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Why am I putting ON weight?

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:24

Can anyone help? I read all this stuff about what you should eat and do and what you shouldn’t and it all mixes up in my head so I decided to go simple.

I did a calorie counter and worked out to lose a pound a week I needed to eat 1700 calories. (I’m 14 stone and 5ft 3)

I did this the first week and lost a pound. Week 2 ,3 and 4 I have regained that oound and another 3!

I have started doing weights too so have heard the theory that while I might be loosing fat I will be gaining muscle but don’t think that’s the case when I’m bigger that when I started? Would understand if I was the same. Also I’m only lifting 2kg and 4kg weights as I’m a beginner.

just getting fed up that I’m eating healthily and in a deficit and exercising (walking too) and I’m bigger than when I started.

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:50

DogsOnThePlane · 23/04/2025 12:45

Don’t stop the exercise, it’s still good for you!

Im worried it’s making the weight loss harder though.

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Thelnebriati · 23/04/2025 12:48

Look at the diet for type 2 diabetes. Ditch the potatoes, peas, white bread and pasta, and switch to carbs with a lower glycaemic impact - quinoa, buckwheat, wholemeal bread. Increase your intact of protein and leafy green veg.
www.diabetes.org.uk/living-with-diabetes/eating/what-is-a-healthy-balanced-diet

ThatGladTiger · 23/04/2025 12:48

OP check your hormone levels. At your age you may be perimenopausal. Your hormones may be off an impacting your weight.

Ultimately the injections have shown it’s all about calories in and out. Regardless of how bad the calories are. Are you really tracking your calories? Ie cups of tea or sauces like a previous poster said?

Kellybonita · 23/04/2025 12:47

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:45

Ok I will try 1400 calories and will stop the exercise. I just can’t get any bigger!

Good luck!
You can still eat quite a lot on 1400 calories.

I've been snacking on carrots and fruit throughout the day. So I've never been really hungry at 1400

Springtime97 · 23/04/2025 12:47

I just wouldn’t weigh yourself. Stick to measurement or photos so you can see a difference.

Weight fluctuates for lots of reasons; hydration, where you are on your cycle etc.

You could also reduce your cals by 100 and/ or increase your activity levels and see how you get on.

I read a great article about how the first 3-4 weeks are learning / trial and error when it comes to losing weight.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:46

DUsername · 23/04/2025 12:44

I use my fitness pal and find it really good.

I use it for logging my calories too but looking for a calculator to work out how many calories I should be eating. Tho k ill
just drop to 1400 though and see how I go. If I cut out breakfast I should be ok.

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mynameiscalypso · 23/04/2025 12:46

I agree that 1700 sounds too much given your height. I’m taller and that’s only just under what I need to maintain. You definitely won’t be building muscle to the extent that it will have an impact on your weight but you can get some water retention when you start doing exercise which may be happening. It’s also worth remembering that hormones have an impact on weight too, I can easily go up or down a couple of pounds depending on where I am in my cycle/bloating.

Kellybonita · 23/04/2025 12:46

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:42

No not a nibbler. Im really being careful at the moment. I might try a new calorie calculator. Any recs? Can’t remember which one I used. Tempted to go back to slimming world as lost weight in that before and this time never give it up!

I just tried another online calculator there.

I put in five foot three, and fourteen stone weight.

It said to lose one pound a week, you need to eat 1428 calories a day.

DogsOnThePlane · 23/04/2025 12:45

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:45

Ok I will try 1400 calories and will stop the exercise. I just can’t get any bigger!

Don’t stop the exercise, it’s still good for you!

BoredZelda · 23/04/2025 12:45

lazycats · 23/04/2025 12:39

Walking is better than nothing for your heart but absolutely useless for losing weight. It’s 95% diet and 5% rigorous exercise

Edited

This is not true. Walking is good exercise and any exercise will contribute to weight loss, as long as you aren’t eating way more than you should.

I’m currently losing weight and my food intake is under control, but I notice a difference in how much is coming off whether I do more walking or not.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:45

Ok I will try 1400 calories and will stop the exercise. I just can’t get any bigger!

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Spangers · 23/04/2025 12:44

Weigh every day and note the trend over time, you can fluctuate massively day to day depending on lots of factors, particularly hormonally. Manage your expectations, 3 weeks is not really long enough to see a significant difference, especially if you’re not weighing daily. Also do photos/measurements as the scales are not the only marker of progress.

If you’re on IG follow someone like ESGfitness, I’ve learnt so much.

DUsername · 23/04/2025 12:44

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:42

No not a nibbler. Im really being careful at the moment. I might try a new calorie calculator. Any recs? Can’t remember which one I used. Tempted to go back to slimming world as lost weight in that before and this time never give it up!

I use my fitness pal and find it really good.

DUsername · 23/04/2025 12:44

I disagree that walking is useless for losing weight..the more active you are the more calories you'll burn. I lost some weight with a PT last year and when I stalled a couple of weeks , she'd drop the calories and up the steps and that tended to get things moving again.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:42

No not a nibbler. Im really being careful at the moment. I might try a new calorie calculator. Any recs? Can’t remember which one I used. Tempted to go back to slimming world as lost weight in that before and this time never give it up!

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DogsOnThePlane · 23/04/2025 12:42

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:38

Exactly. I don’t see how the weights can make me gain 4lbs when they are small weights as im just starting out. But at the same time im
eating a lot less food that normal so really think I should be loosing and not gaining.

You may still be eating too much to lose and just be gaining slower that you were previously.

Walking and those weights won’t be doing much for weight loss.

1300/1400 is more realistic to lose 1lb a week at your age, weight and exercise level.

AmateurNoun · 23/04/2025 12:42

How often are you weighing yourself and what time of day are you weighing yourself?

Weighing in the morning after going to the loo is best for consistency. If I weigh myself in the even it can vary by a lot depending on what I have eaten or drunk that day.

It can still vary a fair bit in the morning. I weighed a pound more this morning than yesterday but I am not concerned as the overall trend is that my weight is going down.

Kellybonita · 23/04/2025 12:42

I don't think 1700 calories is right.

Online weight loss calculators don't factor in people's height properly.

If you're short and five foot 3 is short, you need to eat less calories to lose weight.

I'm eating 1400 calories at five foot 3. And I've been losing weight.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:40

No im weighing once a week. I don’t want to become to obsessed but I really do need to lose weight. I make sure I weigh first thing in the morning after going to the toilet to make it as accurate as possible.

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lazycats · 23/04/2025 12:39

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:36

I don’t add on exercise calories. I’m 45 and do around 10k steps a day too.

Walking is better than nothing for your heart but absolutely useless for losing weight. It’s 95% diet and 5% rigorous exercise

DUsername · 23/04/2025 12:39

I wouldn't jump down to 1200 but maybe drop a hundred and see where that gets you.

You're not a nibbler are you?! I'm a terrible nibbler, little corner off this, a couple of pieces of that and before you know it I've nibbled through 200 calories.

Kellybonita · 23/04/2025 12:39

I don't think 1700 is the right amount of calories for you to lose a pound a week.

Especially as you are a short woman.

I'm the same height and weight as you. I'm five foot three and fourteen stone one pound.

The calculator I used told me that to lose one pound a week , I need to eat 1400 calories a day.

1700 calories is not right if you want to lose weight. You'll maintain weight eating that amount.

Use another weight loss calculator.

TimeForABreak4 · 23/04/2025 12:38

Are you weighing every day of the week and then averaging it each week to see if there's a decline that's the best way. If you only weigh one day you won't get a true number, you could need the toilet, be holding more fluid due to sodium intake, could be hormonal.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:38

MiddleAgedDread · 23/04/2025 12:36

You're not going to be building much muscle from weights that size I'm afraid, particularly not to gain 4lb in a couple of weeks. It could be fluid retention if you're new to exercising, or quite simply, you're eating too much.
Are you tracking calories and weighing everything you eat?
Are you drinking more water than before?
If you have periods then you may get a monthly pattern of fluid retention too. I never lost weight the week before my period was due.

Exactly. I don’t see how the weights can make me gain 4lbs when they are small weights as im just starting out. But at the same time im
eating a lot less food that normal so really think I should be loosing and not gaining.

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lazycats · 23/04/2025 12:38

Calorie counting is dubious. It makes you obsessive, and not all calories are equal. Not to mention the fact that many food labels aren’t accurate.

are you eating mostly veg, a bit of meat, and no sugar?

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