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To be shocked by a transwoman guest on Jeremy Vine today asking a female caller what sex she is - and whether she’s “been tested?”

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AlertMaker · 23/04/2025 10:04

I genuinely couldn’t believe what I was hearing. A woman called in to make a point and instead of responding to her argument, the guest asked her what sex she was - and even questioned whether she’d been tested to confirm it.

I found it incredibly demeaning and unsettling. AIBU to think this kind of behaviour undermines the whole idea of respectful discussion and actually silences women?

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Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 17:43

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 17:31

The statements that were made are not factual , they are very clearly harmful, expressing prejudice and discriminatory. You are struggling to see that as people often do when they are a) not the person suffering the discrimination, b) in fact share the discriminatory attitudes themselves. That’s why I recommend you show them to a sample of trans people who will be in a much better position than you to judge.

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If we show the statement 'the earth is a ball' to a group of flat earthers, the fact that the flat earthers are likely to dislike the statement does not make the statement incorrect, harmful, discriminatory, or prejudiced.

You're just sealioning.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 17:31

cardibach · 27/04/2025 17:27

Attitudes don't alter facts. In the same way feelings don’t.

The statements that were made are not factual , they are very clearly harmful, expressing prejudice and discriminatory. You are struggling to see that as people often do when they are a) not the person suffering the discrimination, b) in fact share the discriminatory attitudes themselves. That’s why I recommend you show them to a sample of trans people who will be in a much better position than you to judge.

cardibach · 27/04/2025 17:27

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 17:26

None of that says transwomen are violent predators or their identities are not valid

You believe these statements you just made because you share the same attitudes as that PP.

Show these statements to a sample of trans women and ask them if they agree with you or me. That might help clarify things for you.

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Attitudes don't alter facts. In the same way feelings don’t.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 17:26

cardibach · 27/04/2025 17:17

None of that says transwomen are violent predators or their identities are not valid. It says that some TRAs are violent (and you know that’s true- look at placards and the website terf is a slur if you are unaware) and that their female identity is not the same as being of the female sex. This is also true.

None of that says transwomen are violent predators or their identities are not valid

You believe these statements you just made because you share the same attitudes as that PP.

Show these statements to a sample of trans women and ask them if they agree with you or me. That might help clarify things for you.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 17:24

Gender is irrelevant to the PC of sex in the Equality Act. That is the point of the judgement

except it’s not. That’s the part you are misunderstanding.

  1. the purpose of the judgement was much narrower- simply to clarify the use of specific terminologies for the purposes of understanding diff provisions in the EA
  2. (related to your misunderstanding of this discrete, narrow aim) the situation is not as black and white as you think it is and that is the problem. Sometimes “gender” may very well be relevant to the PC of sex in the equality act. - eg when trans women experience discrimination as women and when trans men can be excluded from female services. ( thats not to say that gender is the PC - the PC has been clarified as birth sex, but that doesn’t mean gender is “irrelevant” as you claim)

Whenever you exclude trans people , or any people, with a protected characteristic from a service you have to show that it’s a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim. In order to do so you have to show that your logic is consistent/ makes sense is not arbitrary. The EHRC guidance applies the following two (contradictory) logics at the same time, for the purpose of justifying excluding trans people from services:

  1. trans people can never , in any circumstance, be treated diff from people of their birth sex in relation to same sex provision because it would automatically be discriminatory to do so, (eg if you admit trans women , the service has to be open to all men otherwise discrimination), sex presentation / transition is irrelevant.
  1. trans people can be treated differently from people of their birth sex sometimes without being discriminatory . Sex presentation/ transition may be relevant.
cardibach · 27/04/2025 17:17

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 14:52

Of course it doesn’t answer my points at all. Protecting institutions backs (because of challenges with practical enforcement) and the fact that some transwomen will slip under the radar is in no sense a defence of implementing illogical, arbitrary, and unlawful guidance.

it doesn’t say any of this lots of the usual about how trans women are violent predators, and trans people’s identities aren’t valid so I think you are reading the wrong thing or making stuff up.

Her posts starts off with lots of stuff about how no one in real life thinks TWAw.

She then proceeds to call them “TIM”.

Her post ends with statements such as:

“What I am surprised by is the number of women who having seen the hate, vitriol and violence…still maintain that this is still just about quiet, gentle, vulnerable, 'feminine' men who just want to pee.”

“I haven't heard or read of a single woman who wants transpeople erased or wishes harm or violence towards them. The same cannot be said of the trans position against women.”

So making stuff up? Not me. Let’s leave it there.

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None of that says transwomen are violent predators or their identities are not valid. It says that some TRAs are violent (and you know that’s true- look at placards and the website terf is a slur if you are unaware) and that their female identity is not the same as being of the female sex. This is also true.

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:56

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:43

**If you are going to exclude trans people from services you have to show that your logic makes sense .

Trans people are humans too and they are still protected under the EA - the SC made that clear.

Sigh

The aim is not to exclude transpeople. The aim is to exclude everyone of the wrong sex. This is about sex, not gender. That's the part you keep missing. Gender is irrelevant to the PC of sex in the Equality Act. That is the point of the judgement. The PC of gender reassignment is a completely different PC. The two are not connected.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:43

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:29

You can’t just write trans people out of the narrative , “soz”.

If you are going to treat trans people differently you have to show that your logic makes sense - it doesn’t because it is this:

  1. trans people can never , in any circumstance, be treated diff from people of their birth sex in relation to same sex provision because it would automatically be discriminatory to do so, (eg if you admit trans women , the service has to be open to all men otherwise discrimination)
  2. then argue that actually trans people can be treated differently from people of their birth sex sometimes and that’s not discriminatory

The two statements are entirely contradictory.

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**If you are going to exclude trans people from services you have to show that your logic makes sense .

Trans people are humans too and they are still protected under the EA - the SC made that clear.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:37

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:29

What is beyond unreasonable (and unlawful) is the EHRC guidance which declares that trans people must never be allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender.

No one at all, trans or not, is allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender. Because facilities aren't provided by gender.

if you are struggling with this language because it describes the experience of people who aren’t exactly like you, I’ll re-phrase it. It makes no difference to me :

To be clear , it is my personal view that it is not unseasonable to have exemptions where transwomen can be excluded from female spaces , and where trans men can also be excluded from female spaces, where it can be shown in the particular context that it is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim (eg rape crisis support). This is how the law has always been and I think it’s reasonable/ proportionate.

What is beyond unreasonable (and unlawful) is the EHRC guidance which declares that trans women must never be allowed to use women’s facilities (and trans men must never be allowed to use men’s - although no one is actually bothered by this, but it has to be added of course for appearances)

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:29

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:27

No,.you are seeing it from the wrong end of a telescope. This is not about what we do and don't do about transpeople. This is about what we do and don't do, about men and women.

All the people of one sex are excluded from the provision for the opposite sex - no men allowed in the women's DV shelter.

Also, in limited circumstances, some people of the same sex are also excluded because they will cause distress to the users - no passing transmen (all 5 of them) in the women's DV shelter.

Not everything is solely focussed on transpeople. Soz.

You can’t just write trans people out of the narrative , “soz”.

If you are going to treat trans people differently you have to show that your logic makes sense - it doesn’t because it is this:

  1. trans people can never , in any circumstance, be treated diff from people of their birth sex in relation to same sex provision because it would automatically be discriminatory to do so, (eg if you admit trans women , the service has to be open to all men otherwise discrimination)
  2. then argue that actually trans people can be treated differently from people of their birth sex sometimes and that’s not discriminatory

The two statements are entirely contradictory.

Annoyedone · 27/04/2025 16:29

@Lostcat maaaaateeeee! Are you getting your analysis from Reddit? Have you read the judgement?

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:29

What is beyond unreasonable (and unlawful) is the EHRC guidance which declares that trans people must never be allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender.

No one at all, trans or not, is allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender. Because facilities aren't provided by gender.

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:27

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:12

You cannot at the same time

  1. argue that trans people can never , in any circumstance, be treated diff from people of their birth sex in relation to same sex provision because it would automatically be discriminatory to do so, (as per the over interpretation in the guidance)

  2. then argue that actually trans people can be treated differently from people of their birth sex sometimes and that’s not discriminatory (As per guidance + provisions in the SC judgement)

The two statements are entirely contradictory.

Hope this is clear now.

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No,.you are seeing it from the wrong end of a telescope. This is not about what we do and don't do about transpeople. This is about what we do and don't do, about men and women.

All the people of one sex are excluded from the provision for the opposite sex - no men allowed in the women's DV shelter.

Also, in limited circumstances, some people of the same sex are also excluded because they will cause distress to the users - no passing transmen (all 5 of them) in the women's DV shelter.

Not everything is solely focussed on transpeople. Soz.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:25

To be clear , it is my personal view that it is not unseasonable to have exemptions where transwomen can be excluded from female spaces , and where trans men can also be excluded from female spaces, where it can be shown in the particular context that it is a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim (eg rape crisis support). This is how the law has always been and I think it’s reasonable/ proportionate.

What is beyond unreasonable (and unlawful) is the EHRC guidance which declares that trans people must never be allowed to use facilities in accordance with their gender.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:12

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:04

Yawn yes we get it, you think if passing transmen are excluding from a women's rape support group because the women would read them as male, it's not fair to exclude transwomen from women's toilets. Because somehow to you that's equivalent. I asked you this morning if that was seriously the look you were going for, apparently it is. You do you.

You cannot at the same time

  1. argue that trans people can never , in any circumstance, be treated diff from people of their birth sex in relation to same sex provision because it would automatically be discriminatory to do so, (as per the over interpretation in the guidance)

  2. then argue that actually trans people can be treated differently from people of their birth sex sometimes and that’s not discriminatory (As per guidance + provisions in the SC judgement)

The two statements are entirely contradictory.

Hope this is clear now.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:07

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 15:57

Try reading it. You are claiming that EHRC are wrongly interpreting the judgement in order to arbitrarily be unkind to transpeople. Or something.

If you read what I posted, which is the actual text of the actual judgement, you will see that the circumstances in which a transmen could be excluded from a woman's provision, and it not be discrimination on the grounds of gender reassignment, is from the judgement itself. It's not EHRC or posters here or anyone else misinterpreting what the judgement says, it is from the horse's mouth.

You said it was very important for people to know the actual law and not erroneous and discriminatory interpretations of the law? Well there it is.

This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

Weird that you have decided that Lord Sumption's interpretation is correct, and no others are, when all of the interpretations I have seen apart from his and the Lewis Silkin one which Lewis Silken quickly took down when it was pointed out that they were laughably incorrect, all say the same thing. Female= no transwomen.

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Weird that you have decided that Lord Sumption's interpretation is correct

Well you would find it “weird” because you obviously haven’t actually read my posts 😂.
my posts were oriented at explaining exactly why the EHRC interpretation cannot be correct as it is contradictory, Inconsistent, arbitrary, discriminatory and therefore clearly not compatible with the law.

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 16:04

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:01

Here is one example.

Yawn yes we get it, you think if passing transmen are excluding from a women's rape support group because the women would read them as male, it's not fair to exclude transwomen from women's toilets. Because somehow to you that's equivalent. I asked you this morning if that was seriously the look you were going for, apparently it is. You do you.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:03

Lostcat · 26/04/2025 19:13

Yes I understand that provision I have no idea why you keep repeating it.

The point is not that that this provision is unreasonable per se, it is that it is entirely incompatible with the broader logic of the EHRC guidance for the reasons stated.

The EHRC are trying to have it both ways, such that gender variant/ trans people can be treated differently to other persons of the same birth sex, only for the purposes of excluding them from services.

It's a completely discriminatory and entirely unacceptable reading of the law.

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And again here. I am well aware that it is in the judgement. The provision in itself is not unlawful as I have said repeatedly.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 16:01

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 05:54

Again - the point is not that that this provision in itself is illegitimate or unlawful per se.
The point is , you cannot have it both ways.

If you are going to say that it is lawful and legitimate in some circumstances to treat trans men differently from other “birth sex” females , based on transition , when interpreting protections related to sex in the EA.

you can’t then simultaneously claim that it can never possibly be lawful and legitimate to treat trans women differently from other “birth sex” men , based on transition, when interpreting protections related to sex in the EA.

Making these two claims simultaneously constitutes contradictory, arbitrary and subjective logic . Therefore it can’t possibly be lawful. It fails the “legitimate aim” test.

The SC judgement itself does not contain this contradictory, arbitrary, discriminatory logic.

The EHRC draft guidance does, which is why it is a completely erroneous and unlawful interpretation of the judgement.

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Here is one example.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:59

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 15:57

Try reading it. You are claiming that EHRC are wrongly interpreting the judgement in order to arbitrarily be unkind to transpeople. Or something.

If you read what I posted, which is the actual text of the actual judgement, you will see that the circumstances in which a transmen could be excluded from a woman's provision, and it not be discrimination on the grounds of gender reassignment, is from the judgement itself. It's not EHRC or posters here or anyone else misinterpreting what the judgement says, it is from the horse's mouth.

You said it was very important for people to know the actual law and not erroneous and discriminatory interpretations of the law? Well there it is.

This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

Weird that you have decided that Lord Sumption's interpretation is correct, and no others are, when all of the interpretations I have seen apart from his and the Lewis Silkin one which Lewis Silken quickly took down when it was pointed out that they were laughably incorrect, all say the same thing. Female= no transwomen.

Edited as Lostcat decided to change her post after I posted

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And again

As I have said repeatedly the issue is not with that provision per se, the issue is that that provision (which is indeed in the judgement) is not compatible with the broader way that the SC judgement has been interpreted/ expanded in the EHRC judgement. Specifically the fact the EHRC has interpreted the judgement as mandating exclusion of trans women from all female spaces (based on the logic that if they are open to trans women they must be open to all birth males). This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

There is no need to reply to me if you are not actually going to read my posts , its a complete waste of (everyone’s) time!!

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 15:57

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:48

Omg, are you reading my posts? I know that is in the judgement.

As I have said repeatedly the issue is not with that provision per se, the issue is that that provision (which is indeed in the judgement) is not compatible with the broader way that the SC judgement has been interpreted/ expanded in the EHRC judgement. Specifically the fact the EHRC has interpreted the judgement as mandating exclusion of trans women from all female spaces (based on the logic that if they are open to trans women they must be open to all birth males). This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

Please don’t reply to me if you are not actually going to read my posts , its a complete waste of time!!

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Try reading it. You are claiming that EHRC are wrongly interpreting the judgement in order to arbitrarily be unkind to transpeople. Or something.

If you read what I posted, which is the actual text of the actual judgement, you will see that the circumstances in which a transmen could be excluded from a woman's provision, and it not be discrimination on the grounds of gender reassignment, is from the judgement itself. It's not EHRC or posters here or anyone else misinterpreting what the judgement says, it is from the horse's mouth.

You said it was very important for people to know the actual law and not erroneous and discriminatory interpretations of the law? Well there it is.

This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

Weird that you have decided that Lord Sumption's interpretation is correct, and no others are, when all of the interpretations I have seen apart from his and the Lewis Silkin one which Lewis Silken quickly took down when it was pointed out that they were laughably incorrect, all say the same thing. Female= no transwomen.

Edited as Lostcat decided to change her post after I posted

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:48

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 15:43

Ok Lostcat just for you I went back and found the relevant paragraph in the judgement. Note that this is not the EHRC guidance, this is the actual judgement

  1. There is nothing in the wording of this provision to indicate that paragraph 28 was directed specifically at those holding a GRC, nor is there any basis for concluding that this is its likely context as the Inner House suggested at para 56. (The example given in the explanatory notes at para 740 also does not distinguish between transexual people with a GRC and those without: “A group counselling session is provided for female victims of sexual assault. The organisers do not allow transsexual people to attend as they judge that the clients who attend the group session are unlikely to do so if a male-to-female transsexual person was also there. This would be lawful”). We can see nothing to support the Inner House’s conclusion that “the importance of this paragraph is that it provides the only basis upon which a person might be permitted to exclude a person with a GRC from services which are provided for their acquired sex”. Nor is the EHRC correct to assert that paragraph 28 is redundant on a biological interpretation of sex. On the contrary, if sex means biological sex, then provided it is proportionate, the female only nature of the service would engage paragraph 27 and would permit the exclusion of all males including males living in the female gender regardless of GRC status. Moreover, women living in the male gender could also be excluded under paragraph 28 without this amounting to gender reassignment discrimination. This might be considered proportionate where reasonable objection is taken to their presence, for example, because the gender reassignment process has given them a masculine appearance or attributes to which reasonable objection might be taken in the context of the women-only service being provided. Their exclusion would amount to unlawful gender reassignment discrimination not sex discrimination absent this exception.

Again, this is not the EHRC guidance, to which you have taken such exception; this is the actual judgement, and therefore law.

All this could be avoided if you read the judgement instead of blustering around claiming other people are interpreting it wrongly.

Omg, are you reading my posts? I know that is in the judgement.

As I have said repeatedly the issue is not with that provision per se, the issue is that that provision (which is indeed in the judgement) is not compatible with the broader way that the SC judgement has been interpreted/ expanded in the EHRC judgement. Specifically the fact the EHRC has interpreted the judgement as mandating exclusion of trans women from all female spaces (based on the logic that if they are open to trans women they must be open to all birth males). This is not how the judgement was intended as per Lord Sumption’s clarifications.

Please don’t reply to me if you are not actually going to read my posts , its a complete waste of time!!

Nameychangington · 27/04/2025 15:43

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:08

Well according to the EHRC Apparently they can change sex (for the purposes of treating them differently to other members of their birth sex under equalities legislation) but only if the result is their exclusion from public services.
According to the EHRC they also can never change sex (never be treated differently from other members of their birth sex) where that reasoning facilitates their exclusion from services.

As long as the result is that trans people are excluded from services then the logic is entirely flexible.

That’s the problem with the guidance.

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Ok Lostcat just for you I went back and found the relevant paragraph in the judgement. Note that this is not the EHRC guidance, this is the actual judgement

  1. There is nothing in the wording of this provision to indicate that paragraph 28 was directed specifically at those holding a GRC, nor is there any basis for concluding that this is its likely context as the Inner House suggested at para 56. (The example given in the explanatory notes at para 740 also does not distinguish between transexual people with a GRC and those without: “A group counselling session is provided for female victims of sexual assault. The organisers do not allow transsexual people to attend as they judge that the clients who attend the group session are unlikely to do so if a male-to-female transsexual person was also there. This would be lawful”). We can see nothing to support the Inner House’s conclusion that “the importance of this paragraph is that it provides the only basis upon which a person might be permitted to exclude a person with a GRC from services which are provided for their acquired sex”. Nor is the EHRC correct to assert that paragraph 28 is redundant on a biological interpretation of sex. On the contrary, if sex means biological sex, then provided it is proportionate, the female only nature of the service would engage paragraph 27 and would permit the exclusion of all males including males living in the female gender regardless of GRC status. Moreover, women living in the male gender could also be excluded under paragraph 28 without this amounting to gender reassignment discrimination. This might be considered proportionate where reasonable objection is taken to their presence, for example, because the gender reassignment process has given them a masculine appearance or attributes to which reasonable objection might be taken in the context of the women-only service being provided. Their exclusion would amount to unlawful gender reassignment discrimination not sex discrimination absent this exception.

Again, this is not the EHRC guidance, to which you have taken such exception; this is the actual judgement, and therefore law.

All this could be avoided if you read the judgement instead of blustering around claiming other people are interpreting it wrongly.

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 15:14

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:08

Well according to the EHRC Apparently they can change sex (for the purposes of treating them differently to other members of their birth sex under equalities legislation) but only if the result is their exclusion from public services.
According to the EHRC they also can never change sex (never be treated differently from other members of their birth sex) where that reasoning facilitates their exclusion from services.

As long as the result is that trans people are excluded from services then the logic is entirely flexible.

That’s the problem with the guidance.

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I don’t think you have understood very much of the little you appear to have read.

Lostcat · 27/04/2025 15:08

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 15:04

Nothing is going to “answer your points” because your whole argument is based on the precept that people can change sex, which is both materially and legally false. But please continue, as it’s illuminating for those reading along.

Well according to the EHRC Apparently they can change sex (for the purposes of treating them differently to other members of their birth sex under equalities legislation) but only if the result is their exclusion from public services.
According to the EHRC they also can never change sex (never be treated differently from other members of their birth sex) where that reasoning facilitates their exclusion from services.

As long as the result is that trans people are excluded from services then the logic is entirely flexible.

That’s the problem with the guidance.