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To ask how many of you married for money?

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Quietsurrender · 23/04/2025 20:56

Because I am considering it.

Divorced with DC and starting to really struggle financially and now also in other ways.

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Mumofteenandtween · 23/04/2025 21:07

My great grandmother did. At 24 she was widowed in WW1 with a 4 year old, a 2 year old and a newborn. She married a man more than 20 years older than herself in order to survive.

My gran describes her step father as a very kind man but (despite the fact that he was the only father she ever knew - she was the newborn) she never seemed all that attached to him.

Mum2jenny · 23/04/2025 21:06

Marry for money?
Just no, marry because you love the person and want to spend the rest of your life with them.
Money is not the solution for all ills.

AbiJane · 23/04/2025 21:05

I think it’s clear from a lot of threads on here that many women are not interested in being with men that aren’t well-off. I’m not sure it’s as black and white as marrying for money - I suspect it’s that a man is more likely to get second and subsequent dates if he’s affluent, as it makes him appear more attractive.

Maybe women are also more likely to turn a blind eye to slightly less desirable behaviour in a wealthy man?

TheAmusedQuail · 23/04/2025 21:05

Not in a million years. I couldn't force myself to have sex with someone I didn't fancy/love.

I'd lose respect for myself almost as much as I had no respect for them.

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Quietsurrender · 23/04/2025 21:03

Cosycover · 23/04/2025 21:01

Do you have someone to marry?

No. Just someone who I could see marrying.

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Quietsurrender · 23/04/2025 21:02

Just for reference, I do really like the man in question. He's funny, smart, hard working, has integrity, I feel safe around him. I even feel an attraction growing. However, there is no passion. He's unaffectionate and quite subdued in some ways.

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373849595d · 23/04/2025 21:02

Not me. Married when we were in our twenties and as poor as church mice. We’re well off now and both earn well, but I make a goes bit more.

Married him because I adored him from out very first date, and knew I wanted to spend my life with him. It was absolutely the right choice. Life is too short to share your most intimate moments with someone you only married for their wallet.

Cosycover · 23/04/2025 21:01

Do you have someone to marry?

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Quietsurrender · 23/04/2025 21:00

BIWI · 23/04/2025 20:57

Nope. I made my own money.

Good for you, I work for my own money too. 👍

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Wouldratherbetherethanhere · 23/04/2025 20:59

No, but sort of wish I had!

Met Dh at 17 though, so I didn’t think about those kinds of things, I definitely would now though

BIWI · 23/04/2025 20:57

Nope. I made my own money.

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