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Why am I putting ON weight?

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:24

Can anyone help? I read all this stuff about what you should eat and do and what you shouldn’t and it all mixes up in my head so I decided to go simple.

I did a calorie counter and worked out to lose a pound a week I needed to eat 1700 calories. (I’m 14 stone and 5ft 3)

I did this the first week and lost a pound. Week 2 ,3 and 4 I have regained that oound and another 3!

I have started doing weights too so have heard the theory that while I might be loosing fat I will be gaining muscle but don’t think that’s the case when I’m bigger that when I started? Would understand if I was the same. Also I’m only lifting 2kg and 4kg weights as I’m a beginner.

just getting fed up that I’m eating healthily and in a deficit and exercising (walking too) and I’m bigger than when I started.

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 19:28

Hubblebubble · 23/04/2025 19:12

I'm 5 ft 3, 10 stone 5 and eat around 1700 calories a day. However, I do 45 minutes to an hour of rigorous exercise 5 days a week, plus 30 mins of light cycling to the gym/pool and back. I think the answer might be more exercise.

Are you maintaining or loosing?

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 19:27

Delatron · 23/04/2025 18:00

How many reps can you do? If it’s more than 7 then they’re too light.

First round is 12 with most exercises except if I’m doing the arms above my head - so Arnold pushes? Then I can only do about 6 or 7.

I’ll stick with 4kg for that exercise and go up to 5? 6? For the others?

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Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 19:24

kissmyfatass · 23/04/2025 17:55

Don’t stop the weights. Your body shape will thank you. Ditch breakfast. Ditch milk in your coffee.

half the size of all your meals. Don’t snack. Drink more water/ squash. Don’t drink fizzy drinks or alcohol.

I won’t stop them. I don’t drink anything apart from water. It’s food that’s my problem. I will try and skip breakfast but think I’ll get the shakes and headaches. Will give it a try tomorrow and see how I go.

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Hubblebubble · 23/04/2025 19:12

I'm 5 ft 3, 10 stone 5 and eat around 1700 calories a day. However, I do 45 minutes to an hour of rigorous exercise 5 days a week, plus 30 mins of light cycling to the gym/pool and back. I think the answer might be more exercise.

Hollyaddy · 23/04/2025 18:07

I'd forget calories reduce carbs and sugar and up your protein.

Bran flakjes full of sugar. Swap for porridge.

Drop the mayo.

Potatoes pasta all turn to sugar in body. Depending on how your body deals with sugar can be a factor in u not losing.

Swap potatoes for green veg.

Projectme · 23/04/2025 18:01

TimeForABreak4 · 23/04/2025 12:38

Are you weighing every day of the week and then averaging it each week to see if there's a decline that's the best way. If you only weigh one day you won't get a true number, you could need the toilet, be holding more fluid due to sodium intake, could be hormonal.

Agree with this. I worried I'd become obsessed with the scales if I weighed daily but I'm not. The scales fluctuate by a few pounds a week but the graph shows a steady decrease overall. And I no longer have a dread for the scales like I used to when I'd hop on once a week...if I'd not lost enough or what I thought I should, I'd be so disheartened and give up.

The addition lbs can easily be down to having more glycogen as a result of working out, or having a heavy carb day, or not clearing your bowel sufficiently for instance.

Delatron · 23/04/2025 18:01

Do not ditch breakfast- it’s not a good idea to exercise fasted.

Delatron · 23/04/2025 18:00

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 17:41

im not defensive. It’s hard to get tone across in messages. They are low weights but they are enough for me at the moment. Although to be fair I am using the 4kg s and don’t feel any aches yet so perhaps need to try 5kg next.

How many reps can you do? If it’s more than 7 then they’re too light.

kissmyfatass · 23/04/2025 17:55

Don’t stop the weights. Your body shape will thank you. Ditch breakfast. Ditch milk in your coffee.

half the size of all your meals. Don’t snack. Drink more water/ squash. Don’t drink fizzy drinks or alcohol.

Cheeks4970 · 23/04/2025 17:50

Please, please, please watch a Youtube video by Dr Jason Fung as mentioned by the first commenter - there is so much information out there now that will help you for the rest of your life. You could also watch Glucose Goddess or Cynthia Thurlow and Dr Stacy Sims is also brilliant - she was on Mel Robbins podcast recently and was amazing.

Greenfingers37 · 23/04/2025 17:42

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 12:50

Im worried it’s making the weight loss harder though.

I exercise for health and fitness rather than weight loss but it does make me feel very hungry!

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 17:41

FortyElephants · 23/04/2025 17:37

Don't feel defensive - it's not a criticism. It's just that building muscle for women is HARD and requires heavy lifting and just won't happen with light home weights. That's not a bad thing or a criticism, but it also means muscle increase isn't responsible for the scales going up.

im not defensive. It’s hard to get tone across in messages. They are low weights but they are enough for me at the moment. Although to be fair I am using the 4kg s and don’t feel any aches yet so perhaps need to try 5kg next.

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AlphaApple · 23/04/2025 17:40

Also - your scales may not be that accurate. Take measurements!

AlphaApple · 23/04/2025 17:40

Try to be patient. If you've made changes it takes a while for your body to respond. Regardless, increasing your exercise and eating healthy food will improve your health.

Just checking - are you drinking calories? And are you getting enough sleep?

FortyElephants · 23/04/2025 17:37

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 16:49

I know they are light but I’m a beginner and got to start somewhere! Once im
used to the 4kg I will go up to 5 or 6 and keep increasing but everyone has to start somewhere!

Don't feel defensive - it's not a criticism. It's just that building muscle for women is HARD and requires heavy lifting and just won't happen with light home weights. That's not a bad thing or a criticism, but it also means muscle increase isn't responsible for the scales going up.

FortyElephants · 23/04/2025 17:34

cramptramp · 23/04/2025 15:44

I’m taller than you and my tdee worked out at 1200 for weight loss. I lost weight steadily on that amount of calories. If you’re not losing weight, you’re eating too many calories.

You don't have a TDEE for weight loss. You can have a calorie allowance for weight loss which is a figure below TDEE.

Tessasanderson · 23/04/2025 17:02

Could be loads of reasons for this but its pretty easy to take control of it.

1700 is currently adding 3lbs per week so it is obviously too much. Ignore your exercise, but please dont stop it. Exercise isnt a weight loss tool, its a health benefit regardless of your weight. Enjoy it.

I would go to 1400-1500 which i suspect is closer to your maintenance calories. Carry on with this for 2-3 weeks and see how your body reacts. Try to keep an eye on how much carbs you are eating (You mention a few in your post) because they tend to encourage water retention. If you are exercising its likely you are drinking more too which weighs more. If your weight stays the same then you now know your maintenance calories and can work from there. Dont treat it as a race. Being able to do something long term is much better than someone who fasts for a few months and then puts it all back on.

Once you have got to the bottom of maintenance you can then make a real decision on how to alter your calories to suit.

Treat exercise as something fun. It will not be able to overcome a calorie surplus.

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 16:49

PoppyBaxter · 23/04/2025 16:14

You won't have gained muscle lifting such light weights. You're eating too many calories.

I know they are light but I’m a beginner and got to start somewhere! Once im
used to the 4kg I will go up to 5 or 6 and keep increasing but everyone has to start somewhere!

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postmanshere · 23/04/2025 16:30

You need to be obsessive with calorie counting (and not many people are). Log everything. If you have 4 cups of tea a day that can easily log an extra 100-150 calories depending on milk and sugar types and many people don’t even count cups of tea. Dressings, sauces and cooking oils can easily add 100 calories depending to meals
and you wouldn’t even think to
count them. ANYTHING that passes you lips would need to be counted. Also being really specific with food types - you might add a banana to your calorie count for example but the difference between a large and a medium banana can be 50cal. They’re all small amounts but combined theyll be pushing your calories up. And the only reason you’ll gain wait is calories in vs calories out.

Also remember that gym bodies are built in the kitchen… not the gym.

Delatron · 23/04/2025 16:25

I find Zoe ok - I do listen to some of their podcasts but they are quite generic as is Chris Van Tullekan. The message about eating less UPF and more plants etc is sound. However women are not small men. What we need to do is very different due to hormones. Especially so in peri menopause hence why the Next Level book is very good and specific.

Kellybonita · 23/04/2025 16:23

I just weighed myself. I don't own a weighing scales as I don't want to feel defeated every day looking at it.

So I go in and weigh myself at a pharmacy once a month.

I've lost 6 pounds in the month! Im delighted.

That was eating about 1200 calories per day.

PoppyBaxter · 23/04/2025 16:14

You won't have gained muscle lifting such light weights. You're eating too many calories.

Icanthinkformyselfthanks · 23/04/2025 16:13

GreyCarpet · 23/04/2025 12:28

Well, you're going to get a lot of arguing and conflict on here around what constitutes healthy eating, but if you want to share what an average day's meals look like, then I'm sure people will try to help.

Alternatively, Dr Jason Fung does an excellent podcast available free on Spotify called The Obesity Code, which challenges a lot of current ideas about 'healthy eating' and might help.

(Including the simple calories in calories out model).

Also a lot of information about how the body actually processes food.

Edited

@GreyCarpet , I second Jason Fung but would also suggest the Zoe podcasts are also excellent along with The Glucose Goddess and Chris Van Tulleken.

lazycats · 23/04/2025 16:09

5128gap · 23/04/2025 15:55

I must be an anomaly then. I've lost 10lbs since January just by walking 10-15k steps per day. Admittedly I go at a fairly brisk pace, but not to the point of breathlessness. I've not reduced my calories as weight loss wasn't my main aim, I just wanted to move more. I'm 55 so my age is against me for weight loss, but when I walk it falls off. I'll have to start eating more soon.

Yes, congratulations, you’re a scientific marvel 😉

Daffodilpup · 23/04/2025 15:57

FullDisclosure · 23/04/2025 15:37

Am going to go against the flow and say I'm surprised you aren't losing weight in the longer term if you were maintaining before.

You may be retaining fluid - it can take weeks before this changes. Plenty of vegetable fibre and some extra water can help. If you use a maintenance calorie calculator that takes your height, sex, age and exercise level into account, then take 600 calories off your maintenance calorie count, you should be losing in the longer term. You're fine to be expecting to lose some weight on 1700 calories if you're counting calories right and if you're generally active and exercising 4 days a week to raise your heart rate as well as doing muscle resistance. I wouldn't reduce those calories by more than 100.

The science of calorie deficit is right, whatever trends emerge. Additional things that can be useful are: combining any carbohydrates with fats and proteins will help prevent blood sugar spikes which make you hungry. Protein will satiate hunger better than anything else. Developing and using your muscles uses calories somewhat faster.

People report they can't lose on normal calorie deficit but under controlled conditions this is almost always down to miscalculation of food intake and over- estimation of activity levels, and / or people aren't in defecit long enough. Almost no-one has a health condition which will actually prevent them losing weight on calorie deficit in the long term.

Thank you. Fingers crossed it’s fluid I’m retaining from the weights. I think I’m going to lower my calories a bit, maybe to 1500 and weigh myself in a couple of weeks and see where I am.

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