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AIBU to cancel interview due to COVID?

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Sexisthairdressers · 24/04/2025 07:21

I have a job interview this morning but have COVID. Didn't sleep. Work up feeling crap and did a test. Just emailed to cancel. Feel terrible that it's last minute and really want the job. Have asked to reschedule. Did I do the right thing? AIBU? For info, it was a 4 hour interview (tests etc then face to face interview - just don't think I could have got through it - quite apart from not wanting to infect everyone).

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Lanzarotelady · 24/04/2025 09:31

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:04

If this is a genuine question, here's the answer. It's still here, doing untold damage. The 'let 'er rip' approach is an uncontrolled experiment that is going about as well as anticipated.
www.panaccindex.info/p/what-covid-19-does-to-the-body-seventh

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Actual medical evidence, from peer reviewed papers, with evidence and statistics, or just one persons opinion?

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:30

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:29

So your experience trumps actual data does it? Covid has a fatality rate of less than 1%. And that is including cases where Covid was cited as the cause of death on death certificates when they had preexisting cancer / heart issues etc etc. Lots of viruses could potentially kill someone who’s otherwise ill.

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Ah well that’s a great reason to go ahead and give them a virus then. 🙄

Theunamedcat · 24/04/2025 09:30

Lanzarotelady · 24/04/2025 09:29

Do you have full access to their medical records, the inquest, there could be other reasons at play.

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Why are you so fucking rude

Over40Overdating · 24/04/2025 09:29

@Justsaynonow you’re wasting your time sadly. When the full picture of what damage even a mild case of Covid can do to even healthy people, much least repeated exposure, because ‘who cares if I spread it, it’s just a cold’ becomes clearer, these will be the same people doing daily mail sad face ‘but now it’s impacting me, everyone should care’.

We are still only scratching the surface of understanding the long term health implications of covid and why it decimates some more than others but hey, as long as ‘nurses’ and ‘pragmatists’ like those on this thread never have to give a shit about anyone else or be triggered by someone testing or wearing a mask, who cares about the ‘bedwetters’.

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:29

bigfacthunter · 24/04/2025 09:20

It is different though isn’t it? I know of two otherwise healthy 40 year old men who died from heart attacks resulting from Covid complications. They just went to bed and didn’t wake up again. One was 2024 and the other 2023 so not peak pandemic time either.
haven’t met a single otherwise healthy adult who has ever died from a cold or a regular flu.

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So your experience trumps actual data does it? Covid has a fatality rate of less than 1%. And that is including cases where Covid was cited as the cause of death on death certificates when they had preexisting cancer / heart issues etc etc. Lots of viruses could potentially kill someone who’s otherwise ill.

Lanzarotelady · 24/04/2025 09:29

bigfacthunter · 24/04/2025 09:20

It is different though isn’t it? I know of two otherwise healthy 40 year old men who died from heart attacks resulting from Covid complications. They just went to bed and didn’t wake up again. One was 2024 and the other 2023 so not peak pandemic time either.
haven’t met a single otherwise healthy adult who has ever died from a cold or a regular flu.

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Do you have full access to their medical records, the inquest, there could be other reasons at play.

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:28

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:24

Profile pic wearing a mask. Sigh

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Brilliantly illustrating his points 😆

ComeAsYouAreAsAFriend · 24/04/2025 09:28

Charlotte120221 · 24/04/2025 09:18

Why test for Covid? It's irrelevant.

If you are really unwell then of course you email and ask to reschedule.

As the interviewer I'd be ok with it but just a bit 🤔about why you felt you needed to say it was covid.

As the interviewer I'd be ok with it but just a bit 🤔about why you felt you needed to say it was covid.

Because Covid is more contagious than a common cold so more of a reason why you needed to cancel an interview.

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:27

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:24

Profile pic wearing a mask. Sigh

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Yes. That’s a good enough reason not to read it in itself . 🙄

lowlight · 24/04/2025 09:26

Turning up for an interview sick is very poor form. You've done the right thing. make sure you chase them up for a new date.

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:24

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:22

Interesting thread on the psychological defense mechanisms of those who downplay the risks of covid: Psychological defense mechanisms Although I doubt the downplayers on here will be able to muster up the courage to read this or the previous info I posted. Having few symptoms with an acute infection does not mean you didn't incur long term damage.

Profile pic wearing a mask. Sigh

Isobel201 · 24/04/2025 09:24

Drivingmissmaisie · 24/04/2025 07:27

YABU to even have tested.
COVID in 2025 is very different to COVID of 2020- 5 years of mutation and de-escalation as is normal for new viruses.

Quite, I stopped testing myself at least 3 years ago.

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:24

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:22

Interesting thread on the psychological defense mechanisms of those who downplay the risks of covid: Psychological defense mechanisms Although I doubt the downplayers on here will be able to muster up the courage to read this or the previous info I posted. Having few symptoms with an acute infection does not mean you didn't incur long term damage.

Ah! This is a properly presented version of what I was trying to say above.

I hadn’t realised there was research on it, but it’s how it often strikes me when people get very sneering and defensive about the risks.

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:23

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:20

Please try to consider the people who are impacted before making those unfunny flippant quips.

Also you don’t actually have to be “ dropping dead” to be very unwell.

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Do you think about how triggering it can be for people to still obsess about Covid 5 years on? We’re sick of hearing about it. It’s time to move on.

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:22

Interesting thread on the psychological defense mechanisms of those who downplay the risks of covid: Psychological defense mechanisms Although I doubt the downplayers on here will be able to muster up the courage to read this or the previous info I posted. Having few symptoms with an acute infection does not mean you didn't incur long term damage.

Thread by @michael_hoerger on Thread Reader App

@michael_hoerger: As a clinical health psychologist, I notice that many people are using psychological defense mechanisms to downplay the risk of COVID. These are my Top 7 examples: 🧵 #1 – Denial – Pretending a prob...…

https://threadreaderapp.com/thread/1737582325779624059.html#google_vignette

TheGaaTheSkaAndTheRa · 24/04/2025 09:20

I would see you as organised and efficient under these circumstances and I would re-schedule without a second thought.

bigfacthunter · 24/04/2025 09:20

Lanzarotelady · 24/04/2025 08:07

What about a cold or flu? Why is covid different?

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It is different though isn’t it? I know of two otherwise healthy 40 year old men who died from heart attacks resulting from Covid complications. They just went to bed and didn’t wake up again. One was 2024 and the other 2023 so not peak pandemic time either.
haven’t met a single otherwise healthy adult who has ever died from a cold or a regular flu.

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:20

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:17

Yep we’re all dropping dead in the street!

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Please try to consider the people who are impacted before making those unfunny flippant quips.

Also you don’t actually have to be “ dropping dead” to be very unwell.

Charlotte120221 · 24/04/2025 09:18

Why test for Covid? It's irrelevant.

If you are really unwell then of course you email and ask to reschedule.

As the interviewer I'd be ok with it but just a bit 🤔about why you felt you needed to say it was covid.

BlueSpikeyPearls · 24/04/2025 09:18

bigvig · 24/04/2025 07:24

You won't get the job. I'd think you were flaky OP.

That really says more about you than it does about OP.

I have done what OP has done and still got the job. The interview I rescheduled was on Zoom, so there was no risk of infection. However, I felt so awful and out of it that I knew I couldn't do a good interview.

Brocsacoille · 24/04/2025 09:18

Honestly, if I were the interviewer I would think you were lying. Mainly because you said about the test. Who has Covid tests at home anymore. Plus given the symptoms you described I think most people would assume just a cold in the first few days.

I might reschedule the interview, but just so I didn’t get any flack from HR, I’d have no intention of giving you the job.

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 09:17

Justsaynonow · 24/04/2025 09:04

If this is a genuine question, here's the answer. It's still here, doing untold damage. The 'let 'er rip' approach is an uncontrolled experiment that is going about as well as anticipated.
www.panaccindex.info/p/what-covid-19-does-to-the-body-seventh

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Yep we’re all dropping dead in the street!

Over40Overdating · 24/04/2025 09:17

Mumoftwo52 · 24/04/2025 08:44

I thought the Covid bedwetters would be long gone 5 years on from the pandemic. Evidently not

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And I thought the self-centred ableists too thick & selfish to grasp how deadly Covid can still be for some people would be long gone or at least educated by decency if not by intelligence. Evidently not.

MakeYourOwnMusicStartYourOwnDance · 24/04/2025 09:15

Neolara · 24/04/2025 07:25

As an interviewer, I'd be relieved you didn't give me COVID.

This
You're sick. I wouldn't want it, had enough crap going on lately with picking up all sorts health wise.
Of course you did the right thing.
If they're decent employers, they'll reschedule.
If they're arsey about it, you wouldn't have wanted to work in a place like that anyway.

ilovesooty · 24/04/2025 09:14

Calliopespa · 24/04/2025 09:04

Exactly.

If I’m completely honest, a lot of the non testers and “ who carez?” people I know are, when you scratch the surface, actually the ones who really have the health anxiety.

It’s all “out of sight, out of mind” as a coping mechanism,

Why else would they get so wound up about someone else testing themselves with their own kit that they bought themselves?

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They're often people who have dodgy ethics about quite a lot of things in my experience.