To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

Interesting.

How embarrassing and awkward for your friend. It probably won’t happen again, she’s probably tired of having to subsidise you if you always need the better facilities.
Airbnb includes a hefty cleaning fee. I wouldn’t leave the place in a mess, but I don’t clean on leaving, just like I wouldn’t in a hotel. My rating is fine, never even thought about it as I am respectful of the property.

Hopefully the replies on here has been a wake up call and will encourage you to be a better friend.

Yes your behaviour was unpleasant and controlling. You sound very boring / OCD about cleaning the ABnB. I expect she is thinking why the hell do I pay to go away with someone who belittles me like this??

My daughter is another one who is always concerned about her Airbnb reviews, and she's very conscientious about cleaning at the end. But even she wouldn't tell me which toilet I can use or check it out after I've been.

But I don’t understand, why would your friend leave the toilet dirty? It’s period blood- she could flush/wipe. How could one visit to the loo be so life changing? What you were saying to your friend was that she was not capable of cleaning up after herself. No wonder she took offence!

Yes you are. Completely ridiculous. Surprised she even did as she said.

Sorry, but regarding the toilet I’d be ‘off’ with you too and I think the least you owe her is an apology and an acknowledgement to yourself that you’d handle it differently next time.

re: the hard time you’re getting over the bedroom situation and cost, I think that’s unfair. You both had an agreement that you were happy with and I think that is irrelevant to the question you originally asked.

I have been your friend in this situation who always paid half for accommodation of my friend’s choosing where I always got the second best room. I wouldn’t go away with you again if I were your friend even if you did apologise for your behaviour. I hope she cools the friendship and finds nicer friends to go away with. I wouldn’t book somewhere where the other room was a sofa bed in any circumstances.

You told her she had to flush it a couple of times?? You sound over the top and need to learn to relax. You treated your friend like a child.

You were wildly unreasonable.

Airbnb charge cleaning fees? Why the fuck are you leaving the place spotless? Neat and tidy yes, obsessively cleaning and checking. No babe.

YABU. Nothing more to say that hasn't already been said. If you had voting turned on, I can't see how anyone would have voted on your side.

You were very unreasonable. PP have covered all the points I wanted to make but am commenting as you seem to think what you did was acceptable, it wasn't.

Yes you are unreasonable you treated her like your child . She should not have to justify her toileting needs to you. I’d have told you to F off. But saying that if a full house clean was part of my weekend away I wouldn’t be going.

I’ve always left houses in a reasonable state (without doing a full clean) and I have a 5* rating on air bnb.

if you were my friend unless you gave a very sincere apology I would step back from the friendship.

Unless there is a drip feed about her being particularly unhygienic coming, it sounds like you were overly controlling in this situation. There is no reason you couldn’t say to another adult ‘the toilet upstairs doesn’t work much better, but whichever you use, can you just give it a quick clean and make sure everything is in place, host ratings of guests can be a bit brutal’.

While you're focusing on the toilet, I'm more appalled by the fact that you picked an Airbnb that did not allow your friend a proper bed.

And then didn't even offer straight off the bat to pay more.

YABU. Previous posts have explained why. I’m just adding to the comments.

You acted like the bossy mother of a small child. Not surprised your friend was annoyed. Treating folk like that isn't really on.

I get the anxiety over the Airbnb rating. I have that too after a crazy host left me a bad rating for the first time.. I don’t use Airbnb anymore for this reason.
however I think you were a bit OTT with your friend who had been very nice and accommodating with giving you the better room for the same price and you could probably just ring her up and apologise

V unreasonable.

She wanted to use the toilet that flushed properly, so she could ensure she left the bathroom clean. Periods aren't dirty when you have a working toilet, what did you think she was going to do? Bleed all over the floor?

Maybe I missed it, but wouldn't you have had to clean both toilets when leaving? Whichever one she used would have had to be cleaned again so your excuse about why she couldn't use "your" toilet is illogical.

That.
You were insinuating that your friend would not leave the lavatory clean.

Storm in a teacup. You overreacted to her using "your" toilet.

Next time you see her, a simple apology - "Sorry love, I was a bit of a toilet nazi on our last outing, wasn't I?" - and you'll both be laughing about it in no time.

Yeah you were unreasonable, very controlling and treating her like she's messy? I see why she's upset. She probably won't want to go anywhere with you again.

This!

yes op v unreasonable!