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Theme park queue jumping for DLP

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RichSherl · 23/04/2025 14:20

Probably the wrong place to ask this but...

My DP wants us to employ a theme park queue jumper for when we go to Disneyland Paris in October.

I didn't even know these things existed?!?!?! 🤐

I've not been to DLP for a number of years but apparently it's a thing that people go with their disabled parents just so they can skip queues for rides and to see characters etc?

Can anyone corroborate this? It seems mad to me and beyond unethical.

Anyway, AIBU or should we really use someone like this to help us skip queues?

OP posts:
Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 07:56

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 24/04/2025 07:47

Would you be horrified if he made money from his disability when he’s an adult by doing this if he couldn’t get other employment due to his disability? Would you be horrified if he made his disability work for him then?

Yes if it meant what he was doing actively made things harder for other disabled people

Elphamouche · 24/04/2025 07:54

As someone with a disability who now has to jump through ridiculous hoops in Florida, people like your husband are the reason getting the pass I’ve legitimately used for years is now near impossible.

Absolutely disgusting.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 24/04/2025 07:53

That's a disgusting concept. A disbled person pimping themselves out. Worse though, the person that would use this service.
No different to prostitution

ASimpleLampoon · 24/04/2025 07:48

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:43

Why take them to a place where queues are inevitable then? Bizarre

Yes why on earth would disabled kids want to do things other kids do and enjoy 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 24/04/2025 07:47

BreakingPoint555 · 24/04/2025 07:22

My son has an access pass and I'd be horrified if someone used him like this.

Would you be horrified if he made money from his disability when he’s an adult by doing this if he couldn’t get other employment due to his disability? Would you be horrified if he made his disability work for him then?

LunchtimeNaps · 24/04/2025 07:46

I'm sorry but queue jump Mick needs looking at for more reasons than the service he is offering.

Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 07:46

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:43

Why take them to a place where queues are inevitable then? Bizarre

So my disabled son should never go any where then?
His siblings should miss out on going on holiday because he can’t go?

People like you make a hard life even harder. Hope
that makes you feel good.

He is non verbal and uses a wheelchair. He will never live independently - and you’d like to make his family’s life harder. Wow

drspouse · 24/04/2025 07:45

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:26

Employ one if you want to; reading through all of these comments I’m confused as to why being disabled entitles you to get on a ride before an full paying queuing abled person. If you want the privilege of avoiding massive queues pay for it

DH can't queue for an hour and a half in case he needs to sit down/sort out his blood sugar meter if it fails in that time. He can WAIT for an hour and a half but he'd need to do it elsewhere.
DS has a disability that means he can't wait that long without risking a meltdown. He could either return to the queue after doing other things for that time, or on some with shorter queues go on quickly.
Before they changed the regulations, I was in a wheelchair temporarily with a need to elevate one leg every half hour or so. I got a DAS pass for the US involving a video interview and some rides offered a return time so DD and I went and sat down while I elevated my leg, or went on a short ride as well.
I couldn't go if I had that condition again, without the pass.

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:43

Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 07:40

Because would you believe some people have disabilities that mean it’s very hard/impossible for them to queue.

If this didn’t exist then they wouldn’t be able to go at all.

Youd prefer that would you?

And obviously what the OPs husband is suggesting is repugnant

Why take them to a place where queues are inevitable then? Bizarre

Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 07:40

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:26

Employ one if you want to; reading through all of these comments I’m confused as to why being disabled entitles you to get on a ride before an full paying queuing abled person. If you want the privilege of avoiding massive queues pay for it

Because would you believe some people have disabilities that mean it’s very hard/impossible for them to queue.

If this didn’t exist then they wouldn’t be able to go at all.

Youd prefer that would you?

And obviously what the OPs husband is suggesting is repugnant

Bumpitybumper · 24/04/2025 07:38

Your poll is slightly confusing as I didn't know whether YANBU was agreeing with you that you shouldn't do this or suggesting YANBU to use this service.

Either way this is disgusting and this man should be banned from Disney and all other theme parks.

drspouse · 24/04/2025 07:38

Trolllol · 24/04/2025 06:37

My dh had to have a video meeting with my daughter there to approve my daughters pass so I think Disney are starting to realise it’s being misused.

This will have been for the US - DLP don't do video calls but DW/DLC have done these for years. They have increased the rigour though recently and a lot of people who were eligible before no longer are.
We are eligible for two different passes at DLP because DH has diabetes so he gets the "return later" pass and DS gets DLA so he gets a no queue pass. They require actual evidence of benefits for DS.
But if DD and I want to go on without them we are stuck in the queue as it should be.

ASimpleLampoon · 24/04/2025 07:36

As the parent of a high support needs disabled child

people who exploit concessions put in place to help disabled people are the lowest of the low.

Exploiting your disabled family members for personal gain is vile.

And to think people who genuinely need these things pretty much always feel guilty and wonder whether they should use it, and try very hard to use it fairly.

This kind of thing makes me feel sick. Physically sick.

Hope that helps

Eight8eight · 24/04/2025 07:36

Abuse of the system at WDW has led to a dreadful situation where practically nobody can get a DAS pass. It is morally repugnant to do this OP.

ZenNudist · 24/04/2025 07:34

Surely it would be cheaper to buy priority passes for your actual family?

This thread has worried me that we can't go to DWF with disabled in law's anymore. Also my friend has booked to go with her DS and DH who have medical conditions in October and I wonder if the disabled access is now being reduced for them.

scotstars · 24/04/2025 07:31

Unethical and highly annoying for those who genuinely need to use accessible queues. You can only have up to 4 people on the 1 pass so if you are more than a family of 3 it wouldn't work anyway.
I saw at DLP a couple with 2 kids and I'm guessing their gran in a wheelchair in accessible queue. Attendant told them it was max 4 and they indicated gran would be the 1 to miss out. They were huffing when the attendant pointed out they couldn't use the accessible queue in that case madness!

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 07:26

Employ one if you want to; reading through all of these comments I’m confused as to why being disabled entitles you to get on a ride before an full paying queuing abled person. If you want the privilege of avoiding massive queues pay for it

BreakingPoint555 · 24/04/2025 07:22

My son has an access pass and I'd be horrified if someone used him like this.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 24/04/2025 07:20

This is nuts.
Not sure if want mickey tagging along on my dream holiday

TigerRag · 24/04/2025 07:18

I'm not surprised people do this. I've had a few people ask me to do things with them because they get in free due to my disabilities. They weren't happy when I declined their"offer". (because I knew it was the only reason they asked)

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 24/04/2025 07:03

I feel the real issue is that these theme parks allow more people in than they can realistically cope with.

Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 24/04/2025 07:02

HedgehogB · 23/04/2025 14:29

It’s a terrible thing to do. My sister took my severely disabled non verbal autistic niece to DLP and there were so many queue jumpers in the disabled queue that they legitimately joined , that a little boy who was genuinely very disabled and a few places behind her , missed his ride entirely . His mum had been trying to get him to understand the wait in the, albeit, shorter disabled queue . He was devastated and had a meltdown when they reached the front and the ride broke down. Yay for all the selfish gits who took his treat.

I think it’s a great way for disabled people to make money, there’s very little that’s good about being disabled so why shouldn’t they find a way to be benefit from it?

LlynTegid · 24/04/2025 06:59

I suggest OP thinks carefully, not all disabilities are the same.

ObsidianTree · 24/04/2025 06:55

Disney have just announced virtual queues for character meets for everyone which everyone will have to use. Maybe this skipping the line con is why Disney have decided to do this.

Didn't realise this was a thing.

Silvertulips · 24/04/2025 06:51

A lot of people do take the piss but a lot you’re judging probably have some more hidden disability

I do wonder of you have read the tread?

Hiring a disabled person to get in in the fast pass queue is the question, it’s not about hidden disabilities at all.

Just to say my niece was also a popular choice for theme park visits!