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To be shocked by a transwoman guest on Jeremy Vine today asking a female caller what sex she is - and whether she’s “been tested?”

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AlertMaker · 23/04/2025 10:04

I genuinely couldn’t believe what I was hearing. A woman called in to make a point and instead of responding to her argument, the guest asked her what sex she was - and even questioned whether she’d been tested to confirm it.

I found it incredibly demeaning and unsettling. AIBU to think this kind of behaviour undermines the whole idea of respectful discussion and actually silences women?

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cardibach · 25/04/2025 18:46

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 18:05

A single sex space must be kept single sex

no. This is not what the judgement says. it clarifies that a single sex space can be restricted by birth sex if in the context the exclusion of others can be shown to be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

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The legitimate aim is privacy and dignity for female people. Therefore trans women can’t come in.

SaveMeFromHumanity · 25/04/2025 18:27

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 18:15

but doesnt the SC judgement say that if a space in designated/marked female it must be female [by birth sex] only

No.

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I think you need to read it again.

People have already explained this to you and yet you keep repeating it.

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 18:15

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but doesnt the SC judgement say that if a space in designated/marked female it must be female [by birth sex] only

No.

commonsense61 · 25/04/2025 18:07

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Lostcat · 25/04/2025 18:05

cardibach · 25/04/2025 12:29

No, the law hasn’t changed. It’s been clarified because so many people were ‘misunderstanding’ it. A single sex space must be kept single sex and sex means sex at birth.

A single sex space must be kept single sex

no. This is not what the judgement says. it clarifies that a single sex space can be restricted by birth sex if in the context the exclusion of others can be shown to be a proportionate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 17:51

SaveMeFromHumanity · 25/04/2025 12:33

No she will not be breaking the law. She can use whatever words or symbolic signage she would like on the toilet. She is not required to enforce the exclusion of trans women from the toilet labelled “women”. This was never required. It is not required now. The law has. Not. Changed.

Er, she is. That's literally what the ruling clarified.

No it isn’t .

The ruling clarified that it is not necessarily illegal to exclude trans women from female-sex spaces if , in the given context, this can be justified as reasonable/ proportionate/ legitimate aim, etc. this is the same as the law has always been.

borntobequiet · 25/04/2025 17:50

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 17:49

It is not against the law for a trans woman to use a toilet marked “women’s” or “females”.

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Why?

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 17:49

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It is not against the law for a trans woman to use a toilet marked “women’s” or “females”.

SaveMeFromHumanity · 25/04/2025 12:33

No she will not be breaking the law. She can use whatever words or symbolic signage she would like on the toilet. She is not required to enforce the exclusion of trans women from the toilet labelled “women”. This was never required. It is not required now. The law has. Not. Changed.

Er, she is. That's literally what the ruling clarified.

cardibach · 25/04/2025 12:29

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:23

No she will not be breaking the law. She can use whatever words or symbolic signage she would like on the toilet. She is not required to enforce the exclusion of trans women from the toilet labelled “women”. This was never required. It is not required now. The law has. Not. Changed.

No, the law hasn’t changed. It’s been clarified because so many people were ‘misunderstanding’ it. A single sex space must be kept single sex and sex means sex at birth.

Alltheprettyseahorses · 25/04/2025 09:46

aylis · 25/04/2025 09:36

'Don't mention periods and babies' is really another version of treating women's biology as something unmentionable. Ultimately those things are a marker of a female - that INCLUDES infertile women otherwise how does she know she's infertile. A person that doesn't have periods is either a female who expected to and will therefore probably seek medical guidance - or a man. It's got nothing to do with suggesting that if you don't have periods you're not a woman at all. These terrible faith interpretations need to stop.

100% this. The desperation to try to minimise, hide or guilt us out of stating the fundamental fact that women are women because of biology speaks volumes.

aylis · 25/04/2025 09:36

'Don't mention periods and babies' is really another version of treating women's biology as something unmentionable. Ultimately those things are a marker of a female - that INCLUDES infertile women otherwise how does she know she's infertile. A person that doesn't have periods is either a female who expected to and will therefore probably seek medical guidance - or a man. It's got nothing to do with suggesting that if you don't have periods you're not a woman at all. These terrible faith interpretations need to stop.

Potatio · 25/04/2025 09:27

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5128gap · 25/04/2025 08:39

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:23

No she will not be breaking the law. She can use whatever words or symbolic signage she would like on the toilet. She is not required to enforce the exclusion of trans women from the toilet labelled “women”. This was never required. It is not required now. The law has. Not. Changed.

It will be interesting to see how this develops. Because you are correct in as much as there is no law requiring pubs to provide single sex spaces. So the landlord is acting within the law if they decide to allow both women and men to use the same toilet. However there are laws about accurate advertising and representation of services, so it may not be permitted to continue to label the spaces as for women and men if they are in fact unisex, thereby misleading the public about what is being provided. I expect there will be cases coming up and we shall see.

powershowerforanhour · 25/04/2025 08:33

"Jeremy Vine has a trans woman friend and his discussion on this subject are always based in favour of trans people. He doesn’t want to cause offence to trans people but he doesn’t care about offence to women. "

I only listened to his show on the subject once and it was a few years ago. He had taken refuge in a faux-naive routine along the lines of "oh I have never heard of this whole debate at all at all, I didn't know it was a thing so I have no opinion and if I accidentally offend anyone I can be excused for not knowing, but I think we should all be kiiiind." Pretended not to grasp that there could be any conflict of rights at all. Which was a load of bollocks as working for the media he would have been well schooled in the party line and even if not, 5 minutes worth of research on google before he presented the show for which he is paid a lot of money would have told him that it was A Thing.

peanutbuttertoasty · 25/04/2025 08:22

You cannot have a unisex space for women that lets transwomen in and not other men, so your friend with the pub is wrong. Transwomen are men so their inclusion in the women’s is violating the single sex space, and not including other men is discriminatory.

peanutbuttertoasty · 25/04/2025 08:20

The law says that Transwomen are men, and if you let one man in you have to let them all in. It’s not that complicated to understand.

borntobequiet · 25/04/2025 08:13

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:12

If they do offer men's and women's, then they must be single sex. For biological women and biological men.

No. This is not the case. They can exclude trans women from women’s spaces if there is proportionate and reasonable justification. They are not required to do so. It is not illegal for trans women to use women’s toilets.

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But now, under the SC judgement, “women’s spaces” (as specified) are by definition, single sex spaces for people who are biologically female. So it is entirely proportionate and reasonable to exclude biological males if these spaces are advertised as for women (which was the case for an awfully long time, by social convention and good manners, until the recent nonsense that is gender identity took hold).
If transwomen were admitted, those spaces would become mixed sex spaces, and any man could enter.

It’s true that it’s not obligatory to offer single sex spaces, except in, for example, workplace environments where legislation says they must be provided. But if it’s stipulated that these spaces are for women, then transwomen, who are men, shouldn’t be using them.

commonsense61 · 25/04/2025 08:11

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5128gap · 25/04/2025 08:06

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:18

There is absolutely no way she will be excluding trans people from any toilet in her pub, and there's nothing anyone can do about that.

Exactly. It would be beyond unreasonable and impossible to enforce. Very few service providers are going to want to try to do this unless they have a very specific reason for needing to do so (or potentially because they share some of the ideological opinions of pp on this thread). It’s really important they are not made to understand that they are absolutely not required to enforce this in the way people are trying to promote. Simple that it’s an option if there is reasonable grounds, as has always been the case.

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If its beyond unreasonable to seperate toilets by sex, why do you think the vast majority of places throughout the world do so? And why do you imagine they will decide its beyond unreasonable to continue to do so ,just because the law has made it clear who belongs in which sex category?
Service providers will no doubt in the main continue to designate toilets for women and for men. If trans people decide to use the toilet not designated for them, obviously the landlord of the local can let them if they like, but problems may well occur if everyone else then decides to use whichever toilet THEY fancy, and the landlord tries to prevent them. Landlords who want to go this route are far better to simply designate their toilets unisex.
This will not be so straightforward in other venues where people don't get the choice to avoid if they don't like it. There is a good case for sex segregated toilets in public buildings we are obliged to use, schools, hospitals etc and if trans people are permitted to use the opposite sex one in those places, the provider is likely to be discriminating.

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:23

cardibach · 24/04/2025 17:47

Are you seriously arguing that having symbols for male and female instead of words means they aren’t designated as a single sex space?
Your friend will be breaking the law if she doesn’t make it clear the toilets are single sex spaces even though the word isn’t used and if she refuses to act if a customer brings a breach to her attention. The clarification of law clearly says that single sex spaces are for biological sex designations only.

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No she will not be breaking the law. She can use whatever words or symbolic signage she would like on the toilet. She is not required to enforce the exclusion of trans women from the toilet labelled “women”. This was never required. It is not required now. The law has. Not. Changed.

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:18

FruityCider · 24/04/2025 17:23

Most pubs I've been to don't say 'women' and 'men'. They have a little stick figure with a dress and one without a dress. PP are correct. The judgement does not mean that you have to exclude transwomen. It is still not illegal for trans people to enter facilities of their choosing, or for landlords etc to allow that to happen in their space. My friend owns a pub. There is absolutely no way she will be excluding trans people from any toilet in her pub, and there's nothing anyone can do about that.

There is absolutely no way she will be excluding trans people from any toilet in her pub, and there's nothing anyone can do about that.

Exactly. It would be beyond unreasonable and impossible to enforce. Very few service providers are going to want to try to do this unless they have a very specific reason for needing to do so (or potentially because they share some of the ideological opinions of pp on this thread). It’s really important they are not made to understand that they are absolutely not required to enforce this in the way people are trying to promote. Simple that it’s an option if there is reasonable grounds, as has always been the case.

Lostcat · 25/04/2025 07:12

SaveMeFromHumanity · 24/04/2025 17:30

I think you have read 'allowed' to mean it's optional.

It isn't.

No where is obliged to offer single sex spaces eg toilets.

If they do offer men's and women's, then they must be single sex. For biological women and biological men.

But they are not obliged to do so. If, for example, they choose to only have unisex toilets, that is fine. They cannot be forced to add additional male and female toilets on top of that.

It says 'allowed' because the message that has been sent out for far too long is that they weren't allowed. When they were all along.

If they do offer men's and women's, then they must be single sex. For biological women and biological men.

No. This is not the case. They can exclude trans women from women’s spaces if there is proportionate and reasonable justification. They are not required to do so. It is not illegal for trans women to use women’s toilets.

miraxxx · 25/04/2025 06:33

maddening · 24/04/2025 23:03

I assume as soon as you spoke it was clear you were a woman.

As a woman with pcos also I have not had these issues ever.

Usually even v masculine women are clearly women.

PP also claims that she has a deep voice. And her build is large. There is a concerted attempt to portray women with PCOS as sexually ambiguous.

miraxxx · 25/04/2025 06:11

The lovely bit in the faux outrage? I am one of those women who has never even had a pregnancy.