To think my friend overreacted? Air BNB situation

We went away with a group of pals to a large ‘luxury’ cottage for the weekend. We were doing the cursory wipe over / bed strip - I always take those toilet fizz things. My friends husband had a shit in a newly ‘fizzed’ loo that took 3 kettles and some loo brush action to dismantle it so it’d flush’s I was furious. I’d also not be happy if I was sleeping on a Setee while the princess took the bed and then didn’t let me deal with my period how I saw fit. Yabu on balance.

You owe your friend an apology, and next time, if you have better facilities, you should pay more.

Absolutely mortified for you OP.

No, because I’m a normal adult who can use a toilet without smearing it in blood and excrement.

In the unlikely event there was anything visibly marking the toilet bowl, I’d use the loo brush provided to get rid of it immediately after using it, exactly as I would in my own house. But that’s all I’d do.

I don’t think I’ve ever been ill in an Airbnb so ‘the shits’ has never been an issue. And presumably wasn’t an issue for your friend, so it’s a moot point anyway.

Your friend paid you half, slept on a sofa so you could have the bed and in return you acted controlling and said she wasn't allowed to use the bathroom upstairs all the while the woman is on her period and can't flush the downstairs toilet
Oh my days

Agree. I wouldn't be happy about paying half in this situation.

i can’t believe you’re still trying to justify yourself!!!!! Your friend paid half - she’s entitled to use whatever loo ( or facilities) she wants! You are unbelievably controlling. Stop digging and eat humble pie.

You sound like an utter loon.

Do you always get the better deal with accommodation when you go away together? Has it ever occurred to you to offer to pay more than 50% because you get a proper bedroom and she doesn’t?

So….reinforcing the original point - why did you care which one she used? It’s baffling. Do you not trust your friend to leave the toilet in a respectable state? Because that’s the inference, and it’s incredibly insulting so of course she’s pissed at you

If I had the shits I would to prevent anyone catching it.

If I had my period I would only clean up any mess that might result from that - which is usually nothing.

Why are you equating periods with 'the shits', why do you think menstruating is something dirty?

It didn’t matter what one she used, you or her would maybe have to spray some cleaner in afterwards and dry the sink after handwashing. It literally didn’t matter where she went. You were totally out of order to stop her and then question her. You basically said you didn’t trust her to use the bathroom in an hygienic manner or clean up after herself. It was just so unnecessary and I’d be off with you as well. Cannot be bothered with friends who treat friends as if they can’t be trusted to use a toilet. What’s wrong with you?

I can’t believe someone would be so vile and controlling to someone that is supposed to be a friend. Its also creepy to control where someone goes to the toilet, she was probably aware you were going to stand outside and listen to her like some creepy perv.

I would clean it if there were visible signs of blood/shit.
The weird thing here is your assumption that your friend would leave visible signs of having been to the toilet without cleaning it herself. Pretty insulting.

She was kind enough to let you have the private bedroom while she slept on the sofa in a shared space.
The downstairs loo didn’t work properly, but she put up with it.
She paid half for a less comfortable stay,
You then proceeded to police where she uses the bathroom when she’s on her period.
YABVVU

I don't think you'll have this problem going forward. You will have all the toilets to yourself and can clean them as often as you wish because I doubt she'll go anywhere with you again. You were controlling, weird and very very unreasonable.

Agreed. My partner and I both have perfect ratings and excellent reviews as Airbnb guests and we’ve never cleaned a bathroom before leaving. We tidy up, make sure any dishes are clean and put away and give the kitchen worktops a wipe. That’s it. Airbnbs get cleaned after each guest anyway. If you’re cleaning the loo, it’s a waste of time because the owner or their cleaner will be cleaning the property anyway.

Totally unreasonable. I cannot imagine she will want to holiday with you again - I certainly wouldn’t if I was her

I can’t believe that you can’t see how unreasonable (and offensive) you were.

Even after everyone has told you, you’re still defending your actions.

Whilst it’s common courtesy to leave a clean home, you don’t clean a loo after every use and the owners would clean between guests as well.

Also this. You just didn’t want her using ‘your’ toilet did you?!

I hope your friend realises how unreasonable you were and refuses to on a “ girly trip” with you ever again.
How can you care so much about your Airbnb rating and so little for your actual friend’s comfort and dignity.

She’s paying you half - she’s entitled to use any toilet she wants. If you are truly this anal, don’t take it out on her - check it on the sly after she’s finished if you REALLY have to (totally unnecessary)

especially if she was on her period - she probably assumed you couldn’t trust her not to make a mess which for a grown woman is fucking insulting.