I've called in sick

Nothing worse than the ones who come in to work and make a huge deal out of how poorly they are so that everyone asks if they're ok and tells them they shouldn't be at work.

Just stay off if you're ill and go in if you're not.

It very much sounds as if you’ve called in sick mainly to punish your manager for not sending you home sick, which is a childish and odd way of looking at things.

She never once asked if I was OK or made the kind of "should you be here?" enquiries other did, and believe me it was obvious I wasn't well.

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You're an adult, surely your manager would trust that you can make a decision about whether you are well enough to work or not. It's not hard.

When your colleagues are asking "should you be here ", they actually mean "go home and stop spreading your germs".

Retail. There is no sympathy and very little pay.

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I don't understand why you'd push through if you're obviously sick and contagious. Even before covid people like this would make me furious, they martyr themselves like they're so important when they really need to stay at home

What kind of terrible company is that?
It sounds grim.

Spreading a cold is selfish.

It may just be a cold to you but some people are living with others who are more vulnerable or immuno suppressed and for whom a cold can be serious.

Surely that depends on the job? We're hourly paid, no pay for the first three days of any sickness - so you go in unless you can't physically stand or are vomiting yourself inside out.

Presenteeism is bullshit, why do you want to make your colleagues ill? Use the pay your untitled to. Maybe you wouldn't feel unwell all week if you actually took time to sleep it off.

If you're not well enough to work, you should call in sick so YANBU on that front.

However, while it might be nice for them to ask if you're feeling well, your boss is not your mum or dad. You need to make that decision as an adult.

As a manager, I am sick of having to mollycoddle staff when I have a million other things to do.

If you’re ill, you’re ill. It’s up to you to determine whether you can go in or not or if you get there and need to come home. Don’t expect or wait for other people to do the whole ‘do you need to be here’ thing because it’s up to you, only you know how ill you feel. And some bosses will never suggest that you go home rather than work. You’ll be more respected for asserting your needs than for struggling in as a feverish mess.

It’s not up to your boss to ask you questions like that. It’s up to you as an adult to decide when you’re sick and to call in sick when needed.

If you were obviously sick you should have called in sick yesterday!

I hope you're feeling better soon.
Your boss is now learning the consequences of saying No to WFH no matter the circumstances.
If I'm not feeling the best, I will work from home as my company is pretty flexible. But if it was come in or nothing, then I'm calling in sick and going back to bed.

I used to have a boss who made calling in sick a real awful experience. She would start the Spanish inquisition, suggest you could in fact manage to work, tell us to just "dose up" and come in. So it left staff all coming in to work, and being so obviously unwell that she would then tell them to go home. It's like her immediate thought was we were faking, until she could witness with her own eyes. God forbid you attempted to get a Monday off work!

So I do sympathise if you have a boss like that. But I always say to my staff, if you're too unwell to work stay home. I'd rather they took a few days to rest than struggle on and I'm happy to pick up their work if needs be.

I am laughing at the comment of being ridiculous to go into work with a cough. I have asthma and in summer my hayfever sets it off. I look (and feel) like death and cough and snot my way through the day. Am I meant to take June and July off work?? Because I'll be coughing constantly in the office 🤣😂🤣😂 I bloody wish I could!

If your ill your ill.

Or maybe your boss made the incorrect assumption that you’re an adult and therefore would only be in work if you felt up to it.

You don’t need your bosses permission to be off sick, only you can decide if you are well enough to be at work or not. And if you’re not then you call in sick, it’s pretty simple adulting really.

If you are ill, then you call in sick and you don't go to work.

If you go to work, then it's reasonable for your boss to assume that you are well enough to work.

If you go to work feeling fine and feel grotty as the day goes along, then you tell your boss and go home early.

If you are old enough to have a job, then you should not be relying on your boss to make these decisions for you.

(I've had this the other way, that I have periods of a very nasty cough due to allergies; it does not mean I am too ill for work, and I do not want to be sent home).

When you die, your family will be planning your funeral while your job plans your replacement. Its just a job, take days off as and when needed. I hate this ‘go to work regardless’ culture.

YANBU for calling in sick, you sound unwell

YABU for going into work yesterday when you were unwell. If several people commented, and you expected your boss to comment, you shouldn’t have been there.

I would still prefer to not catch their illness. I’m so tired of people thinking ‘it is just a cold’ They can actually make others really ill, especially if you have a respiratory vulnerability.

So in your own words you're calling in sick to punishment your boss?

Not because you care about yourself and think you deserve to rest when you're ill?

Yep this! I have a line managee at work who does this all the time, and I'm tired of being his mum/teacher. It's like he expects me to make the decision for him and/or expects to work ill but to a lesser extent. I constantly have to tell him, I don't mind if you take time off ill, but if you're here I assume that you are well enough to work to normal capacity. If not, take it off. It's exhausting to have to "parent" grown adults