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Theme park queue jumping for DLP

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RichSherl · 23/04/2025 14:20

Probably the wrong place to ask this but...

My DP wants us to employ a theme park queue jumper for when we go to Disneyland Paris in October.

I didn't even know these things existed?!?!?! 🤐

I've not been to DLP for a number of years but apparently it's a thing that people go with their disabled parents just so they can skip queues for rides and to see characters etc?

Can anyone corroborate this? It seems mad to me and beyond unethical.

Anyway, AIBU or should we really use someone like this to help us skip queues?

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TallulahBetty · 24/04/2025 09:44

Totally immoral

Kubricklayer · 24/04/2025 09:36

OP with a bit of clever planning you don't need a queue jumper for Disneyland Paris. Although I have experience with both.

They have a nifty app that shows the queuing times for each ride. Plan to go on the popular one's at the start of day, end of the day and during times when the parades are on. Rides like Pirates of the Carribean are really quiet around parade times.

Crush's coaster is the absolute worst ride for queue times so is an absolute must to do at the start of the day. Spiderman WEB adventure can also be bad.

We went in Summer 2022 as a family of 4 and got on all the rides we wanted to without a queue jumper (albeit the avengers campus opened 2 weeks after we let).

We returned Christmas 2023 with mother-in-law who has a disability and did take advantage of queue jumping. Part of me felt bad that we all skipped, but then I also thought most queuers weren't living with a lifelong debilitating illness like MIL so take the perks like jumping when they come.

You absolutely don't need a queue jumpe, I enjoyed both trips equally, but admittedly it was handy.

RedHillLady · 24/04/2025 09:35

It's a disgusting thing to do!!!

I took my disabled child to DLP a number of years ago and we had to provide a lot of information to get the pass, without it we wouldn't have been able to visit.

FumingTRex · 24/04/2025 09:28

That’s disgusting - i thought at first you were talking about the paid for queue bots. And i would also question what motivates a middle aged man to go on holiday with a family of complete strangers.

HariboFan5367 · 24/04/2025 09:24

BruisedNeckMeat · 23/04/2025 14:46

This “service” used to be available for Disney in Florida as well. So many people have taken the absolute piss with it that Disney have clamped down very hard on access to the disability scheme and now people who genuinely needed it cannot get approval.

This. We got denied a pass at Legoland with our severely autistic child after making us queue for over an hour in the disability queue (which was a nightmare with our child) because they have changed the rules.

It seemed to benefit the people who knew how to "game" the system and not people with a genuine need

YourLoyalPlumOP · 24/04/2025 09:22

Andrasa · 23/04/2025 14:59

on the other hand, my husband can’t queue but you could never tell by looking at him, he looks young and physically in good shape. We got a lot of v dirty looks for having the disability pass but obv don’t want to give his full medical history to everyone to make them feel better! A lot of people do take the piss but a lot you’re judging probably have some more hidden disability. You don’t even get a disability pass at Disney Florida for being in a wheelchair anymore so that wipes out the most visible reason for having one.

See. I dont look disabled and we never had one issued

not the entire time we were there.

ttcat37 · 24/04/2025 09:22

Easier and less morally questionable to go with a pregnant pal @RichSherl. Think pregnant women can be accompanied by 4 people. The downside is that you can’t go on all the rides when pregnant. But you get to skip the queues for the things you can go on, and all the food/ restaurant queues.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 24/04/2025 09:21

OldCottageGreenhouse · 23/04/2025 14:34

As a disabled person (with a child with ND) people like your DP make our time at these places, HELL. He should be ashamed of himself and if he does this, it will be noticed by an employee that his relative isn’t going on many/any of the rides and you’ll all subsequently be kicked out. I’ve witnessed this happen at least 5 times in as many years. I’ve also been confronted when staff noticed that both myself and my DD have disabled passes and it was assumed that only one of us was disabled and that we’d been issued two in error. That was embarrassing and caused many head shakes but that’s beside the point.
Please, please educate your DP on how such selfish actions causes people like us, to have to stand waiting in pain and/or distress whilst perfectly capable fraudsters like him, help themselves to the front of the queue. Appalling

They’ve changed it now

my pass last year (disabled pass) had my photo on it…so I had to go on the rides to use it.

YourLoyalPlumOP · 24/04/2025 09:19

RichSherl · 23/04/2025 14:20

Probably the wrong place to ask this but...

My DP wants us to employ a theme park queue jumper for when we go to Disneyland Paris in October.

I didn't even know these things existed?!?!?! 🤐

I've not been to DLP for a number of years but apparently it's a thing that people go with their disabled parents just so they can skip queues for rides and to see characters etc?

Can anyone corroborate this? It seems mad to me and beyond unethical.

Anyway, AIBU or should we really use someone like this to help us skip queues?

Oh wait!!!

I meant I had the disabled pass. Not a queue jumper. I had one. But I have a condition which means lots of standing isn’t good for me

it was excellent but yeah. It can be restricting.

Martymcfly24 · 24/04/2025 09:17

minipie · 24/04/2025 09:13

YES that was my first thought.

This chap is just making it harder for the users of disabled passes who really need them and use them appropriately. Theme parks getting wind of this may start asking to see proof of relationship or similar.

When we went to collect our priorities pass at the hotel concierge the guy did look closely at us. It was in a very friendly way as it is quite obviously my daughter is my daughter and we had the proof needed which was an identification card from an autism charity.

I wonder would that guy trigger someone in the system.

caramac04 · 24/04/2025 09:15

Fortunately I’m not interested in theme park big rides (big wussy) but ultimately the theme park allow too many people in. No one should have to queue for 50 minutes to get on a ride.
Years ago I took dgc to Thomas Land.
The queues were hideous and we only got onto 2 rides! Foolishly went again and managed 3 rides. Not worth the money.
#missespointofthread

OfNoOne · 24/04/2025 09:15

I wonder if 'Mick' and his fellow queue jumpers are DBS checked, in preparation for spending days with children...

minipie · 24/04/2025 09:13

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:09

For someone disabled it just reinforces that there is no concession or facility intended to make their life easier, that some selfish twat somewhere won’t try to take for themselves. With the inevitable result that eligibility will be tightened and it will be made much more difficult to access, even for those for whom it was meant.

YES that was my first thought.

This chap is just making it harder for the users of disabled passes who really need them and use them appropriately. Theme parks getting wind of this may start asking to see proof of relationship or similar.

preimenopauserulesmylife · 24/04/2025 09:12

And there was me feeling guilty for considering a pass for my severely disabled non verbal son.

LadyKenya · 24/04/2025 09:12

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:03

Because some people think that disabled people should sit at home and wait quietly for death.

It would take a rather mean spirited person, to begrudge the small concessions available to disabled people, to help make life easier, or Heaven forbid, enjoyable, now, and again!

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:11

PaperSheet · 24/04/2025 08:57

Sorry but I agree the disabled person should need to ride. Otherwise you could have a family using a pass where the disabled person doesn’t go on anything at all.

What if a family goes to a theme park and one child is just too small to ride the big rides? They really really want to but they’re just an inch too short. The rest of the family want to go on the big rides. Sadly, either the child needs to wait elsewhere with one family member or some parks offer parent swap but that still means they need to queue once. Same for if one person in the family is pregnant or has a back issue etc. It’s unfortunate when one person can’t ride what everyone else wants to, but in that situation there is ways round it. Disabled access is meant to make it so disabled people can access rides they otherwise couldn’t. Not just so their family don’t need to miss out on the odd ride or have to queue separately.

This. It’s akin to lending out your disabled badge when you’re not present in the car.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:09

Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 09:02

I agree.

If my disabled son can’t go on something the other two have to queue with one of us while the other takes him to a cafe or similar. They can’t use his access pass if he’s not there!

I can’t believe this poster jumped her boyfriend ahead and then didn’t even go on the ride! Outrageous behaviour. What sort of person goes along with it too - the boyfriend going in front of actually disabled people with no shame.

My god this thread is depressing for the amount of awful people out there

For someone disabled it just reinforces that there is no concession or facility intended to make their life easier, that some selfish twat somewhere won’t try to take for themselves. With the inevitable result that eligibility will be tightened and it will be made much more difficult to access, even for those for whom it was meant.

FloatingSquirrel · 24/04/2025 09:08

We don't use queue jump even though DS would qualify for it, a lot of the children I see definitely don't look like they actually need it.
We've had to leave queues at times and have to be mindful of when DC is getting close to being overwhelmed as he will run, but over the years it's got easier. The same with pantomimes, we do the regular ones and have had 2 where one of us left partway through with him, one he didn't want to go back into but the next we went back in after he'd had some time stroking the wall to calm himself. The last one we did he managed the whole way through.

Obviously there are cases where it's needed, but if the child is verbal and understands what is going on then it's not really doing them any favours avoiding exposing them to things they find hard.
Theme parks are the ideal place for practicing that too as there's the reward of the ride at the end compared to other busy places where they are just overwhelmed without much or any benefit for them to see.
I think taking a relative may be the outlier here, if it's a grandparent there is actually a benefit to them going if they actually want to, regardless of why the parent has chosen it the DGC are getting experiences with their grandparents by them going.

Elphamouche · 24/04/2025 09:08

FlowerFairy12 · 24/04/2025 08:15

I’m no longer eligible in Florida either yet my epilepsy hasn’t been magically cured if only.

Exactly. It’s bollocks. But people like this are the bloody reason.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:03

LadyKenya · 23/04/2025 17:41

If these concessions are being offered, as a way of making these theme parks more accessible to some people, why should they not go?

Because some people think that disabled people should sit at home and wait quietly for death.

Coffeedreaming · 24/04/2025 09:02

PaperSheet · 24/04/2025 08:57

Sorry but I agree the disabled person should need to ride. Otherwise you could have a family using a pass where the disabled person doesn’t go on anything at all.

What if a family goes to a theme park and one child is just too small to ride the big rides? They really really want to but they’re just an inch too short. The rest of the family want to go on the big rides. Sadly, either the child needs to wait elsewhere with one family member or some parks offer parent swap but that still means they need to queue once. Same for if one person in the family is pregnant or has a back issue etc. It’s unfortunate when one person can’t ride what everyone else wants to, but in that situation there is ways round it. Disabled access is meant to make it so disabled people can access rides they otherwise couldn’t. Not just so their family don’t need to miss out on the odd ride or have to queue separately.

I agree.

If my disabled son can’t go on something the other two have to queue with one of us while the other takes him to a cafe or similar. They can’t use his access pass if he’s not there!

I can’t believe this poster jumped her boyfriend ahead and then didn’t even go on the ride! Outrageous behaviour. What sort of person goes along with it too - the boyfriend going in front of actually disabled people with no shame.

My god this thread is depressing for the amount of awful people out there

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 09:01

Clearingaspace · 24/04/2025 08:37

So people who are in the fortunate position to be able to afford to pay can skip the queue, but people whose disability makes potentially simple daily living tasks difficult/painful/stressful day after day shouldn’t be given the same accommodation. If you were in a queue and there was someone with a disability struggling you wouldn’t let them go ahead of you?

I have been at dlp with someone who needed the disability access pass and also without. The trip without was at a busy weekend but we were still able to get much more done overall by having a longer day. Obviously there are exceptions like mick, but most people likely use the time they save qeueing to take breaks and rest, take care of health needs, potentially take longer to get to and from rides etc. There might also be things they can’t do even with the pass due to disability so their experience is not as full also.

If you were in a queue and there was someone with a disability struggling you wouldn’t let them go ahead of you?

Judging by the posts I seriously doubt it.

LadyKenya · 24/04/2025 09:00

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 08:12

I think anyone should have to pay extra for privileges regardless. Thankfully I don’t go to any of these ghastly places & this thread reinforces why. I can’t imagine anything worse

Then you should not be concerned about what concessions are available. It is not inconveniencing you one way, or another.

Rosscameasdoody · 24/04/2025 08:58

Kilroyonly · 24/04/2025 08:27

You don’t know anything about my life or me, just because I have a different opinion doesn’t make me angry or bitter! I just don’t agree that you should queue jump without paying for it, it’s just that simple

l’d wager that you also support the proposed cuts to disability benefits and think that Motability cars are ‘free’. Thankfully the rest of society recognises that having a disability which makes your life difficult, warrants concessions that make some things that little bit easier, or more enjoyable, and are placed above monetary value. It’s called kindness and compassion. You should try it sometime.

PaperSheet · 24/04/2025 08:57

KittyKatttt · 23/04/2025 15:46

This. As the disabled person you used to get queue jump and could wait on the platform whilst your party went on the rides. Makes sense as not all disabled people can go on every ride and if their party did they would have to queue up and that defeats the point of a disabled person having a pass.

They changed this a few years ago so now the disabled person HAS to ride. Stupid imo, I have a heart condition so cannot go on fast rides. Also cannot stand for long periods so can’t queue. It was pretty miserable when I went with my partner as he couldn’t go on any rides he wanted as that then meant I had to go and sit in a cafe or something whilst he queued for hours. The one ride I said I was going on and then snuck back through the barriers, I got a right telling off from the staff. So if you did this you would have a stranger riding around with you all day. Plus you can only have up to 4 people ride.

I won’t lecture you on the immorality of it.

Sorry but I agree the disabled person should need to ride. Otherwise you could have a family using a pass where the disabled person doesn’t go on anything at all.

What if a family goes to a theme park and one child is just too small to ride the big rides? They really really want to but they’re just an inch too short. The rest of the family want to go on the big rides. Sadly, either the child needs to wait elsewhere with one family member or some parks offer parent swap but that still means they need to queue once. Same for if one person in the family is pregnant or has a back issue etc. It’s unfortunate when one person can’t ride what everyone else wants to, but in that situation there is ways round it. Disabled access is meant to make it so disabled people can access rides they otherwise couldn’t. Not just so their family don’t need to miss out on the odd ride or have to queue separately.