Is getting dgms' rings resized to fit me disrespectful?

Wear them, love them, enjoy them. I love to wear my mum's jewellery, it makes me think of her. ❤️

I had my Grandmother's 2 wedding rings (her original one, and another that my Grandad gave her for their 50th anniversary), and a signet ring melted down and made into my wedding ring for when I got married 24 years ago. I never would have worn them otherwise- her fingers were tiny- and I never take them off now.

I got my grandmas engagement and wedding ring and got them made into a pendant to wear. The rings were not my style and I wanted to be able to have it worn every day so got a beautiful pendant made.

my teen has received a beautiful diamond ring from a relatives will and is getting it resized to be able to wear it.

there is not point them sitting in a jewellery box going nothing.

I can't understand how it could ever be seen as disrespectful. Resize, wear them and enjoy!

That’s lovely ☺️

What’s the point of having them if you can’t wear them?

I read that Navajo (Native American) silversmiths believe an item of jewellery carries "spirit" with it so if an item is stolen for example, it will carry a negative spirit and will be unlucky for the wearer. Equally, if an item is gifted as an heirloom, it is gifted in love and therefore carries with it a positive spirit. On that basis, resizing the rings won't alter the "spirit" of them and the two dgms I'm sure will be very happy that you are wearing them. ❤️

Yep get them resized, but like a PP said, get any stone settings checked too as the resizing can impact the settings and you could be at risk of losing stones.

It would be disrespectful to accept the rings and not wear them. Get them resized and make everyone happy by seeing them in use again.

I know you have decided to get them resized already, but thought it might help you to know that I did this with both my Nans' rings. I had one ruby wedding anniversary ring, and my other Nan's sapphire engagement ring, and I wear them both every day. People often ask about them and it means I can talk about both Nans and it means I frequently think of them and the happy times I spent with them. I hope the same will be true for you.

Would you rather they sit in a box the rest of your life?

Of course get them resized.

I had to get mine reshanked. Make sure you go to a good jeweller and ask them to check the setting too. If it hasn't been done for a while, the claws could be loose or worn and you wouldn't want to lose a stone.

It might be worth asking for a valuation too, sometimes they are worth more than you think and you might need to tell your contents insurer depending on your policy.

No it’s not disrespectful
(but I have fat fingers so screwed up with the vote, sorry)
Its a lovely thing to do.

No not disrespectful. Better to wear them and enjoy them with fond memories of your loved ones than shove them in a drawer!

My wedding ring was my paternal grandmother's (it was my something old) and it had to be resized. I also wear a ring with turquoise stones which was my other grandmother's and had to have the clasps remade to keep the stones secure. It never occurred to me doing this would be disrespectful! They are lovely rings passed to me by two lovely ladies.

OP, you’ve inspired me! I have my beloved Nanna’s engagement ring (from the 1930s) just sitting in my collection. She had tiny hands so it’s very small, but I’m going to look into whether it’s possible to make it fit me. 😊

I’m sure you’ll enjoy wearing the rings of 2 much loved women, and I think they’d like that very much.

You can get an independent jeweller to make multiple old rings into one new ring to your size & style.

Not a high street jeweller

Example

Claire Allain jeweller

I don’t have a daughter - but if I have a DIL and granddaughters I’ll be leaving them some of my jewellery with instructions that if they don’t like or want the jewellery as it is, to melt them down and use the metal and stones to make them into something that’s more their style.

But if all they chose to do, and all that was needed was a simple resize, I’d be more than happy.

I had all of my Mums rings resized so me and DD could wear them.
The only one I didn't was her engagement ring (not to my Father) as I felt that wasn't right.
Rings are to be worn not stuck in a drawer and I think about her as I put one on

No,they’d want you to wear and enjoy them.

No, it would be lovely of you to be able to wear them and think of those people for years to come rather than have them shut away.

I’m sure both of them would have been happy you’d want to continue wearing them.

When you get them resized the jeweller can also give them a good clean and polish for you.
They will look beautiful. Looking after gifted jewellery and wearing it? Now that’s the honourable thing to do.
Enjoy these beautiful pieces, and treasure them.

I’m glad you’re going to get them resized. I inherited a cluster ring of diamonds, that had been passed to me from my mother, who had it from her aunt.
I had it turned into a pendant, which I wear always. The ring was just a bit much, and likely to catch in things. I know they’d be glad it was being enjoyed, they both loved jewellery.

Of course it's fine! Jewellery is to be worn and enjoyed! When getting them resized you could also get the setting checked (if the rings gave stones) to make sure the stones are still securely in place.

Good! Get them adjusted, wear them with love and enjoy them x

Of course it’s not.
I got married with my late mother’s wedding ring, it had to be sized up about 4 sizes (she had tiny hands, I haven’t).