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I've called in sick

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Photoclock · 24/04/2025 07:49

I haven't been well all week. A heavy cold, but I've been in and done my best. I was in meetings with my boss all day yesterday. She never once asked if I was OK or made the kind of "should you be here?" enquiries other did, and believe me it was obvious I wasn't well. A bit anti social to be there tbh, but you don't call sick with a cold if you're well enough to work...?

I got up and showered, dressed, got as far as putting my shoes on and finding my keys then as I was about to open the door, broke out in a horrible sweat and felt the need to sit down. So I decided sod this and came back to bed.

But if my boss had shown a bit more interest yesterday I might have pushed through...

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Smallmercies · 24/04/2025 08:07

They're your boss, not your mum, and you're an adult. YABU.

mumofthemonsters808 · 24/04/2025 08:06

If you are poorly you should not be working end of. Do not feel an ounce of guilt, just rest and return when you feel fully fit.I remember one of my lovely colleagues passing away very suddenly, there was a brief announcement on the teams chat from the management team and the working day continued. Her job was advertised a few weeks later, we are all replaceable and as harsh as it may sound just a number.It is so important we look after our own mental and physical wellbeing.

itsgettingweird · 24/04/2025 08:05

Going into work with a heavy cold and feeling fine on paracetamol is ok.

Sweating and feeling like shit and needing to climb back into bed means you aren’t well enough to work. So you did the right thing staying home.
good news is when I hit the sweaty mess part it’s usually as I break a fever and I recover afterwards so hopefully a day in bed/ on the sofa catching up on box sets and MNing will have to back to health quite soon.

I would take Friday off as well though so you have 4 full days to bounce back.

JoyousEagle · 24/04/2025 08:02

Your boss probably assumed that as you’re an adult, you can decide for yourself whether you’re able to be in.

YANBU to call in if you’re too sick to work though

Original poster
Photoclock · 24/04/2025 08:01

faerietales · 24/04/2025 08:00

You should have called in sick to begin with if it was “obvious you were unwell”.

I had a cold. Snotty with a cough, but didn't feel particularly ill.

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faerietales · 24/04/2025 08:00

You should have called in sick to begin with if it was “obvious you were unwell”.

Agix · 24/04/2025 07:56

The reaction of your boss shouldn't be the reason you push through or not. That's ridiculous.

If you're too sick to work, don't work.

If you're sick but well enough to work, then go to work.

I'd also like to add if you're contagious, either don't work or work from home if you can.

MargotB · 24/04/2025 07:56

YANBU for taking time off sick.

You were unreasonable however for going into work when you're unwell, most likely with a contagious illness.

librathroughandthrough · 24/04/2025 07:55

Feel better soon! Your boss assumed you were ok to be there as you were there. They are not your teacher. You should have gone home yesterday if you felt unwell

butterflycr · 24/04/2025 07:55

You're unreasonable for going into work in the first place with a heavy cold.

Take some responsibility. It doesn't matter what your boss thinks. You shouldn't be making other people ill.

ExtraOnions · 24/04/2025 07:51

Why “push through”, there are no medals awarded for going in sick … all you do is make other people poorly.

Your organisation can manage without you for a few days - nothing will collapse.

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