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My manager is making me come in the office 4days a week

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Lavendar01 · 23/04/2025 07:43

Since beginning of my role (which was coming out of covid), I've been hybrid working 3days in the office and 2days wfh. I had my own office but had to give it up for other staff that were in full time. Manger agreed for me to wfh and come in once a week - worked perfect!

In my recent supervision manager said he wants me in 4days a week "business need" and that there will be a room available to share with a couple of other staff. I've gone in and that room isn't set up, currently its dusty with extra office furniture/ equipment, basically being used storage room for now. I made a point to my manager and said could I continue wfh until the room is sorted, he refused and said to set up in that room somewhere in the corner for now.

AIBU here thinking I am within my right to refuse to be there until I have a proper work station set up, as required for my role? Not to mention sitting in an empty room for 8 hours with no interaction effects my mental wellbeing

OP posts:
RampantIvy · 23/04/2025 12:25

northernballer · 23/04/2025 09:55

I think a lot of places are moving to 4 days now as a lot of people royally took the piss, I know my place is nudging that way due to the fact you can't get hold of anyone after 3pm.

I agree. I know that it means that those of use who get more done at home get the short straw, but employers can't really have one rule for most and another rules for others. It just creates bad feeling in the workplace

Worksoutbetter · 23/04/2025 12:24

2chocolateoranges · 23/04/2025 07:55

What does your contract say?

a lot of these hybrid jobs were created due to covid and we are well passed that phase in our lives.

Considering the government want those with disabilities to get back to work then WFH needs to be very much an equal choice so we really aren’t past that phase !

aylis · 23/04/2025 12:18

Feeling sorry for employers 😅

They can't take the piss out of their workers to same extent. Every single person has the right to request flexible working. In many cases it's the same kind of flexible working the poor employers have enjoyed the entire time.

suah · 23/04/2025 12:15

SirRaymondClench · 23/04/2025 11:56

To be honest I just feel sorry for employers these days. Everyone looking for an excuse to not come into work. They need you in so sort your office space out and go to work.

If they want her there they need to provide a suitable space. Do you think she should bring her own computer if the employer is too disorganised to provide one? What about build the office herself if it’s not finished? It’s the employer’s responsibility, not the employee’s.

WitchesCauldron · 23/04/2025 12:09

Brocsacoille · 23/04/2025 10:03

I would start working to rule. Start bang on 9, leave at 5:30. Hour lunch break and don’t pick up anything outside of hours. If they aren’t prepared to give you flexibility then you don’t give them flexibility

She works for them, not the other way round.

JHound · 23/04/2025 12:08

SirRaymondClench · 23/04/2025 11:56

To be honest I just feel sorry for employers these days. Everyone looking for an excuse to not come into work. They need you in so sort your office space out and go to work.

Many employers also want to work from home. Why do you feel sorry for employers just because their staff prefer to do their work from home.

ksksn10 · 23/04/2025 12:07

Oh look it' the typical pile on on here where no-one reads what the op says and just projects their anger.

ksksn10 · 23/04/2025 12:04

I had this, no DSE and in a fucking room on my own all day. Made me realise you should not be too loyal to workplaces these days.

SirRaymondClench · 23/04/2025 12:00

No it's usually people who are sick of hearing kids crying, dogs barking or washing machines spinning on the phone while trying to sort out their insurance etc. Or staff not answering the phones.
It doesn't work for the customers.

SirRaymondClench · 23/04/2025 11:56

To be honest I just feel sorry for employers these days. Everyone looking for an excuse to not come into work. They need you in so sort your office space out and go to work.

Middlechild3 · 23/04/2025 11:54

Encouraging or mandating a return to the office isn't necessarily about presenteeism though. Until very recently I worked for a large organisation who has an almost Extreme flexible policy. It worked well initially in that they could recruit the cream who wouldn't necessarily relocate, retention of staff with family commitments possibly improved. But as a business the last 3 years ish has shown a huge issue with retention of new younger staff who working remotely get nothing from work except a salary. HQ is largely dead except for one day a week even if you do go in, most of the active staff clubs have died a death. The excellent graduate recruitment scheme which usually held onto most as they whizzed up the ranks now struggles to retain most of them after a year or 2 of the scheme ending. The business benefits of bringing staff back in may not be understood or immediately visible by an individual. I think hybrid is a good compromise. Visibility is important if someone wants to get on.

SnugReader · 23/04/2025 11:52

PlumRaspberryJam · 23/04/2025 11:22

OP, check your privilege. Nurses, doctors, paramedics, police, firefighters - all these and many more have to go into many ‘workplaces’ in less than ideal conditions. And so many do exceptional service (hats off to all of you!).

You don’t have a desk set up? Sort it out! Imagine one of the essential services such as a paramedic decided to wait for their bosses to set up perfect working conditions.

Apples and oranges.

You're talking about working conditions involved doing part of their job. Going into people's homes, dangerous situations. Not their offices.

Public sector workers are heavily unionised which is a good thing and complaints about working conditions in offices are frequently made and responded to.

Health and safety and manual handling policies are also in place.

JHound · 23/04/2025 11:52

Depends what your contractual arrangement is. If not in breach you may choose to refuse but face a disciplinary.

Personally if I was asked to go into the office more frequently I would look for a new job.

Newbutoldfather · 23/04/2025 11:49

The devil is in the detail here.

What is the role? Would it improve staff morale were you in the office more?

As for the room, I would ask for someone to give me the time and help and set it up nicely for myself.

I think ‘mental health’ is a weak card to play here. If you are doing a solitary role, you can’t demand company. Also, presumably, the reason they want you in the office is to interact with people at least some of the time? Otherwise, why would they ask you to be there?

With work, leaving is always an option. If you need the job more than they need you, they have the upper hand. Even if they aren’t going strictly by the book, severance pay is rarely as high as people expect.

aylis · 23/04/2025 11:44

Nurses, doctors, paramedics, police, firefighters

All entitled to request flexible working.

Mondayblues2 · 23/04/2025 11:43

OP, check your privilege. Nurses, doctors, paramedics, police, firefighters - all these and many more have to go into many ‘workplaces’ in less than ideal conditions. And so many do exceptional service (hats off to all of you!).

For heaven's sake @PlumRaspberryJam we all know that some jobs can't be done at home, and are carried out in challenging environments. But this isn't the case for the OP

ALJT · 23/04/2025 11:42

I agree with you. I WFH 3 days a week and although I am on my own, I have my home comforts. The office alone is different - but all the office people won’t understand and just think because we WFH we should be in the office… even though times have changed. I couldn’t work full time if I didn’t have the WFH option 3 days a week as my office is an hour away and I have 2 kids to pick up from school, both parents have died so no support… and I love working full time which WFH enables me to do

MzHz · 23/04/2025 11:31

LastRoIo · 23/04/2025 09:09

We are only wanted in the workplaces because there is less being spent on public transport, in coffee shops/food vans, on all the things we are blamed for eating.

Well, that and all the research showing that people are much less productive at home.

I believe that initial studies showed that people were slightly more productive when wfh over lockdown but it's now completely reversed.

Says who?

Some of us have offices in the city that we can't even do our job in - yet they insist we attend - there is no benefit to the business, nor to me just to show face.

SP2024 · 23/04/2025 11:29

Guinessandafire · 23/04/2025 10:44

That just shows a complete lack of trust in your staff though, and values presenteeism over productivity.

I could sit at my laptop reading this flipping site all day and be 'present'

WFH / Hybrid should give the opportunity to do the school run and make time up later, maybe have a 30 mins lunch instead of an hour, or work an hour later.

I'd have something to say about ' registration' meetings as well. It's such lazy management - if they suspect poor performance they should address it properly.

Yes, but surely only with the line managers permission? I wouldn’t dream of popping out to do the school run during working hours without my manager knowing and Oking it. And I’m fairly senior, would always make up time etc. but it’s work time!

RedSkyDelights · 23/04/2025 11:29

Mondayblues2 · 23/04/2025 11:21

As usual I am surprised by how many people are so negative about WFH and as usual I assume it is people who resent not having the opportunity to WFH themselves or crap managers who want everyone on site for an ego boost...

Definitely!!!

I have the option to wfh and choose not to.
Because I can see that whilst it might be great for the individual it is not great for the business in many respects.

I think it's a huge worry that OP works for a company where she apparently has no interactions with any of her colleagues - how does anyone know what she does? How is it covered while she is on holiday or sick? How does she share her knowledge and experience with other colleagues? How do they share their experience with her? There are very few roles where it is not at all beneficial to have at least half an idea what is going on beyond your own personal bubble.
What's it like for new colleagues? Or inexperienced ones? or ones that fancy being promoted?

Yes, all these things can be managed while wfh, but it takes more time and effort to set this up. It takes longer for me to arrange a Teams call with a colleague and for us to screen share, than just to walk over to their desk and ask them to show me something. If I don't want to interact with my colleagues (even if it's necessary for them to do their job) then I can largely ignore them if I wfh.

Greenartywitch · 23/04/2025 11:28

'@WitchesofPainswick · Today 10:22

Gosh, those of you objecting to dusting and setting up your own workspace have clearly never worked in the charity sector...'

I have worked in the charity sector for over 20 years and I have never been asked to set up my own workspace.

Charities like any employers are required to follow employment law and make sure people have correct DSE in place and work in safe and appropriate office environments.

CosyLemur · 23/04/2025 11:28

Unbeleevable · 23/04/2025 07:52

Personally I’d buy a couple of plants, take in a duster and just get on with it. Job hunt if you like.

I would also make sure all my dental appointments, medical appointments etc land on the extra day I’m in the office. And say to boss “I will need to leave at x because I have a dental checkup/smear test/contraceptive review at 2pm sorry only appointment I could get.”

That will help remind manager there’s a big advantage of wfh for employee flexibility and employee productivity.

You mean prove that the reason most offices are stopping people doing WFM is true - people slack off!

CautiousLurker01 · 23/04/2025 11:25

CautiousLurker01 · 23/04/2025 08:31

My DH’s husband is about to announce everyone back in the office 80% from X date too. DH not bothered as he does that already (was trying to role model it to colleagues and those reporting into him), but is very concerned he will lose talented reportees if this is implemented with a sledgehammer.

I do think people were naive if employed on a office based contract pre covid to not anticipate a ‘return to normal’ eventually, but I think many companies should have done t immediately rather than allow this to continue for so many years - during which time employees have assumed it was permanent - and then suddenly change the rules.

Obvs meant to say my DH’s company!!! He doesn’t have a husband on the side to my knowledge… 🤣

PlumRaspberryJam · 23/04/2025 11:22

OP, check your privilege. Nurses, doctors, paramedics, police, firefighters - all these and many more have to go into many ‘workplaces’ in less than ideal conditions. And so many do exceptional service (hats off to all of you!).

You don’t have a desk set up? Sort it out! Imagine one of the essential services such as a paramedic decided to wait for their bosses to set up perfect working conditions.

Mondayblues2 · 23/04/2025 11:21

As usual I am surprised by how many people are so negative about WFH and as usual I assume it is people who resent not having the opportunity to WFH themselves or crap managers who want everyone on site for an ego boost...

Definitely!!!

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