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Theme park queue jumping for DLP

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RichSherl · 23/04/2025 14:20

Probably the wrong place to ask this but...

My DP wants us to employ a theme park queue jumper for when we go to Disneyland Paris in October.

I didn't even know these things existed?!?!?! 🤐

I've not been to DLP for a number of years but apparently it's a thing that people go with their disabled parents just so they can skip queues for rides and to see characters etc?

Can anyone corroborate this? It seems mad to me and beyond unethical.

Anyway, AIBU or should we really use someone like this to help us skip queues?

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Coffeedreaming · 19/05/2025 15:44

Oh good glad people are fully horrified everywhere by this idea.

Hopefully they’ll clamp down on this sort of thing. Although from what I’ve heard all it’s done is make it harder for genuinely disabled people.

More bravos to you OP 🙄

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RichSherl · 19/05/2025 13:10

Catchmeifyoucam · 12/05/2025 22:30

OP not sure if you’ve seen but a news outlet have picked this up now, it popped up on my Facebook the other day!

Oh wow no way! Do you have a link?!

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Catchmeifyoucam · 12/05/2025 22:30

OP not sure if you’ve seen but a news outlet have picked this up now, it popped up on my Facebook the other day!

WhoKnows777 · 05/05/2025 16:43

Your husbands sounds like an a$$ for even thinking of doig thisYou don't skip the line, you get a return time that's approximately the current line time. And, like several people have said the pass is for the disabled person and 3 others. Also, people doing this caused Disney World to revamp the entire disabled process as people were abusing the system just like this.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:55

Robyn96 · 03/05/2025 14:48

Not always, sometimes people in wheelchairs get priority and the people who can't go in small/dark/crowded/loud places get stuck in to join the main queue where the fasttrack people join and have to go through the ride building (pirates at DLP, Thirteen at AT, Spiderman at DLP, ect)

I’m a wheelchair user and sometimes the perception is that someone in a wheelchair takes priority over other disabilities. As you’ve so succinctly pointed out, that’s not always true. To illustrate, if I go to the supermarket I need to park in a wide disabled space but I will always choose the one furthest from the entrance and leave the nearer ones free for those who may have a walking impairment or other disability. I’m in a self propelled chair so it doesn’t matter where I park as long as the space is wide enough for access.

TaggieO · 03/05/2025 16:50

Do the dumb fucks who say it’s a perk or a benefit not get that we would swap in a heartbeat?! I would wait in a line for the rest of my life if it meant my child would speak, or ever be able to do anything independently. I would do anything just to hear him say “I love you.”, or to know for sure he understands just how much I love him, There is NO amount of “queue jumping” that makes up for having a profoundly disabled child. It’s not a fucking perk. It’s an adaptation to make things that you take for granted because you and your children are able to do them every day that would otherwise be impossible for us just a tiny bit more acceptable.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:47

TigerRag · 28/04/2025 15:57

Would you really swap those "benefits" for being able bodied?

I'd rather be able to drive than get discounts on the quite frankly shitty public transport. I'd rather have the option of going to the theatre and being able to actually enjoy the full experience than taking a companion because I need someone to help me

Spot on.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:45

RichSherl · 25/04/2025 11:45

Why? It's fair to say that disabled people get numerous "soft" benefits like this and it's a fact that plenty of perfectly-abled people exploit that to their own benefit.

To cringe, hide under a rock and just criticise others for daring to point this out is just daft.

It’s not a fucking benefit, soft or otherwise !! You just don’t get it do you ? There is no upside to being disabled. There are no ‘perks’ as you so charmingly put it. All there is is the compassion and empathy of a decent society who recognise that a disabled life is a difficult one and try to put as many concessions in place to make things as easy as possible. And then there are people like you, who think nothing of using a disabled person for your own gain to utilise something to which you are not entitled, the stealing of which makes it infinitely more difficult for genuinely disabled people to secure. And yes, I said stealing. Because that’s what it is.

And nobody here is cringing or hiding under a rock. You are being called out for what you are. A thief.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:40

Coffeedreaming · 28/04/2025 12:17

You’re most welcome.

Important you understand that you’d be making disabled people’s lives more difficult by doing this.

Nice to know you don’t care about this at all and you’re teaching them it’s more important that they have a great time and make disabled people’s time a lot worse in the process.

No wonder there are so many unpleasant and selfish people around if these are the examples they’re following.

Im also interested in all these “soft” benefits you mention that disabled people get. Can you expand on them please?

My child is non verbal and in a wheelchair - we must be missing out on all these fabulous benefits!

Could you actually look at yourself in the mirror if you skipped in front of my child with your hired weirdo in the queue at Disneyland?

Perfectly put. Couldn’t have said it better myself !!

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:39

RichSherl · 28/04/2025 10:09

Thanks for the abusive response. Reported.

And yet still standing. So not that abusive after all.

Rosscameasdoody · 03/05/2025 16:38

Robyn96 · 03/05/2025 14:55

How do you know they were queue jumpers and didn't have additional needs or a disability

Exactly. It’s yet another case of if you can’t see the disability then it doesn’t exist.

Robyn96 · 03/05/2025 14:55

HedgehogB · 23/04/2025 14:29

It’s a terrible thing to do. My sister took my severely disabled non verbal autistic niece to DLP and there were so many queue jumpers in the disabled queue that they legitimately joined , that a little boy who was genuinely very disabled and a few places behind her , missed his ride entirely . His mum had been trying to get him to understand the wait in the, albeit, shorter disabled queue . He was devastated and had a meltdown when they reached the front and the ride broke down. Yay for all the selfish gits who took his treat.

How do you know they were queue jumpers and didn't have additional needs or a disability

Robyn96 · 03/05/2025 14:48

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 23/04/2025 14:39

That’s disgraceful and should be reported to Disney land. I’m a wheelchair user and as such get the pass to jump queues. I actually have no problem waiting, it’s just that often my wheelchair won’t fit down the normal queue lane or there’s steps, and theme parks have a one size fits all policy when it comes to disability. Autistic people don’t general need step free access, but they get it because I do. If there were someone behind me in the accessible queue who appeared to have the issue with not being able to wait for long, I’d happily let them go in front of me. I admit I quite enjoy being able to jump the queue, but I don’t feel particularly guilty about it because it’s one of the few situations where I actually get a small benefit, whereas most of the time my disability is a massive disadvantage.

Not always, sometimes people in wheelchairs get priority and the people who can't go in small/dark/crowded/loud places get stuck in to join the main queue where the fasttrack people join and have to go through the ride building (pirates at DLP, Thirteen at AT, Spiderman at DLP, ect)

TaggieO · 03/05/2025 14:27

What the actual fuck did I just read?! This is DISGUSTING. My DS is profoundly disabled. All this means is that people who don’t need the accommodation of a priority pass will be in the priority line making them twice as long for people with genuine disabilities who can’t access Disney without it.

If this is genuine, your DH is a terrible person.

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 17:57

sherbsy · 29/04/2025 17:43

But it's factual!

No, it’s really not. And l think you know that. Would you really rock up to a person with no legs and suggest that the resulting issue of a blue disabled parking badge is a ‘perk’ of losing their legs ? Would you not think that the person would rather have two good legs and not need the badge ? It’s not a perk - a perk is an advantage as a result of something. There is no advantage to disability, and there is no concession that makes up for the disability itself. So no. Not factual at all. Totally incorrect in fact.

sherbsy · 29/04/2025 17:43

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 17:37

My posts upthread indicated exactly what l thought of anyone who exploits disability concessions for financial gain, as well as those who use their services. You simply don’t seem to grasp that the concessions and adjustments available to disabled people are not ‘perks’ and it’ s crass and offensive to refer to them as such. It’s akin to a man who has lost both legs being told not to worry because now he can park his car wherever he likes !! These concessions are offered in recognition of the fact that disability puts the person at a disadvantage from the start. The concession merely redresses the balance. It’s not rocket science and the fact that your post was deleted should surely reinforce the fact that your language was ableist.

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But it's factual!

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 17:37

sherbsy · 29/04/2025 17:29

I still don't really understand why you're troubled about someone describing a queue jump as being a perk when you don't seem half as bothered about a man that's literally exploiting it for his own gain?

My posts upthread indicated exactly what l thought of anyone who exploits disability concessions for financial gain, as well as those who use their services. You simply don’t seem to grasp that the concessions and adjustments available to disabled people are not ‘perks’ and it’ s crass and offensive to refer to them as such. It’s akin to a man who has lost both legs being told not to worry because now he can park his car wherever he likes !! These concessions are offered in recognition of the fact that disability puts the person at a disadvantage from the start. The concession merely redresses the balance. It’s not rocket science and the fact that your post was deleted should surely reinforce the fact that your language was ableist.

sherbsy · 29/04/2025 17:29

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 09:21

I’ve reported this comment. Can you really not see how utterly offensive is the notion that disability attracts ‘perks’ ? Those ‘perks’ are actually reasonable adjustments offered by a society compassionate and empathetic enough to understand how difficult it is to negotiate life with a disability, and to want to help mitigate that difficulty however and wherever possible. You should try ‘simply being disabled’. I can assure you that it puts you at a disadvantage in life that no ‘perk’ could ever make up for.

I still don't really understand why you're troubled about someone describing a queue jump as being a perk when you don't seem half as bothered about a man that's literally exploiting it for his own gain?

Salad666 · 29/04/2025 11:53

Are you for real??

PERKS?!

I'd much rather have the perk of being able bodied. These are not fucking perks, they're to make a shit life a little less shit.

Fuck me.

ambercabs · 29/04/2025 09:51

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Being given access when you have access needs due to disability is not a fucking ‘perk’

holy fuck, how ignorant can a person be

TigerRag · 29/04/2025 09:48

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Yes it's really such a perk going somewhere and not being able to access half of it.

I had this on Saturday. Entitled to a concession ticket. But can't access a lot of the venue. I'd rather pay the standard price and be able to actually enjoy the whole thing

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 09:21

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I’ve reported this comment. Can you really not see how utterly offensive is the notion that disability attracts ‘perks’ ? Those ‘perks’ are actually reasonable adjustments offered by a society compassionate and empathetic enough to understand how difficult it is to negotiate life with a disability, and to want to help mitigate that difficulty however and wherever possible. You should try ‘simply being disabled’. I can assure you that it puts you at a disadvantage in life that no ‘perk’ could ever make up for.

Rosscameasdoody · 29/04/2025 09:14

sherbsy · 28/04/2025 21:25

Can we not just be honest though and admit the difference is just semantics?

It’s not semantics though is it ? Ask anyone with lived experience of disability and they will tell you. As some have here.

Coffeedreaming · 28/04/2025 21:41

sherbsy · 28/04/2025 21:25

Can we not just be honest though and admit the difference is just semantics?

It’s not semantics though.

You clearly can’t conceive of what disability actually means and how it affects people’s lives.

If someone with direct lived experience is telling you that you’re wrong, you should really back down.