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to be tired of the jealousy towards people who WFH?

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WFHFan · 24/04/2025 09:12

No one can post a thread about it without someone chiming in threatening if their job can done from home then it could be given to someone in another country or AI could take it.

Other people saying companies want everyone back in the office. Yes some do. Mine doesn't. They do not have the space anymore. Neither will my job go to someone in another country because of expertise and it does involve some critical face to face work. AI can't do it either.

Then some people getting offended saying if someone is WFH they shouldn't do anything else but work non stop. I can work and I do chores, shopping, school pick up, errands. It does not affect the standard or quantity of my work. I don't doubt it does affect some people's work.

I have won two awards for performance already.

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User79853257976 · 24/04/2025 21:32

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 21:28

It was only a few years ago so of course I remember. I wouldn't go back to the office full time. Fortunately my organisation has lots of WFH jobs as well as office based jobs.

I’m glad you acknowledge it. It annoys me when people act like it doesn’t give you an advantage in terms of housework and life admin.

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 21:28

User79853257976 · 24/04/2025 21:18

Yeah so you remember how it was and understand how it is for those of us that can’t work from home.

It was only a few years ago so of course I remember. I wouldn't go back to the office full time. Fortunately my organisation has lots of WFH jobs as well as office based jobs.

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User79853257976 · 24/04/2025 21:18

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 14:44

My home now runs like clockwork because I have the time to shop, cook and clean. It used to cut into my evening when in the office full time. It has made for a much happier family and also workforce. Everyone in my department enjoys hybrid working and it has brought a lot of value to their lives.

It is something I appreciate. It only happened because of covid.

Yeah so you remember how it was and understand how it is for those of us that can’t work from home.

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 21:17

PissOffJeffrey · 24/04/2025 21:04

I’m not jealous. I can’t work from home (front line NHS) and never have. However, I did have to shield for a while & my mental health has never been so bad. Working at home, alone, would never be my choice.

That said, I do think accepting your shopping delivery or picking the kids up during your WFH day is an absolute piss take. You’re being paid to do a job. Unless of course your hours are flexible.

Why is it a pisstake? When I do go into the office, I am not working solidly every minute I am there.

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IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 21:13

3rdtimeidiot · 24/04/2025 20:58

I guess it depends on the role I was thinking more along the lines of a call centre work from home job, but my friend works in marketing and she does the business on top, pjs on the bottom thing

I spend a lot of my day in leggings and a hoody. Financial services here. But I change from my PJ's into comfortable clothes that are acceptable to be seen in on my WFH days.

I found over lockdown, when we started WFH for my organisation, that not getting dressed just meant my mental health went all to pot. So I work from home but I still get up and "get ready for work". Even though work is in the same place.

Dangermoo · 24/04/2025 21:04

blueleavesgreensky · 24/04/2025 18:09

Your tax pound pays for CS to do a job. Where they do it is outside your remit. You don’t get to dictate these things. You are a perfect example of a bitter person aiming some peculiar venom at people who are merrily doing their job well in a structure that works for them and the CS

Except the edficiency of the CS is under Labour scrutiny and it's been a long time coming.

TrixieFatell · 24/04/2025 21:04

I work in the NHS and am definitely not jealous of WFH. I love going to work, seeing my colleagues and then coming home as for me it draws a line between work and home. I'm rubbish at not switching off from work so I need that physical difference. I'd feel isolated too. So not everyone wants to WFH and they will still be attracted to those roles in the NHS and teaching etc

PissOffJeffrey · 24/04/2025 21:04

I’m not jealous. I can’t work from home (front line NHS) and never have. However, I did have to shield for a while & my mental health has never been so bad. Working at home, alone, would never be my choice.

That said, I do think accepting your shopping delivery or picking the kids up during your WFH day is an absolute piss take. You’re being paid to do a job. Unless of course your hours are flexible.

3rdtimeidiot · 24/04/2025 20:58

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 20:56

I think most of us do get dressed. Just not into office clothes.

Obviously I can't speak for people's bottom halves as we don't see them on camera for meetings, but I've never had a video call with anyone in their pjs in the five years I've worked from home.

I guess it depends on the role I was thinking more along the lines of a call centre work from home job, but my friend works in marketing and she does the business on top, pjs on the bottom thing

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 24/04/2025 20:56

3rdtimeidiot · 24/04/2025 20:54

I don’t know if I’d like to work from home. Staying in my pjs would be nice but I’d be lazy as hell, and I do enjoy the mental clarity I get from leaving my home and chores behind and being elsewhere for a bit, but I just work in a supermarket, so gab with my pals for a few hours and go home, it’s a very nice night out haha

I think most of us do get dressed. Just not into office clothes.

Obviously I can't speak for people's bottom halves as we don't see them on camera for meetings, but I've never had a video call with anyone in their pjs in the five years I've worked from home.

3rdtimeidiot · 24/04/2025 20:54

I don’t know if I’d like to work from home. Staying in my pjs would be nice but I’d be lazy as hell, and I do enjoy the mental clarity I get from leaving my home and chores behind and being elsewhere for a bit, but I just work in a supermarket, so gab with my pals for a few hours and go home, it’s a very nice night out haha

WFHFan · 24/04/2025 20:52

Me too!

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Glindaa · 24/04/2025 18:11

WFH takes pressure off public transport, less traffic on the road / air pollution and saves companies money on office space . Also could solve problem of lack of available homes by converting commercial to residential. I hope hybrid & WFH is here to stay 😄

blueleavesgreensky · 24/04/2025 18:09

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 24/04/2025 15:18

It's not jealousy it's just annoying how everyone assumes you can drop everything and be in for deliveries and appointments because you might be working from home.

Also my tax pounds pay for civil servants to be working in an office not sitting in thr comfort and convenience of their own home while ppl without that luxury slog into work everyday.

Your tax pound pays for CS to do a job. Where they do it is outside your remit. You don’t get to dictate these things. You are a perfect example of a bitter person aiming some peculiar venom at people who are merrily doing their job well in a structure that works for them and the CS

blueleavesgreensky · 24/04/2025 18:07

Ablondiebutagoody · 24/04/2025 09:27

I dunno. To me it feels more like a chip on the shoulder of wfh people because office people think they are lazy skivers.

It that’s the point. Jealous people think the wfh-ers are lazy. You’ve identified the problem.

Hubblebubble · 24/04/2025 18:05

In some industries and companys (Google for example) there's a shift from hours worked to targets met. So if you're working from home and you've met/exceeded your targets, why the hell should you be tied to the desk unnecessarily? I'm probably more productive and less stressed due to the fact I can take a longer than technically allowed lunchbreak to get in some fresh air and exercise everyday.

TheignT · 24/04/2025 17:59

Do people think that eventually people who have to work in the office/factory/school/hospital will have to be offered more money or they will opt for WFH jobs? I'm retired so not relevant to me and actually I liked going into work but if WFH becomes what people want should that be reflected in pay?

DangerousAlchemy · 24/04/2025 17:25

This is a really interesting thread! I've never really considered if wfh is going to divide the country - those jobs that can't wfh and those that can. My DH has wfh since the first lockdown and he loves it. He is busy 8.50- 5.15/6 pm though and only has time for a 50 min walk some days - he doesn't take a lunch break (or eat lunch cos he's weird). I barely see him during the day. He'll hang out washing before he logs on but that's it for chores. He's on team meetings all day - IT consultant. He has a couple of cups of tea owr day and that's the only time he comes downstairs. He wfh in our loft bedroom. He'll occasionally commute into the office in London or Surrey but mainly if there's drinks after work or work 5 a side footy. He says he gets a lot more done wfh and he's happier now he can set his alarm for 8 am and no commute 🤷‍♀️ Only very, very rarely has he been able to pick up our kids from school in an emergency - he would have to block out the time on his work calendar.

mindutopia · 24/04/2025 17:07

I’ve been wfh at least part of the week for probably 18 years now. I actually don’t massively enjoy it. It simply saves on time and cost of my huge commute (3 hours each way, which I used to do 2-3 days a week). I’m looking to go self-employed in the next year though and actually exploring local co-working and office rental options because I’d actually quite prefer to go into an office.

Ihopeyouhavent · 24/04/2025 17:02

I love WFH and so grateful that i work for such a huge company that offers it.

Thankfully our union would never allow the business to mandate a full return and to be honest they sold off so much office space during Covid we wouldn't all fit!

I am more productive at home because i have no-one to chat to, have coffee/lunch with. And even though im a 9-5pm Mon-Fri i work much later and over the weekend, so for me and its swings and roundabouts!

Ornatecookie · 24/04/2025 16:58

WFH needs to be more accepted if the government want people with disabilities back at work.

MichaelandKirk · 24/04/2025 16:56

It’s a good point re tax payers money funding this. I have had the pleasure (not) of calling my council earlier. They don’t make it easy. Lots of voice activated menus and even a message saying don’t say speak to an agent because we will cut you off. I joke not!

After 20 mins queuing I got through and it was clear this agent was working from home. Dog barking and her Mum came into the room at one point asking her whether she would like a tea! She then started speaking to her and came back to me saying sorry, Mum is here at present….

She then asked me to repeat what I was saying as she lost track asked me to hold and then promptly cut me off.

MurdoMunro · 24/04/2025 16:49

WitchesCauldron · 24/04/2025 13:29

This again. Those people that keep the country afloat during Covid couldn't work from home.

The sense of entitlement is ridiculous. Civil servants particularly.

I worked from home throughout the lockdowns, managing key worker rotas and backfill, blue light support, redeployment from core work to emergency critical priorties, processing the emergency funding allocations. Not saying that I was the hero here, just that getting the people in the right places and making sure they were OK (as best as we were able) was necessary too

Sadang · 24/04/2025 16:47

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 24/04/2025 16:43

Because it's public funded.

So they should spend even more money on office space? Even when it’s not needed just because others have to go into work? Confused

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