They increased slightly when we started WFH in COVID but not to the same scale of increase of other diligent people now they weren't chatting half the day (I could work and talk, not everyone can and by this point I could also do the job in my sleep).

If you gave me the same workload (volume wise, if measured on numbers( as some of the "slower" people, it'd take me 2-3 hours compared to their 7, in the same conditions. But WFH, the diligent "slower" people would do more work in the day, whereas the less diligent "slower" people would do the same across the same time period despite less distractions. I always had a higher workload cos that's what I could get through.

I'm not measured on numbers now, it's output. So there are some days where I might be done in a couple of hours if it's the start of a project, and others aren't available or I'm waiting on work being done. But mostly I'm busy all day.

The people who say they're done in 2-3 hours when WFH are the less diligent, slower people. They have less distractions but aren't willing to take on more than they did with the distractions. And they give WFH a bad name.

fantastiq · 24/04/2025 14:27

So you work from home but do school drop offs, chores and exercise... then you wonder why people don't think your working hard. You just answered your own bloody q!

LuckyMoonstone · 24/04/2025 14:21

@Fizbosshoes but it’s a full time job because you need to be available and ready during business hours.
So you might have a few quiet hours doing nothing all afternoon, but if someone urgently needs you at half past 4 then you need to be there! Whether that’s in person or phone/email.
You can’t just do your work in a couple of hours and finish for the day, and leave people hanging.

Fizbosshoes · 24/04/2025 14:16

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 13:46

It is not that hard to understand. It depends on the job and the workflow. It wouldn't make any sense for my employer to make my job part time as the workload varies so much.

When I was in the office full time, there were quiet periods then too. Obviously I had to stay there for set hours but I would get all my life admin done.

But the posters I'm talking about aren't saying they're doing 2-3 hours work a day because work ebbs and flows eg this is a quiet period but they work 10 hours a day during a busy period. (Of course I understand this, my own industry has busy and less busy periods - none as quiet as 2 hours a day unfortunately)
They are saying they are regularly working 2-3 hours a day because they are super efficient when WFH
....in which case I'd think it wasn't actually a ft job....

CanYouTurnItDown · 24/04/2025 14:09

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/04/2025 09:27

I dunno. To me it feels more like a chip on the shoulder of wfh people because office people think they are lazy skivers.

I don’t think I understand this

FedupofArsenalgame · 24/04/2025 14:08

Bluebellwood129 · 24/04/2025 09:29

I don't understand why people would be jealous - if they want a WFH job, they could go and get one. I've worked from home for over twenty years and never experienced negative attitudes.

True I personally couldn't think of anything bloody worse than WFH. My home is a place to relax not a workplace

IndigoViolent · 24/04/2025 14:06

Gandalfatemyhamster · 24/04/2025 13:04

@IndigoViolentbut the problem is that less nurses/ doctors/ teachers/ T.A’s is that it’s everyone’s problem. My heart sinks when my daughter’s T.A resigns, it happens at least every six months and then we have two months of her being really unsettled, unhappy to go to school.
Ideally I don’t think the key is making WFH less attractive but making those positions more appealing. But how? Local authorities have no money, the NHS has no money, demean on services is increasing, acuity is more severe. Mental health now is nothing like it was twenty years ago, assaults are now common. Being filmed is now common.
It is something we do for the love of it, but there comes a point where we think why? Especially after you have children, and all the other parents have more money, free time, look less stressed, don’t miss any plays, sports days. We have to all do what’s best for our families.

I understand all that - but again, artificially making other jobs less appealing is not the way to handle it. Just like forcing people back to the office to keep cafes and bars in traditional business areas going is false economy.

And it still doesn’t address the fact that an awful lot of people can’t just say “Ooh, I know - I’ll take a WFH job instead”. They need the right skill set and experience.

IndigoViolent · 24/04/2025 13:58

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:25

Nonsense. 😆

People do washing, prep for dinner, walking the dog, have haircuts, do housework, make private phone calls, and all manner of shit when 'working' from home (and some even do also childcare/have their kids at home, when they are 'working.')

NO-ONE can do this if they are in the workplace, and some WFH people have proven again and again that they are lazy and unproductive at home, and have admitted they swing the lead half the time they're meant to be 'working' by doing all this extra shit. And this is why they are complaining about being asked to go back into the office, because 'wah wah wah, I won't be able to do it anymore. waaaaaaaaaahhhh!' 😖😢 THIS is why bosses want them back.

Don't even TRY to pretend that the things people do in the office environment - like going to the loo, or chatting to another colleague is anything like the things people who work from home do. They take the piss. (Not all but many!)

Your answer is ludicrous.

Edited

I think you’re the ludicrous one.

Of course no one is trying to suggest that people could just as easily be putting a wash on or peeling potatoes if they were in the office. It isn’t physically possible. But the point about how people use the time is perfectly valid.

A poster on the first page described it perfectly when she said being in the office involves “busy work”. The jobs you do to look busy when it’s quiet - deleting old emails, clearing out your desk drawers, rereading company policies etc.. It wouldn’t matter if you didn’t do any of it - and at home, you don’t have to for appearances sake. If I’m not busy, why wouldn’t I just stick the washing machine on? It doesn’t stop me getting my work done, because if I’m busy, I simply don’t do it. There is zero incentive for me to “skive”, because the work has to go somewhere - it would soon be spotted if I wasn’t pulling my weight. I’d only be making life hard for myself.

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 13:50

Keirawr · 24/04/2025 13:47

Have you won any awards OP?

Yep - see my OP.

How about you?

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Keirawr · 24/04/2025 13:47

Have you won any awards OP?

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 13:46

Fizbosshoes · 24/04/2025 13:37

I think lots of jobs can be done remotely, I notice the trains are much quieter on Mondays and Fridays, and pubs in London are busier on Thursdays because its the new Friday.

I'm sure most people work just as well from home but I'm intrigued by the volume of people on MN who insist they can get all their work done to the accepted standard in 2 or 3 hours a day, regularly , at home, leaving time for childcare, laundry, cooking, the gym etc. Surely that is a pt job? When they were in the office I get that there are breaks, chatting etc but were they actually only working for 25-30% of the time?

One person on AMA said they had 2 (high paying) "FT" jobs that they did from home while looking after a toddler, and spent 1-2 hrs a day on each!

And others thinking it's a huge imposition if they are asked to go back to the office even once a month, and making a thread asking what they can do to avoid it.

I'm sure hybrid works well for lots of businesses and employees though, and that seems pretty common.

It is not that hard to understand. It depends on the job and the workflow. It wouldn't make any sense for my employer to make my job part time as the workload varies so much.

When I was in the office full time, there were quiet periods then too. Obviously I had to stay there for set hours but I would get all my life admin done.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 13:45

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:34

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

It's not WFH that makes people lazy. Lazy people are lazy wherever they work. Productive people are productive wherever they work.

You may have a point there, but I do think SOME people have become lazy and entitled from 4-5 years of 'working' from home. And you can tell who the lazy fuckers are. They are the ones who don't want to go back to the office. They know they won't be able to do all the shit they do in work hours if they're in the office!

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If they've been able to become lazy then it's not being managed properly. They were likely always lazy but having visibility meant that was managed. Managers have to adapt to WFH and more remote working too.

And not all people who would prefer to remain WFH don't want to go back to the office because they can't skive anymore. I don't skive. I'd rather not go back full time because I can work more effectively without having to deal with all the in person drop ins. I can manage my hours better when I'm not trying to walk out of the office at the end of my shift and having people ask me "just one more thing" and am instead able to just close my laptop and handle those queries tomorrow.

I definitely am able to manage home life better but it's because I can use my lunch break and my previous commute time to do housework, not because I'm doing things when I'm being paid to work.

DH is on site 5 days a week, he WFH once a month or so to write up reports or because the company car needs changing or servicing or something. He has issues with lazy people not pulling their weight on site.

Basically, whatever your role, organisation or location, there will be people who take the piss. It's not unique to WFH and it should be managed appropriately by line managers or heads of department. A blanket "WFH is making the workforce lazy so they should all be on site" isn't the way forward.

Macaroni46 · 24/04/2025 13:44

Gandalfatemyhamster · 24/04/2025 09:30

The one thing I will say is that those who do work from home, with all the perks in terms of saving on petrol, parking, train fares, childcare, lunches, coffee etc must expect things like shortages in NHS staff, local authority staff, long waits in restaurants and cafes, food shortages, delays to online shopping orders. Because those industries who can’t allow WFH for obvious reasons are shedding staff. We can’t recruit in our local authority, not to jobs which require an office presence or visits etc. It’s becoming impossible. Jobs like family support workers, lunchtime supervisiors, even OTs used to flexible enough to tempt people, but now even 9.30-3 jobs isn’t enough when they can work 9-5 at home and pick up children, do life admin, have work done in the house at the same time.
So it boils my piss when you see WFH people moan about their child’s EHCP application taking so long. Everything has a knock on effect and those sectors such as teaching, nursing,social care, social work, childcare are going to need to give their employees something back to prevent a further mass exodus.

Totally agree

ethelredonagoodday · 24/04/2025 13:42

Not read the full thread, so apologies if I’ve missed anything, but I think there are pluses and minuses of both, and I think your view on it is definitely influenced by who you work for, what you do, and I think to some extent, your level of experience in your job.

Pre Covid I was predominantly office based and spent 90mins per day commuting. If I had to attend meetings, that might mean anything from an hour to 5 hours getting to and from that meeting. All of that was unproductive time, as in general driving would be the only option due to lack of public transport. I’m 25 years into my career, so I can work very independently, and am probably the most experienced and well qualified in our team, despite not being the most senior. My kids are both at school, so the move to home working for me has been an absolute godsend, in terms of being at home when they get home. Does that mean I think it’s great for everyone? well as all the posts above demonstrate, not everyone works in the same way. My own DH is very much an advocate of collaborative office based work, and his company expect staff in the office most of the time.

do I think some people are jealous? Not sure if jealous is the right word, but I think some people genuinely do not understand how people can be paid for being at home all day. But it works well for me, and the rest of my team. We still deliver significant output, and are happier because we are not commuting hours on end to sit in an awful office (our actual base was recently condemned to demolition!)

Fizbosshoes · 24/04/2025 13:37

I think lots of jobs can be done remotely, I notice the trains are much quieter on Mondays and Fridays, and pubs in London are busier on Thursdays because its the new Friday.

I'm sure most people work just as well from home but I'm intrigued by the volume of people on MN who insist they can get all their work done to the accepted standard in 2 or 3 hours a day, regularly , at home, leaving time for childcare, laundry, cooking, the gym etc. Surely that is a pt job? When they were in the office I get that there are breaks, chatting etc but were they actually only working for 25-30% of the time?

One person on AMA said they had 2 (high paying) "FT" jobs that they did from home while looking after a toddler, and spent 1-2 hrs a day on each!

And others thinking it's a huge imposition if they are asked to go back to the office even once a month, and making a thread asking what they can do to avoid it.

I'm sure hybrid works well for lots of businesses and employees though, and that seems pretty common.

justteanbiscuits · 24/04/2025 13:34

Gandalfatemyhamster · 24/04/2025 13:04

@IndigoViolentbut the problem is that less nurses/ doctors/ teachers/ T.A’s is that it’s everyone’s problem. My heart sinks when my daughter’s T.A resigns, it happens at least every six months and then we have two months of her being really unsettled, unhappy to go to school.
Ideally I don’t think the key is making WFH less attractive but making those positions more appealing. But how? Local authorities have no money, the NHS has no money, demean on services is increasing, acuity is more severe. Mental health now is nothing like it was twenty years ago, assaults are now common. Being filmed is now common.
It is something we do for the love of it, but there comes a point where we think why? Especially after you have children, and all the other parents have more money, free time, look less stressed, don’t miss any plays, sports days. We have to all do what’s best for our families.

I don't think WFH is the reason TA's are leaving. They are hideously underpaid, yet taking on more and more work outside of their original remit. Pay them a fair salary and many more will stay, I am sure.

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:34

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

It's not WFH that makes people lazy. Lazy people are lazy wherever they work. Productive people are productive wherever they work.

You may have a point there, but I do think SOME people have become lazy and entitled from 4-5 years of 'working' from home. And you can tell who the lazy fuckers are. They are the ones who don't want to go back to the office. They know they won't be able to do all the shit they do in work hours if they're in the office!

User79853257976 · 24/04/2025 13:34

As long as you admit that you have privileges that others don’t and that you have it easier, it’s fine. Some jobs can’t physically be done from home and we trained before wfh was widespread. Yes I’m jealous of my friends who have all this flexibility and their homes run like clockwork.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 13:31

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:25

Nonsense. 😆

People do washing, prep for dinner, walking the dog, have haircuts, do housework, make private phone calls, and all manner of shit when 'working' from home (and some even do also childcare/have their kids at home, when they are 'working.')

NO-ONE can do this if they are in the workplace, and some WFH people have proven again and again that they are lazy and unproductive at home, and have admitted they swing the lead half the time they're meant to be 'working' by doing all this extra shit. And this is why they are complaining about being asked to go back into the office, because 'wah wah wah, I won't be able to do it anymore. waaaaaaaaaahhhh!' 😖😢 THIS is why bosses want them back.

Don't even TRY to pretend that the things people do in the office environment - like going to the loo, or chatting to another colleague is anything like the things people who work from home do. They take the piss. (Not all but many!)

Your answer is ludicrous.

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In our organisation the SOME (as you noted, not all) people who are lazy when WFH are the ones who when we were in the office 5 days a week would disappear for ages, sit at their desks chatting, refuse to check there was adequate phone cover before just walking off for their break, take 30 minutes to make a cuppa, and were generally slow at doing their jobs anyway.

Those of us who are productive at home were productive in the office. I'm actually more productive at home because people wanting to chat have to actually call me (and I can ignore them if it's not essential) instead of just plonking themselves by my desk.

I used to have a queue at my desk of people wanting help or answers to a question. They have to message, email or call now and I can more easily prioritise.

It's not WFH that makes people lazy. Lazy people are lazy wherever they work. Productive people are productive wherever they work.

WitchesCauldron · 24/04/2025 13:29

This again. Those people that keep the country afloat during Covid couldn't work from home.

The sense of entitlement is ridiculous. Civil servants particularly.

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:29

neverbeenskiing · 24/04/2025 11:04

Oh come on, you're not seriously comparing going to the toilet or chatting to someone while you wait for the kettle to boil with doing the school run, looking after small children, taking long naps, going out to run errands and the many other much more time consuming activities people who WFH have talked about doing on here?? Having something to drink and going to the toilet during the working day are basic rights and essential, doing an exercise class or walking the dog during your paid working hours are not but the fact that so many people who WFH don't seem to see the difference is part of the problem.

This. ^ Just like I said. Unfortunately, some work from home people have become lazy and unproductive and entitled. THIS is why they are wanted back in the office now. Bosses have cottoned on them.

The party is over you shirkers! 😆

(Not ALL work from home people are lazy shirkers of course, but some are. Especially the ones who are whining and crowing and moaning about being asked back into the office! People admitting they do washing and ironing and childcare and walking the dog, and have afternoon naps, and go outside sunbathing when they are meant to be working - along with 2 hour lunch breaks - has done them NO favours!)

BatchCookBabe · 24/04/2025 13:25

Katypp · 24/04/2025 10:57

Do you spend every minute working in the office? Never go to the loo, never take a break, never talk to a colleague, never wander off to another department? Never chat while the kettle boils, never get talking to a colleague in the toilets?
Wfh is just the same only the downtime is spent differently.

Nonsense. 😆

People do washing, prep for dinner, walking the dog, have haircuts, do housework, make private phone calls, and all manner of shit when 'working' from home (and some even do also childcare/have their kids at home, when they are 'working.')

NO-ONE can do this if they are in the workplace, and some WFH people have proven again and again that they are lazy and unproductive at home, and have admitted they swing the lead half the time they're meant to be 'working' by doing all this extra shit. And this is why they are complaining about being asked to go back into the office, because 'wah wah wah, I won't be able to do it anymore. waaaaaaaaaahhhh!' 😖😢 THIS is why bosses want them back.

Don't even TRY to pretend that the things people do in the office environment - like going to the loo, or chatting to another colleague is anything like the things people who work from home do. They take the piss. (Not all but many!)

Your answer is ludicrous.

Gettingbysomehow · 24/04/2025 13:12

I don't think anyone would want to swap with me quite honestly. I've been working from home because I can't walk or do anything really while I wait for a major operation which is taking forever.
My job involves triaging and literally being stuck to the screen all day long trouble shooting for staff, solving problems and foing paperwork and letters clinicians are too busy to do. I also do online clinics for patients who don't actually need to be seen in person.
It's pretty mind exhausting znd I'd rather be in clinic quite honestly as there is a limit of 9 people a day I can treat. I have no limit and have to keep going until I'm done.
I can't go for a nap or put some washing on. There is no time.

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