Giving lifts after work

You are going out of your way to do her a favour and worried you are getting on her nerves? Fuck that tell her look we agreed a friday and now you seem to think every day is acceptable so from now on you will have to find another way to get there as I am no longer in a position to do this for you. Give her no other explanations or reasons the cheeky mare.

Can you say to her (and her understand due to the language issues) I have been diagnosed as suffering from fatigue and before you asked me to do this I was able to recover by having rest from 5-6.30 enough to keep going. I cannot keep giving you lifts because it is stopping me recovering and making me ill.
If you say that to her and she still pushes for lifts then she is an absolute CF and no friend.

This.

This is good

She’s a CF. Everyday is ridiculous. It’s an extra 30 minutes. She offers no money. Just say no.

Keep doing once a week on Friday, say no more.

Just give her a few days notice say after this Friday, I won't be able to run you home, things have changed at home. Leave it at that, if she asks, just say, it's personal and I'd rather not discuss it at the moment. Don't get caught up in stories. It's really hard been there.

Just say you can't do it anymore.
Once a week, when it adds on 20/30 minutes and no offer of petrol money is a bit rude tbh and I wouldn't have agreed to every week, but certainly not every day. No way I would want to be doing that.
Make up an excuse if you feel better, but you can just say it no longer works for you and she will have to make other arrangements. She has planned to go to this activity daily whilst knowing she has to rely on you, she's taking the piss.

Just say no.

Put a stop to it ,I give a lift home to one of my colleagues because I go pass her house on my way home,but I wouldn’t go out of my way I just want to get home.

What does she do when you're off work? She can do that the rest of the time too!
I think you are being generous doing it once a week given that it is out of your way and adds 20-30 mins to your journey. No way would I be doing it every day. It is a total imposition on your time/life. Tell her it doesn't work for you and she'll have to make other arrangements.

But if the OP was able to be upfront then she wouldn't have started the thread looking for advice in the first place.

I don't understand why people get theirselves into this situation. Are you a people pleaser with a need to be liked? Just stop. You don't need an excuse, I don't want to to is fine. She's not your responsibility.

Please don't encourage this nonsense of telling lies. It never works in these situations and they become endless

Like pp said: tell her you have a personal comittment after work EVERY DAY so you can't take her. I don't have a car and I take buses and walk all the time. I wouldn't dream of asking anyone for a lift and when someone offers I take it as a one time favour and thanks graciously. If someone offer to drive regularly I say no, I love to walk. It's partly true but I also don't want to be a burden on anyone especially since I'm young (45) and fit and perfectly capable to go by bus and walk. She's a CF and you have to be firm.

When you walk to your car and she's standing there with one hand on the door handle expectantly waiting to get in like a cheeky f@cker, say Oh hello Janet, I'm going straight home tonight, and won't be able to give you lifts going forward, things have changed for me. Do you want to get in and come as far as the bus stop this once?

She is not your responsibility, stop making her travel plans your issue.

I wouldnt do it even once a week.

Is she paying petrol money?

If you don’t feel you can tell her straight, then invent a reason that applies every day eg elderly aunt needs looking after by the wider family and you’ll be going there after work every day for the foreseeable future. Text this to your colleague this week and tell her the lifts will end on Friday.

‘Hi,
just to give you a heads up - changing a few things up which means from next Monday I’ll need to be home promptly most nights so won’t be able to drop you off any more. Realise that this has drifted from being once a week to most evenings, so wanted to give you a bit of warning so can make other arrangements. ‘

Sorry XX, I won't be able to give lifts home in the future as I have a personal commitment that I will need to attend to from now on. Hope you manage to find an alternative.

Just do yourself a favour and rip the plaster off.

Personally I wouldn't even do it once a week if it added that much time to my journey home. For a friend yes, but not a colleague it sounds like you don't even like.

YANBU.
Bite the bullet and message her saying that you can't offer any more lifts as you have other commitments. You don't need to embellish on that.

Just tell her no more lifts, I wouldn't even give a reason. If she pushes just repeat no and that it doesn't work for you.

I would be taking the opportunity to stop the lifts altogether.