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To be shocked by a transwoman guest on Jeremy Vine today asking a female caller what sex she is - and whether she’s “been tested?”

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AlertMaker · 23/04/2025 10:04

I genuinely couldn’t believe what I was hearing. A woman called in to make a point and instead of responding to her argument, the guest asked her what sex she was - and even questioned whether she’d been tested to confirm it.

I found it incredibly demeaning and unsettling. AIBU to think this kind of behaviour undermines the whole idea of respectful discussion and actually silences women?

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Lostcat · 26/04/2025 18:14

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 18:06

And here the BBC sought clarification.

Equality watchdog issues interim guidance on single-sex spaces www.bbc.com/news/articles/clyw9qjeq8po

“The guidance also states that "in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men's facilities, and trans men (biological woman) not to be permitted to use the women's facilities".”

“When asked to clarify this, the EHRC pointed to a section of the Supreme Court ruling stating that trans men could be excluded from women's facilities "where reasonable objection is taken to their presence, for example because the gender reassignment process has given them a masculine appearance or attributes to which reasonable objection might be taken" in the context of a women-only service.”

Looks like it has been clarified for those who were determined to misinterpret it. Again.

yes and this would be completely fine and compatible with an understanding of the judgements as permitting exclusion of trans people from using services according to their gender, where proportionate (as has always been the case)., it is completely incompatible with a view of the judgement as mandating exclusion in all circumstances as per the incoherent EHRC guidance

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 26/04/2025 18:09

There is sense in it if you consider the purpose of that space from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for, instead of seeing literally everything through the lens of "trans people as main characters"

misscarlett has it

this is a tra/ stonewall fuckup

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 18:06

And here the BBC sought clarification.

Equality watchdog issues interim guidance on single-sex spaces www.bbc.com/news/articles/clyw9qjeq8po

“The guidance also states that "in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men's facilities, and trans men (biological woman) not to be permitted to use the women's facilities".”

“When asked to clarify this, the EHRC pointed to a section of the Supreme Court ruling stating that trans men could be excluded from women's facilities "where reasonable objection is taken to their presence, for example because the gender reassignment process has given them a masculine appearance or attributes to which reasonable objection might be taken" in the context of a women-only service.”

Looks like it has been clarified for those who were determined to misinterpret it. Again.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 17:30

Here is an employment barrister’s take on it. It might be helpful for those confused still.

https://x.com/itsdavegreen/status/1916038497011462501?s=46

https://x.com/itsdavegreen/status/1916038497011462501?s=46

BundleBoogie · 26/04/2025 14:52

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 14:49

Let us remember that all these performances are meant to cloud our judgement and convince us that male people should be welcome in female people’s single sex spaces.

That we are supposed to think that the EA guidelines are flawed and unworkable and that people’s beliefs about themselves should be treated as material reality.

The desperation and thrashing about for an cogent argument is clear. I dread to think what the EHRC email inbox will be like on Monday morning!

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 14:49

Let us remember that all these performances are meant to cloud our judgement and convince us that male people should be welcome in female people’s single sex spaces.

That we are supposed to think that the EA guidelines are flawed and unworkable and that people’s beliefs about themselves should be treated as material reality.

BundleBoogie · 26/04/2025 14:42

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 12:14

Let's review the incoherent nonsense of the EHRC interpretation of the Supreme Court judgement once more.

  • "trans women (biological men) should not be permitted to use the women’s facilities and trans men (biological women) should not be permitted to use the men’s facilities, as this will mean that they are no longer single-sex facilities and must be open to all users of the opposite sex
  • in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men’s facilities, and trans men (biological woman) not to be permitted to use the women’s facilities"

So if you are providing a single sex service, it must be based on “birth sex”. Therefore, you must exclude all people who do not match that “birth sex” otherwise you would be unfairly discriminating against some people of that birth sex and not others. That is not allowed, and there is no basis for treating people differently on the basis of gender presentation - gender presentation is an irrelevance for the purposes of excluding people of the "wrong" birth sex, from same sex services.

HOWEVER, you can exclude some people of the “matching” “birth sex” from the same facilities and not others, and, that’s not discrimination at all!! Oh no! In that case gender presentation is an entirely relevant and appropriate basis for excluding some people and not others, in their access to single-sex services.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

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It’s not the EHRC’s fault that some people have chosen to alter their appearance so drastically that it could upset people that are traumatised or vulnerable - let’s face it - we are mainly talking about places like rape crisis centres/Hospitals etc.

Maybe you could have a think about a reasonable solution that meets EVERYONES needs rather than just those of men who identify as women? Just a thought.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 14:36

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 14:21

Gosh, so let’s see. Some people who choose to undergo extreme body modifications that means that as a female they now have male body cues, act in a way that allows service providers to legitimately discriminate against them.

For day and days now we have been bombarded with weaponised threats about these over 6ft tall, bearded female people entering female single sex spaces. We have patiently explained time and time again that the female people who have transgender identities have already discussed these issue with us (apparently none of us ’listen’ to transgender people!) and told us how they acknowledge their choices and find alternative solutions.

But here you are again, performing outrage at what you perceive is an inconsistency. There is no inconsistency here. Extreme transgender activists recognised the dilemma when they weaponised female people against female people.

Where necessary to protect those who need to be away from people with male body cues, even female people with male body cues, laws had to include some provision.

Exactly this.

Even the trans man who did an AMA on here and said that he lives "stealth" and that most people do not know he was born female said he doesn't usually use men's toilets and generally prefers to find single occupation or unisex toilets.

These enormous 6ft bearded trans men who completely pass and will now be excluded from both men's and women's toilets are a figment of trans activists' imaginations.

And I also suspect that trans men who live "stealth" and have not had a phalloplasty tend to avoid swimming pools, changing rooms and sports in general. Because those are precisely the types of situations in which men in that space are likely to notice that they don't have a penis and that could put them at risk.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 14:21

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:21

from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for

From the point of view of gender-conforming people you mean? Because they are the main characters right?

Heaven forbid that equalities and human rights legislation should be logical and not arbitrarily discriminate against minority groups! Main character syndrome I say! They should stop whining!

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Gosh, so let’s see. Some people who choose to undergo extreme body modifications that means that as a female they now have male body cues, act in a way that allows service providers to legitimately discriminate against them.

For day and days now we have been bombarded with weaponised threats about these over 6ft tall, bearded female people entering female single sex spaces. We have patiently explained time and time again that the female people who have transgender identities have already discussed these issue with us (apparently none of us ’listen’ to transgender people!) and told us how they acknowledge their choices and find alternative solutions.

But here you are again, performing outrage at what you perceive is an inconsistency. There is no inconsistency here. Extreme transgender activists recognised the dilemma when they weaponised female people against female people.

Where necessary to protect those who need to be away from people with male body cues, even female people with male body cues, laws had to include some provision.

commonsense61 · 26/04/2025 14:16

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Grammarnut · 26/04/2025 14:10

ScaryM0nster · 23/04/2025 10:37

The problem with these debates is that most of the points made work from a basic assumption that there are two, distinct, black and white categories. The testing done in elite sport clearly demonstrates that in reality things aren’t quite as simple as that.

That piece of education is missing for so many people.

So while, yes, it was a very direct question, in a debate program where the differentiations are a key part of the debate it doesn’t seem unreasonable.

The testing done in elite sports sorts out the men with DSDs which allow them to present as a woman - that's what they are for. Semenya is a man with a male DSD, for example.

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 14:06

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 12:14

Let's review the incoherent nonsense of the EHRC interpretation of the Supreme Court judgement once more.

  • "trans women (biological men) should not be permitted to use the women’s facilities and trans men (biological women) should not be permitted to use the men’s facilities, as this will mean that they are no longer single-sex facilities and must be open to all users of the opposite sex
  • in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men’s facilities, and trans men (biological woman) not to be permitted to use the women’s facilities"

So if you are providing a single sex service, it must be based on “birth sex”. Therefore, you must exclude all people who do not match that “birth sex” otherwise you would be unfairly discriminating against some people of that birth sex and not others. That is not allowed, and there is no basis for treating people differently on the basis of gender presentation - gender presentation is an irrelevance for the purposes of excluding people of the "wrong" birth sex, from same sex services.

HOWEVER, you can exclude some people of the “matching” “birth sex” from the same facilities and not others, and, that’s not discrimination at all!! Oh no! In that case gender presentation is an entirely relevant and appropriate basis for excluding some people and not others, in their access to single-sex services.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

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I don’t think you are a good judge on coherency, by the way.

And at this point you sound incoherent and simply flinging stuff out hoping something sticks.

Anyhow. If a person has taken such steps as to have extreme body modifications that could cause some people of their own sex distress through believing they are the opposite sex, then they can be excluded. Of course, their exclusion is probably going to be rare such as women’s refuges needing to exclude a female who has taken testosterone, with a phalloplasty and presents as male.

This has been long recognised as an issue, even amongst the female people with transgender identities who come and discuss issues with us on threads. They recognise the issue. Yet they get weaponised by people such as yourself to be weak arsed gotchas. They on the other hand, take responsibility for the extreme body modifications that they chose.

I am glad though you are asking for clarification for the guidance as it seems you are confused.

Annoyedone · 26/04/2025 13:55

Gotta love @Lostcat. If there was a medal for persistence, they’d be a shoe in for the gold. The bat shit takes are comedy gold. It’s like they’re a toddler fighting sleep. Bless

NotSafeInTaxis · 26/04/2025 13:32

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:21

from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for

From the point of view of gender-conforming people you mean? Because they are the main characters right?

Heaven forbid that equalities and human rights legislation should be logical and not arbitrarily discriminate against minority groups! Main character syndrome I say! They should stop whining!

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Sweetie, the judgement is about SEX, not gender.

Since you haven't understood the very very first thing, perhaps you could stop trying to transplain to the rest of us?

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 13:32

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:21

from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for

From the point of view of gender-conforming people you mean? Because they are the main characters right?

Heaven forbid that equalities and human rights legislation should be logical and not arbitrarily discriminate against minority groups! Main character syndrome I say! They should stop whining!

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It makes perfect sense.

If it is reasonable for female people to object to the presence of male people in their spaces, it is also reasonable for them to object to the presence of someone who has deliberately altered their appearance to the extent that nobody can tell they are not male.

In reality I think very few people will fall into this category and those who genuinely do will probably continue to use spaces for the opposite sex unnoticed.

aylis · 26/04/2025 13:32

"In some circumstances"

You don't need to be a rocket scientist to understand when that might be the case, or how to interpret judgement, the law, or the guidelines. It is incredibly straightforward.

queenofthesuburbs · 26/04/2025 13:30

I'm not sure how having toilet facilities just for biological women discriminates against men who wish to be women, as long as there are other facilities in which they can relieve themselves?
As women wannabes, they should actually understand why women want a women only space.
What 14 year old girl on her period is going to want to share facilities with a man? And be embarrassed as she exits the toilet to see a man at the sink?
Surely because trans women are so attuned to women's sensibilities they should understand this?
And you haven't answered my question regarding men in women's sport

Nameychangington · 26/04/2025 13:30

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:01

Let me put it more succinctly and in a more sober tone (if that pleases you all):

The guidance declares that it would be arbitrarily discriminatory and therefore unlawful to exclude some individuals of the “wrong” birth sex (e.g. transwomen) and not others (e.g. men) from single sex (e.g. female) spaces. (if there’s justification to exclude any, there must be justification to exclude all, regardless of gender (presentation) - so the logic goes).

However, it is conversely not considered discriminatory to exclude just some individuals of the “correct” birth sex (e.g. trans men) from access to these same (female) facilities. In the latter case gender (presentation) is an relevant factor according to which people may be treated differently in their access to single-sex facilities, and this time with legitimate (non-discriminatory) cause.

There is no sense to be made of these rules other than from the perspective of wanting to exclude people from public services for simply expressing the "wrong" alignment of sex and gender presentation - i.e. for being gender non-conforming.

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Have you still not read the judgement? It is explained there how this could be lawful discrimination.

It's so a rape support group can lawfully exclude all those 6 foot tall, bearded muscley passing transmen (which gender ideologues have all apparently got as friends ) because the traumatised women in the group would perceive them as male and be triggered. It's hard on all those hefty bearded transmen I agree, but I suppose it's the 'find out' in FAFO.

Here is sex matters explaining it for you too:

The judgment describes how service providers offering a single-sex service are also exempt from the prohibition against gender-reassignment discrimination (as long as their conduct is proportionate). For example, a “trans man” (a woman living in the male gender) can be lawfully excluded from a female-only service, without this amounting to gender-reassignment discrimination.

https://sex-matters.org/posts/publications/supreme-court-judgment-summary-and-practical-advice/

You really need to read the judgement though.

Supreme Court judgment: summary and practical advice - Sex Matters

The Supreme Court has clarified that “sex” in the Equality Act 2010 means biological sex, male or female. Policies should use this definition. Any policy which relies on some other definition is likely to result in unlawful conduct.  This briefing prov...

https://sex-matters.org/posts/publications/supreme-court-judgment-summary-and-practical-advice/

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:21

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 13:08

There is sense in it if you consider the purpose of that space from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for, instead of seeing literally everything through the lens of "trans people as main characters".

from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for

From the point of view of gender-conforming people you mean? Because they are the main characters right?

Heaven forbid that equalities and human rights legislation should be logical and not arbitrarily discriminate against minority groups! Main character syndrome I say! They should stop whining!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 13:08

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:01

Let me put it more succinctly and in a more sober tone (if that pleases you all):

The guidance declares that it would be arbitrarily discriminatory and therefore unlawful to exclude some individuals of the “wrong” birth sex (e.g. transwomen) and not others (e.g. men) from single sex (e.g. female) spaces. (if there’s justification to exclude any, there must be justification to exclude all, regardless of gender (presentation) - so the logic goes).

However, it is conversely not considered discriminatory to exclude just some individuals of the “correct” birth sex (e.g. trans men) from access to these same (female) facilities. In the latter case gender (presentation) is an relevant factor according to which people may be treated differently in their access to single-sex facilities, and this time with legitimate (non-discriminatory) cause.

There is no sense to be made of these rules other than from the perspective of wanting to exclude people from public services for simply expressing the "wrong" alignment of sex and gender presentation - i.e. for being gender non-conforming.

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There is sense in it if you consider the purpose of that space from the point of view of the vast majority of the people that space is actually for, instead of seeing literally everything through the lens of "trans people as main characters".

NotSafeInTaxis · 26/04/2025 13:04

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:01

Let me put it more succinctly and in a more sober tone (if that pleases you all):

The guidance declares that it would be arbitrarily discriminatory and therefore unlawful to exclude some individuals of the “wrong” birth sex (e.g. transwomen) and not others (e.g. men) from single sex (e.g. female) spaces. (if there’s justification to exclude any, there must be justification to exclude all, regardless of gender (presentation) - so the logic goes).

However, it is conversely not considered discriminatory to exclude just some individuals of the “correct” birth sex (e.g. trans men) from access to these same (female) facilities. In the latter case gender (presentation) is an relevant factor according to which people may be treated differently in their access to single-sex facilities, and this time with legitimate (non-discriminatory) cause.

There is no sense to be made of these rules other than from the perspective of wanting to exclude people from public services for simply expressing the "wrong" alignment of sex and gender presentation - i.e. for being gender non-conforming.

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Oh wow. The delusions grow ever stronger.

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 13:01

Let me put it more succinctly and in a more sober tone (if that pleases you all):

The guidance declares that it would be arbitrarily discriminatory and therefore unlawful to exclude some individuals of the “wrong” birth sex (e.g. transwomen) and not others (e.g. men) from single sex (e.g. female) spaces. (if there’s justification to exclude any, there must be justification to exclude all, regardless of gender (presentation) - so the logic goes).

However, it is conversely not considered discriminatory to exclude just some individuals of the “correct” birth sex (e.g. trans men) from access to these same (female) facilities. In the latter case gender (presentation) is an relevant factor according to which people may be treated differently in their access to single-sex facilities, and this time with legitimate (non-discriminatory) cause.

There is no sense to be made of these rules other than from the perspective of wanting to exclude people from public services for simply expressing the "wrong" alignment of sex and gender presentation - i.e. for being gender non-conforming.

peanutbuttertoasty · 26/04/2025 12:23

Great mantrum.

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 12:14

Let's review the incoherent nonsense of the EHRC interpretation of the Supreme Court judgement once more.

  • "trans women (biological men) should not be permitted to use the women’s facilities and trans men (biological women) should not be permitted to use the men’s facilities, as this will mean that they are no longer single-sex facilities and must be open to all users of the opposite sex
  • in some circumstances the law also allows trans women (biological men) not to be permitted to use the men’s facilities, and trans men (biological woman) not to be permitted to use the women’s facilities"

So if you are providing a single sex service, it must be based on “birth sex”. Therefore, you must exclude all people who do not match that “birth sex” otherwise you would be unfairly discriminating against some people of that birth sex and not others. That is not allowed, and there is no basis for treating people differently on the basis of gender presentation - gender presentation is an irrelevance for the purposes of excluding people of the "wrong" birth sex, from same sex services.

HOWEVER, you can exclude some people of the “matching” “birth sex” from the same facilities and not others, and, that’s not discrimination at all!! Oh no! In that case gender presentation is an entirely relevant and appropriate basis for excluding some people and not others, in their access to single-sex services.

MAKE IT MAKE SENSE

Alucard55 · 26/04/2025 09:49

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 22:40

The EHRC guidance is utter bullshit.

So I guess that means according to the EHRC women can’t take their male babies into the female toilets right? It’s ALWAYS proportionate to exclude MALES cos they are MALE right? And if a woman does take their male baby in the toilets they are immediately by definition MIXED SEX and must be open to ALL male people right? Otherwise that’s ILLEGAL !

So I guess women with baby boys can’t use the women’s now either.. 🙄🙄 so they’ll have to go to the loos with all the weird trans people 😱😱😱…. ohhhhhh noooo, But wait- isn’t that DISCRIMINATION , because no single sex space is provided for these poor women right ?! So what do we dooooo 🤯🫠🫠🫠.

It doesn’t take many brains to work out what utter bullshit nonsense this guidance is , and the fact that it has absolute nothing to do with any rational interpretation of the law.

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It's very simple. Adult human males stay out of female spaces. Let women deal with babies and young children.

To what extent do you think men should be treated as women in society and law?