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Mumsnet during the beginning of the Pandemic - please tell me your stories of the maddest comments you saw

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 23/04/2025 17:49

Inspired by chat on another thread - one woman was told not to pop to the shop for milk but to put butter in her coffee instead 😄

I wasn't on mumsnet then but would love to know the maddest comments you saw?

I myself went mad during the pandemic 🙈 and refused to leave the house and judged anybody that did, I'll admit 😬😄 - I wish I'd been calmer

Please share 🥰

Edit - I know how awful the pandemic was for those who lost loved ones, and how serious those losses are - this is just about the unnecessary hysteria and comments stemming from that, not to poke fun at those who lost someone or became ill. 💕

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DrPrunesqualer · 24/04/2025 11:57

giddyauntie123 · 24/04/2025 11:35

This!!!

From what perspective @Arraminta
Crazy obsessed ?
or
Not giving a toss ?

DrPrunesqualer · 24/04/2025 11:51

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:40

I also feel for my son who was at uni during this time along with a professional part time job and packed it in in March 2021 thoroughly disenchanted as for a whole year they either had the lecturers on strike or next to no tuition of any kind or very ad hoc , no face to face, plus no benefits of a social life from March 2020 to may 2021. He was totally disheartened and went back to his job full time - I think for that period they should get all tuition fees wiped off . As my son said to me he could have stopped it, got his rent paid almost in full and carried on just with a part time job - I don’t blame him for feeling resentful that they were paying for sod all

My son was at Aberystwyth and whilst they had to pay reduced tuition fees they got all their rent for halls back during the early lockdowns when they went home.

For my son, whilst he missed out on the social side, he was glad he didn’t have to sit in exam halls…he found that very stressful.

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 11:48

@Crikeyalmightyand @DoubleShotEspressowould you have been in favour of Sweden’s over 80s ICU rule in that post?

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:45

@samarrange indeed - and I think there was a similar view in Denmark as we were there at that time- only 1 day did Copenhagen announce they were close to capacity within greater Copenhagen. It thing though that is also different is ‘press’ - I saw far less sensationalist main stream press- can you imagine here if the mail or express or Sun got wind that no one over 80 was being prioritised for ICU

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 11:43

samarrange · 24/04/2025 11:34

Something that is often not mentioned in the discussion about Sweden is that Swedish ICUs were never in danger of being overrun, which was one of the more reasonable justifications that governments gave for lockdown. Why? Because in Sweden, almost nobody over 80 ever gets sent to ICU, as a matter of policy (since well before Covid). It's considered unethical, both towards the patient and towards all of the other people who need the healthcare system, since the survival rates in that age group for something that puts you into ICU are so poor.

And indeed, we find that in most countries the survival rates in ICU for Covid were poor, to the extent that conspiracy theorists were wheeling them out as proof that "Covid doesn't kill you, ICU does, look, 85% of people who go to ICU with so-called Covid die". But it would have taken a braver man than Matt Hancock - and, to be fair, most other health ministers across Europe - to say "Sorry folks, your Granny isn't getting a ventilator, just diamorphine".

Also amusing is how about 90% of the people who were shouting "We should be more like Sweden" are the same people who claimed before Covid, and still do today, that we should be less like Sweden because Sharia immigrants etc etc.

Exactly, no logical thought applied to these arguments, just a knee jerk reaction really to what we all found to be a deeply challenging situation, with minimal regard for the glaring differences that clearly existed and remain today.

snughugs · 24/04/2025 11:43

Neemie · 24/04/2025 11:09

It was frightening to see how people could be so manipulated by fools like Matt Hancock. We lapped it up though, so I guess we deserved to be treated like idiots.

Exactly all I could think was how it must’ve been for Goebbels people just accept what they’re told by the government and don’t question. I found that far more frightening than the virus. You realised if there was anything bad to happen well the minority would have to stand up and be attacked. People were attacked for having a different opinion I think the only politicians who wasn’t entirely going along with lockdowns was Farage but I think he lost his job in LBC as a result.

I really enjoyed the paid for holiday of the government but morally and ethically it was totally wrong. Politicians at the start made comments such as “well if lots of old folk die it will help our social care”. Not pleasant I’ll admit and I think even Boris made the comment to the horror of some.

How on earth did we reach a point in society where the vulnerable and the elderly needs trump that of the economy and children? I still can’t get my head round it. Prior to covid I read an article about the Titanic and the “women and children first” and how views had changed and the comments section proved that someone talking about how their Father with umpteen aliments would come before any woman and child. I learned someone’s 80 year old Granny is far more important than young, economy, suicides and all other health conditions.

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 11:42

samarrange · 24/04/2025 11:34

Something that is often not mentioned in the discussion about Sweden is that Swedish ICUs were never in danger of being overrun, which was one of the more reasonable justifications that governments gave for lockdown. Why? Because in Sweden, almost nobody over 80 ever gets sent to ICU, as a matter of policy (since well before Covid). It's considered unethical, both towards the patient and towards all of the other people who need the healthcare system, since the survival rates in that age group for something that puts you into ICU are so poor.

And indeed, we find that in most countries the survival rates in ICU for Covid were poor, to the extent that conspiracy theorists were wheeling them out as proof that "Covid doesn't kill you, ICU does, look, 85% of people who go to ICU with so-called Covid die". But it would have taken a braver man than Matt Hancock - and, to be fair, most other health ministers across Europe - to say "Sorry folks, your Granny isn't getting a ventilator, just diamorphine".

Also amusing is how about 90% of the people who were shouting "We should be more like Sweden" are the same people who claimed before Covid, and still do today, that we should be less like Sweden because Sharia immigrants etc etc.

Sweden has changed its immigration policy recently though.

The ICU stuff is interesting, that is a big difference for them.

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:40

I also feel for my son who was at uni during this time along with a professional part time job and packed it in in March 2021 thoroughly disenchanted as for a whole year they either had the lecturers on strike or next to no tuition of any kind or very ad hoc , no face to face, plus no benefits of a social life from March 2020 to may 2021. He was totally disheartened and went back to his job full time - I think for that period they should get all tuition fees wiped off . As my son said to me he could have stopped it, got his rent paid almost in full and carried on just with a part time job - I don’t blame him for feeling resentful that they were paying for sod all

giddyauntie123 · 24/04/2025 11:35

Arraminta · 24/04/2025 10:59

It was terrifying that, hitherto, we'd not known how so many small minded, vicious people lived among us.

I still look at various neighbours and acquaintances (with a slight shudder) because their true natures were revealed during COVID.

This!!!

samarrange · 24/04/2025 11:34

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 10:37

I think that's pure twaddle and the infrastructure & population of Sweden versus the UK is so different, this does not fly sorry.

Something that is often not mentioned in the discussion about Sweden is that Swedish ICUs were never in danger of being overrun, which was one of the more reasonable justifications that governments gave for lockdown. Why? Because in Sweden, almost nobody over 80 ever gets sent to ICU, as a matter of policy (since well before Covid). It's considered unethical, both towards the patient and towards all of the other people who need the healthcare system, since the survival rates in that age group for something that puts you into ICU are so poor.

And indeed, we find that in most countries the survival rates in ICU for Covid were poor, to the extent that conspiracy theorists were wheeling them out as proof that "Covid doesn't kill you, ICU does, look, 85% of people who go to ICU with so-called Covid die". But it would have taken a braver man than Matt Hancock - and, to be fair, most other health ministers across Europe - to say "Sorry folks, your Granny isn't getting a ventilator, just diamorphine".

Also amusing is how about 90% of the people who were shouting "We should be more like Sweden" are the same people who claimed before Covid, and still do today, that we should be less like Sweden because Sharia immigrants etc etc.

Ifeelabitsick · 24/04/2025 11:31

I got told I'd be murdering grannies if I took my dog out twice a day rather than just once. Never mind that I lived in a tiny village and had masses of space to walk where I wouldn't see another person, let alone pass by them closely.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 24/04/2025 11:24

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:15

@AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta do you remember all the adverts for things like Anna is a ballerina- she doesn’t know it but her next job is in a warehouse ‘ etc . At that point I realised the government had totally lost the plot.

😂 I do but as with so much of the pandemic it now feels like a fever dream. The fact you remember it too suggests that it was not.

TigerRag · 24/04/2025 11:23

Rewis · 24/04/2025 10:36

I remember in MN people talking about being allowed outdoors only an hour a day, but I don't remember that ever really being a rule?

Also I remember a t thread where people were wondering of you're covid positive, is it OK to go to your own garden.

This "rule" was touted in a lot of FB groups despite as you say it not being a proper rule.

I think it was because a politician suggested one hour

I know the advice in at least one group was just about being sensible. Ie, no going in your car and driving somewhere remote

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 11:18

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 11:09

If by "people" you mean unqualified FB and MN commenters I think I still maintain we followed the right path at the time. ;-)

Didn’t you just say you are only learning now with the benefit of hindsight?

So those people were better able to assess the you were.

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:15

@AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta do you remember all the adverts for things like Anna is a ballerina- she doesn’t know it but her next job is in a warehouse ‘ etc . At that point I realised the government had totally lost the plot.

Crikeyalmighty · 24/04/2025 11:11

@EasternStandard no they didn’t - if there were any rule changes , that was on or I remember 1 instance where Copenhagen was reaching peak capacity for hospital beds and that was on - and occasionally a bit of ‘world stuff’ or stuff related to the vaccines or travel , but on the whole there was little scaremongering stuff - it was all very factual.

we actually went to Majorca in june 2021 when people in UK were still restricted as Denmark was on the ‘ok’ list -

it isa different kind of population though - less overcrowding , more natural adherence to restrictions in my opinion- but I do think their messaging was less confusing, less anxiety provoking and simpler to follow - it helps that they were only at the point of overload once or twice and although you do see people who clearly haven’t looked after their health as well as they should, that is less common too - and clearly helped with less-seriously unwell people - someone described it as a giant Waitrose - and I knew what they meant . They also prioritised children and children’s well being very quickly. Most people for instance were back working in the shared business centre near us by very beginning of March 21 - and the school near us certainly had kids back very early - way before UK

FedupofArsenalgame · 24/04/2025 11:11

Lol I was told I shouldn't be out and should stay at home. By the person I was making a delivery to ( I'm a delivery driver) Not sure how they planned to get their stuff if all the drivers stayed at home
Another stupid thing I heard was when son was at college. He could spend time with classmates all day but was against the rules to meet up with the same bloody people out of college hours I mean how does that even work?
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Neemie · 24/04/2025 11:09

It was frightening to see how people could be so manipulated by fools like Matt Hancock. We lapped it up though, so I guess we deserved to be treated like idiots.

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 11:09

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 10:49

It’s not only the benefit of hindsight. People were saying it at the time.

If by "people" you mean unqualified FB and MN commenters I think I still maintain we followed the right path at the time. ;-)

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 24/04/2025 11:08

sally037 · 24/04/2025 10:34

Does anyone remember the poster called @NannyAndJohn

Wonder what happened to that poster? If remember rightly they wanted to live the rest of their lives in a permanent lockdown.

I was just going to post this. I bloody loved N&Js wibd ups posts. In the end they went beyond parody.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 24/04/2025 11:05

I remember posts about how all the hairdressers and nail technicians in the country were going to have to retrain as brickies because it would never, ever be safe enough for anyone to get their haircut or nails done in a salon ever again.

I remember texting my friend, who also happens to be my hairdresser asking if I could book her in advance to build me an extension. She hasn't got round to that yet but she did cut my hair last week so I'll let her off.

Arraminta · 24/04/2025 10:59

It was terrifying that, hitherto, we'd not known how so many small minded, vicious people lived among us.

I still look at various neighbours and acquaintances (with a slight shudder) because their true natures were revealed during COVID.

StClabberts · 24/04/2025 10:52

Rewis · 24/04/2025 10:36

I remember in MN people talking about being allowed outdoors only an hour a day, but I don't remember that ever really being a rule?

Also I remember a t thread where people were wondering of you're covid positive, is it OK to go to your own garden.

It never was in England, not sure about elsewhere. Seemed to come from Gove being asked in an interview and saying he thought around an hour would be sufficient. That was never in the regs or even the guidance, but took on a life of its own. There was a poster on here at the time who believed, or claimed to, that the view of a minister overrode statute (it absolutely does not).

I also remember a thread with someone complaining about covid positive neighbours sitting in their own garden. The entitlement was off the scale.

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 10:49

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 10:11

@Mumoftwo52 Respectfully, I think you need some perspective here. I was clear that some consequences (inevitable) were far from ideal. However, this does not negate the fact that lockdown also brought about some positives. Regardless, it was a necessary response, which helped keep the virus from spreading, this has all been clearly evidenced.
I feel that for many, families got opportunities spend time together they would never have been afforded prior to the pandemic. Even these days, I see a far higher percentage of father's participating in school drop offs, attending activities, which was not typical before. I think this is a great positive. WFH for some meant that professional opportunities that did not exist before for many women have been opened up, offering them vital independence and income, around home/family responsibilities. Schools prior to the pandemic were not the safe haven for a great number of SEND child. My DC thrived at home, learning way more than they had at school and were calmer than they had ever been. This says far more about the state of mainstream education, but nevertheless, was I cannot begin to tell you a most welcome change.
As a society, lockdown really shone a light on the public services we rely upon, not just those who had the luxury of working from home, able to get most things delivered. Our health workers, education support services, medical teams, retail staff, rubbish teams etc were all suddenly afforded the credit they deserve. This I think was a very positive change.
Was all perfect? Absolutely not. My own mother went through lengthy cancer treatment from the very early days of lockdown, it was stressful and the limitations of how we were able to "bubble" and support her through this was stressful. But we understood why.
In the first few weeks, we lost a local headteacher to Covid which was very sobering, then followed a great number of relatives, friends and acquaintances. This was of course horrific.
When it comes to mental health, I think we could and should have responded, had better volumes of support available as we came out of lockdown. The word "unprecedented" still haunts and irritates me, but like all services for the vulnerable, there just is not funding where it needs to be. The same applies to DV and the increase we saw there. Piece and social services are again still woefully oovrsubscribed and underfunded, what's your solution here? IIt's not as if these issues did not exist before the pandemic, if we were to learn any lessons on this, you would hope and pray that specialist teams not only better predicted the increases, but also prepared for them. These are areas I do think we could have delivered better, but again, none of us knew the extent or duration lockdown was going to take. Remember when they talked about it being three weeks only?
My experience informed me clearly that Covid was as lethal as we were told, the fearmongering was I believe a wholly wrong method applied to make people comply when it mattered. But only the benefit of hindsight informs us of this now. At the time, the information coming through all led to this being the only way to protect as many as possible. I am not saying it was easy for indeed that consequences were insignificant, not at all. We had a number of deeply stressful challenges, losses and the daily grind of having a SEND child to navigate through this unknown was a hellish 24/7 job.
Therefore for your to cite, with no knowledge of me, the circumstances and challenges I faced with: It was mass hysteria, and it sounds like you bought into every word of it. is as offensive as it is inaccurate. We did the same as anybody did. Read the info and guidance, did the very best we could and muddled through, trying to help all we could along the way. You clearly resent lockdown, this is your right, though I disliked much of it, I disagree it was not needed. What you do not have the right to do here though is abuse me or jump to assumptions you have zero ability to judge properly. What I "brought into" was the best option available for all at the time, with an unknown, growing problem looming across the globe.

It’s not only the benefit of hindsight. People were saying it at the time.

EasternStandard · 24/04/2025 10:47

DoubleShotEspresso · 24/04/2025 10:40

Fully agree with this and Boris and his Poundland Churchill caricature was as painful then as it is now.

Mind you Starmer had had a go lately with the boots and planes nonsense.