when GC was born, we did sleepovers every month, but as time went on, these sleepovers turned into every week, and both myself and DH were also working full time 24/7 shifts and we were exhausted, so we put a stop to them for a while, which i believe is our right to do. the sleepovers were not related to childcare, they were so that the couple could carry on their very busy social lives and in all honesty we felt they were taking the piss. But we still made every effort to visit, take out and be with said GC.
fast forward to this week, and was having a conversation with the SS and his partner, and they asked send over your rota so we can get a date booked in to you, which i did and on the spreadsheet i use, one saturday id written GC2 sleepover (daughter is pregnant, taken poorly, had to go into hospital so we had GC2).
SS see's this on the rota and instantly asks 'are sleepovers back on the agenda?'
anyway cut a long story short, a massive row ensues. SS and his partner admit that when we stopped sleepovers, the felt hurt so they stopped making any effort to see us, and basically have said when the sleepovers come back, then we can see GC again!
to me, this is using the GC as a weapon, give us what we want or you can't see him?
anyway, turns out, they are short of money, and she works 4 days a week and he works 3 days a week, and the plan is for her to go back to 5 days a week because she is the bigger wage earner. although if he took an extra day a week, he would easier earn the bigger wage... and again i am the bad guy because i suggested that rather than make partner go back to work full time, he should take an extra shift. it would seem that its not fair that he should sacrifice his time with his child and it would work out if he worked an extra shift that his partner would see the child more than he does? this apparently is 'modern parenting'?
what a log of tosh.. he's a grown ass adult who doesnt want to work!
I'm not really sure what the AIBU question is... i gues all of it?