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To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

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userfriendly55 · 22/04/2025 22:24

The weekend before last my friend and I went to London to see a show and have a bit of a girly weekend, we do this quite often. I have an airbnb account, she doesn’t, so I usually book an airbnb (after consulting with her) and she pays me half.

I am quite fastidious with cleaning them as I don’t want to lose my rating, so we always make sure the place is spotless before we leave.

The place we stayed in was a 1 bedroom maisonette but spread over 2 floors. We agreed I would have the bedroom as I have a chronic health condition. She slept downstairs on the sofa bed. There was an upstairs bathroom and downstairs toilet. All happy with this when we booked.

We were getting ready to leave on the Sunday and we had all cleaned up. Literally about to go out the door. My friend said she needed to use the toilet before we left and went to go upstairs. I asked her why she was going upstairs, and she said the downstairs toilet wasn’t flushing properly, and she was on her period. I told her not to go upstairs because I had just checked/cleaned the bathroom upstairs and didn’t want to have to do it again. She got annoyed and we had a bit of a discussion before she conceded and used the downstairs toilet after I told her that she’d have to flush it a couple of times.

We left and all was fine but she has been a bit off with me since in our conversations. We had a good time and haven’t argued about anything else this is the only thing that there was an issue about. So it must be the toilet thing that she is cross about ?

Was I unreasonable??

OP posts:
BumbleBeegu · 22/04/2025 22:28

Extremely!! Actually can’t believe you policed which toilet she could use!! You need to apologise!! 🤯

Gemmawemma9 · 22/04/2025 22:28

Yes you were being controlling and weird. I would be insulted if you assumed I’d leave the toilet messy. Telling her she will have to use the downstairs one and flush a few times…you’re not her mum??

BabyOrca · 22/04/2025 22:28

If you're this uptight why don't you just stick to hotels

SassiestPants · 22/04/2025 22:27

I think you were. It's not up to you to dictate what toilet she used. She had her reasons, and despite it being none of your business, she had to justify why she intended to use the upstairs. It comes off controlling.

Dartmoorcheffy · 22/04/2025 22:27

Yes you were unreasonable. You could have just asked her to make sure she left it tidy.

BreakingGood48 · 22/04/2025 22:26

Yep you were being weird and unreasonable.

princessconsuelobananahammock · 22/04/2025 22:26

Yep

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